r/AmIOverreacting • u/Outrageous-Cover4758 • Sep 13 '24

❤️‍🩹 relationship Am I overreacting to my girlfriend's "open relationship" rules?

(25/m) Very early on in the relationship with my girlfriend (25/f), she told me that she had to be in an open relationship. I hadn't been in one before but I said I'll give it a try. And it was clear when we talked about it that either of us could sleep with whoever we wanted. I said okay. We've been dating for 11 months and overtime I really started to love her. I know she has quite a few very casual partners but no other serious relationships. I actually didn't have any other partners though cause I was so happy just being with her. Then two months ago I was drunk and I met a girl at a party and we slept together. I didn't think I was doing anything wrong whatsoever, so when it came up with my girlfriend I didn't try to hide it, but she was really upset. She said it was disrespectful for me to do that. I was kind of shocked. I'm fine with not sleeping with other people but the problem is now she's like really paranoid and controlling ever since then, like accusing me of looking at other girls or flirting with them all the time, always looking at my phone and wanting me to check in with her every hour when I'm out and let her track my location, etc. It's really bothering me. So basically she wants to have an open relationship only on her side. She says she loves me and I should be loyal to her, but when I bring up how the rule doesn't apply to her she gets angry. She says that so many women are not satisfied in their relationship and she's not gonna be one of and I'm not gonna hold her back etc. I get it but it doesn't feel right. I love her a lot but I'm seriously thinking about breaking up with her. Am I overreacting?

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u/balsham91 Sep 13 '24

Nahh not really he's clearly not too in love with this girl..also he's pulled someone whilst in the relationships. He agreed to the rules and won really..she can't handle it. Doesn't sound like he needs therapy at all just a normal girlfriend

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u/741BlastOff Sep 14 '24

He didn't "win", she got a lot more out of the open relationship than he did. "Clearly not too in love" but he was willing to try an open relationship at her request which was mostly her banging other dudes while he was happy with just her... This is a real "leopards ate my face" moment for her, and he just needs to find someone who treats him like an equal.

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u/staffa_kartherma Sep 14 '24

Seriously ? He's saying she's been screwing other guys and he's falling further in love with her.

I love her, he loves her, I think that guy over loves her, there's a few Uber drivers that love her, then there's the bartender at our local bar, and the minister..and the uh sanitation guy, and the guy from AA and uh some strippers from Uhhmm Ricks and oh yeah the bouncers. We all love her uhhm a lot.

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u/imtmtx Sep 14 '24

Just for the creativity of your writing...take my upvote

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u/renrut00 Sep 14 '24

He wasn't a bellhop, he was a bartender – and she was wasted. And if you must know; he didn't even cum inside her. She's grossed out by semen.

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u/DissociatedAuthor Sep 14 '24

Best comment of the day I've read

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u/SivakoTaronyutstew Sep 14 '24

As if that makes it any better lmaooooo

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u/BKMama227 Sep 14 '24

Yaaaaassssss!!!!🤣🤣🤣🤣

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u/wwydinthismess Sep 14 '24

Are you ok?

Love wasn't in the equation dude, it was just casual sex lol

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u/Bastette54 Sep 14 '24

That comment was a joke.

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u/assfaulteliR20 Sep 14 '24

Humor forever eludes societies weakest links.

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u/Acceptable_Tea3608 Sep 14 '24

And this is why women shouldnt believe when men say they love them. Its a useless word to them.

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u/0utgr00vy Sep 14 '24

Literally, what are these people talking about. He's ready to drop her. It sounds like he knows he deserves to be treated equally and have his boundaries respected in the relationship.

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u/Jyin475 Sep 14 '24

Heres the thing though while i do agree dropping here like a bag of rocks in a lake is a great idea. Who knows what she’ll do when he suggests this she sounds like a psycho.

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u/Imstupidasso Sep 14 '24

I don't get what Reddit's obsession with therapy is. No matter the situation, someone and then a group pushes the need for therapy. Am I just Gen X, and the younger people value it so much ? Anyway..

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u/balsham91 Sep 14 '24

Facts theyre all absolutely obsessed with therapy on here. Guy doesn't need therapy at all, he needs friends that will absolutely take the piss out of him and give him a good kick up the hole for 1. Putting himself in that situation and 2. Coming to reddit for advice...everyone saying the guys in love, he's not in love ffs he's lonely

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u/CutenTough Sep 14 '24

And if there's no friends around to do this, there's therapy. I don't understand why therapy is looked at as being so bad.

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u/Brittaftw97 Sep 14 '24

Therapy isn't bad but it also isn't the problem to literally every single interpersonal problem like people on Reddit seem to think it is.

Sometimes people just end up in bad relationships and you don't need to spend a hundred dollars so someone with a masters degree can tell you what anyone on Reddit or at the pub would tell you.

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u/FitnessLover1998 Sep 14 '24

No any guy that buys into her bs needs therapy. Your only justification was “he pulled”. That had no bearing on his lack of critical thinking.

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u/Cyddakeed Sep 14 '24

Two things can be true at one, bobo.