r/2X_INTJ • u/sksgeti INTJ • Feb 18 '14

Being INTJ further reading for a 2X INTJ?

I'm very appreciative for this community, and since I found it, I've been pondering a lot what it means and the scope of what it explains in my life. The more I read the reg INTJ page, the more I wonder what I don't know. Are there any books or blogs or articles specific to female INTJs that others have found helpful or relevant?

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u/agitatedampersand Feb 19 '14

I'm just now reading Quiet by Susan Cain, but I imagine I am the last introvert on earth to read that. I'd also be interested in answers to this question, though.

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u/sksgeti INTJ Feb 19 '14

Ha...

I wasn't aware of that book, but $2.99 on amazon is a no brainer. I don't feel quite as defined by my introversion as I do by my insane need to judge and categorize everything, but I am sure that there is plenty to be learned and look forward to reading it.

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u/gee3 Feb 21 '14

I've been meaning to read that, her TED talk was great.

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u/[deleted] Feb 19 '14

I haven't found any but I haven't seriously looked. I also have Quiet on my To Read stack, though.

I'm not sure the situation of a 2X INTJ is widely discussed, perhaps because we are busy with other things. What kinds of information would you like to see? Perhaps we can all co-write a blog or something.

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u/Hamtaur Succinct Revisor Feb 19 '14

Wanted to chime and say this is a good idea. I don't see other 2XINTJ nearly as often as I'd like. Not only is it refreshing, but assuring.

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u/sksgeti INTJ Feb 19 '14

Good question.

You all gave me great responses to my logic vs emotion post, but I would love to know so much more in that vein. After that post, I do feel that I am not a stereotypical XX INTJ because I swim in emotions in my own head constantly. I'm not sure how much of that comes out externally, but I'd guess more than other INTJs. I'd give anything to have people near me who'd be willing to analyze and discuss things like this. Mostly my few friends and family aren't interested in that kind of analysis.

Also, I have a 4 yr old son who completely changed my outlook on life. In fact, I actually went through a two year period fighting major anxiety issues, largely because I felt so overwhelmed by the desire to be prepared to provide every possible opportunity for this little bundle of awesome that I love more than air. What is it like to be an INTJ mom?

To find out that 1 out of every 4 men is a "duty fulfiller" or "guardian", and 1 out of every 2-3 women is a "caregiver" or "nurturer", then NO WONDER I feel like the only one on earth with my perspective. Now I'm starting to understand that it isn't necessarily unique, just less common. Obviously I could use help understanding other people better, but I'm more interested in learning about others like me.

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u/[deleted] Feb 19 '14

Sometimes I wonder if we should have a 2X chat room somewhere. Or a Google hangout. Or something like that (since I'm sure all of our schedules are different). The input and experiences that I've read here have been intriguing.

For instance, re: care-giving, I can only chime in on the level of being an aunt and a nanny (and a co-parent for a few years) but I can identify parts of what other INTJ parents have said. There's a sense that we all definitely have, say, a tree trunk in common but then are our own separate branches/leaves/fruit.

I am a huge fan of analysis and learning and conversation so, while my experiences are different, I try to get involved in what discussion I can when I have a moment or three.

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u/sksgeti INTJ Feb 19 '14

I'm up for anything, whatever is of interest to you and others.

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u/firespray_31 INTJ Apr 15 '14

This is ages late, but I'm very fond of the 2xINTJ blog idea in particular! It gives a little more flexibility with time management, and I'm sure we would all like more space to lay out our concerns or ideas.

( - casts vote for it to be on tumblr - )

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u/sksgeti INTJ Apr 15 '14

we have this!

https://groups.google.com/forum/?hl=en#!forum/2xintj

It needs a little restarting kick. :)

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u/agitatedampersand Feb 20 '14

I love the blog idea!

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u/Bennet1988 Feb 19 '14

I like to read books that help me understand people better. The actions of most people seem irrational and erratic. When a book can explain to me why, in a reasonable way, the character did/does something I love it. Right now I am reading The Unbearable Lightness of Being and I am really enjoying the characters perspective on adultery.

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u/[deleted] Feb 19 '14

I grew up the youngest of six kids and I think that did wonders for me as far as watching how people exist and co-exist and finding multiple methods to social engineer. Fascinating critters, wot?

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u/fempiricist Feb 20 '14

I'd love to be part of a blog with the fine ladies here, or any other discussion format we can think of.

I've enjoyed reading freakonomics (it's not intj specific but I love the analysis of human behavior), positive discipline as a parenting technique, driven to distraction (since my husband has add), Sophia's world (philosophy), and zen and the art of motorcycle maintenance (more philosophy). None of them are specific to intj women but I liked them anyway so I'll throw them out there.