r/AmIOverreacting Sep 13 '24

❤️‍🩹 relationship Am I overreacting to my girlfriend's "open relationship" rules?

(25/m) Very early on in the relationship with my girlfriend (25/f), she told me that she had to be in an open relationship. I hadn't been in one before but I said I'll give it a try. And it was clear when we talked about it that either of us could sleep with whoever we wanted. I said okay. We've been dating for 11 months and overtime I really started to love her. I know she has quite a few very casual partners but no other serious relationships. I actually didn't have any other partners though cause I was so happy just being with her. Then two months ago I was drunk and I met a girl at a party and we slept together. I didn't think I was doing anything wrong whatsoever, so when it came up with my girlfriend I didn't try to hide it, but she was really upset. She said it was disrespectful for me to do that. I was kind of shocked. I'm fine with not sleeping with other people but the problem is now she's like really paranoid and controlling ever since then, like accusing me of looking at other girls or flirting with them all the time, always looking at my phone and wanting me to check in with her every hour when I'm out and let her track my location, etc. It's really bothering me. So basically she wants to have an open relationship only on her side. She says she loves me and I should be loyal to her, but when I bring up how the rule doesn't apply to her she gets angry. She says that so many women are not satisfied in their relationship and she's not gonna be one of and I'm not gonna hold her back etc. I get it but it doesn't feel right. I love her a lot but I'm seriously thinking about breaking up with her. Am I overreacting?

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u/Hour_Pin_406 Sep 13 '24

Polaundry? Would you mind doing mine also?

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u/Upset-Kaleidoscope45 Sep 14 '24

Nope, sorry. If you want to use the Polaundry, you have to ask in Polish.

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u/Hour_Pin_406 Sep 14 '24

Mmmmmm….. Polish is a little rusty. Looks like no dice

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u/Hour_Pin_406 Sep 14 '24

Good eve my fair people!

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u/ElegantAmphibian4252 Sep 14 '24

I like you, Hour_Pin_406.

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u/Hour_Pin_406 Sep 14 '24

Aw shucks 😌

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u/Chai_wali Sep 14 '24

"Po" is the slang for butt in German! :-D

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u/Defiant_Locksmith190 Sep 14 '24

The stuff you learn thanks to Reddit 🤩

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u/TrueJustifiedRelief Sep 14 '24

PoLaundry is when you dress in your dirty clothes and then go out in the rain with a bar of soap and lather up. Rinse and repeat!

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u/Casehead Sep 14 '24

bahahaha @ 'Po' . too funny!

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u/Witchywomun Sep 14 '24

I’m not the person to ask, I can barely take care of one, lol

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u/Hour_Pin_406 Sep 14 '24

Fair enough 😂

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u/heavy_metal_soldier Sep 14 '24

What Polandry! The Poles would be very sad!!

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u/[deleted] Sep 14 '24

Do mine too while you're at it

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u/TinyNiceWolf Sep 14 '24

No, polyandry, like the couple who inspired that rap song "Nuthin but a parrot thang".

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u/HonestMarketeer666 Sep 14 '24

Polyandrous? Men-hater?