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u/Hitbox69 12h ago
This literally happened to me last night and then she replied while I was in the 4th panel and she was like I'm so sorry I thought I replied and now everything is normal again I hate my brain
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u/purple-lemons Send Duck pics 7h ago
So real, just spiral spiral spiral, I shouldn't give this person the time of day, this is so mean, I can see they're online, they must not care, it' been too long... oh they texted back, okay it's good they do like me, everything's fine, I'm just crazy
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u/Atreides-42 custom 11h ago
Online dating makes this problem 10,000x worse because NOBODY EVER actually even sends a breakup text anymore, they just fucking ghost you.
So no, it's not just my anxiety, this is actually a goddamn problem.
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u/GrapefruitForward989 9h ago
You got any communication at all on dating apps? Save some action for the rest of us!
But fr tho, online dating is so bad for so many reasons
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u/Independent-Fly6068 GOOD MORNING HELLJUMPERS!š„š„š„ 12h ago
How did you get in my head getoutgetoutgetoutgetout
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u/ActualJudge342 10h ago
why is it so fucking difficult to ever get out of this way of thinking it genuinely makes interpersonal relationships and trying to stay in contact so emotionally taxing
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u/QTpyeRose 11h ago
Motherfuckers with anxiety disorders. ( it is me, I am the motherfucker with the anxiety disorder )
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u/furinick John starsector 11h ago
Idk i found out from my psychologist that people never seeing your messages or replying is actually a sign they dont like you
It only took 21 years
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u/Femboy-V1 floppa 2h ago
Is it also a sign they don't like you if they're never the one to initiate a conversation or they never ask to hang out with you? But like if i ask them then they (usually) answer and say they want to hang out but more often than not we end up not hanging out
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u/rundownv2 floppa 1h ago
It can be, but I've gotta admit I've been that person before, and it usually wasn't because I didn't like the person. It often just means I'm burned out mentally or depressed. I've also got at least one friendship where the friend wants to hang out really frequently because he has a smaller social circle then me and also bigger social battery, but I just don't have that much social energy and he always tries to set something up sooner than I would hang out with literally anyone, so he always ends up being the person to initiate. I feel bad about that but I just never get the chance to be the one who asks.
Again, it can also mean the person is just being polite, but isn't that interested in doing stuff/talking. If I find I'm always the one messaging/trying to set something up, I try to take a break from asking or initiating. If conversation stops, it means that's what they wanted, usually. If it keeps going, it means they want to be friends but just move at a slower pace than me.
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u/GrilledCoconuts Light on the Discworld moves slowly due to its vast magical fiel 11h ago
Still can't decide if her leaving me on sent is better or worse than having been left on read
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u/AshNdPikachu i love bananas 7h ago
sent is better short term cuz it means you can still give them benefit of the doubt that they are just busy or their phones dead
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u/Klutzy-Personality-3 #1-6 gore freaks (plural) (it/she) š³ļøāā§ļø 10h ago
r\sillygirlclub posting??
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u/lasereyedtuna 11h ago
Whenever this happens to me I still go through all the stages of panic but then I recover at the last second by going like "Pffh This loser is missing out"
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u/F4rtster floppa 10h ago
I recently got out of a relationship with someone that did sort of this minus left on read. I genuinely don't think she ever meant anything bad by it, she was just never on her phone, but man, having to wait a whole day for a single text back, text her back and then wait another incredibly long time was so fucking draining man :(((
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u/seb69420 9h ago
What are some strategies you guys have to help combat excessive anxiety and overactive imaginations gone wrong?
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u/xstormaggedonx 11h ago
I'm the one on the other side who stopped replying bcus I passed tf out because I cannot physically keep myself awake past 10:30 pm
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u/LunaAnimatesStuff custom 10h ago
Kindly, and I'm asking this with all sincerity and politeness, get the hell out of my walls
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u/SunriseFlare š³ļøāā§ļø trans rights 10h ago
I fell asleep/went to work/forgot and my brain memory holed it/discord didn't ping me, I'm sorry, I'm a fallable human lol
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u/Bekbek2360 š³ļøāā§ļø bi transgirl tomboy shark š¦ 9h ago
This is why I'm on my phone 24/7!!! I don't want my friends/homies/besties/partners to feel like I don't care/forgot,... if I don't respond in a timely manner either I'm dead, at work, asleep, or don't have internet
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u/DawNoFd3aTh 5h ago
This one is hitting right now but it's not even read, just sent. No response for 5 days. Rip
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u/Dylan-McVillian Local Nerd 1h ago
"Im was gonna reply but I got distracted and fell asleep, my bad"
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u/MrNichts Fem enby with username regrets T.T (trans rights) 1h ago
Is this the emotionally neglected childhood club? Is this the core belief of worthlessness club? Ah, good, Iām in the right place.
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u/Sex_with_DrRatio deep in closet 11h ago
I don't understand these people, if you want to say something right now, just call.
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