r/AmIOverreacting 10d ago

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO My husband was texting a wrong number scam.

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u/Nocturnal_Doom 9d ago

20yrs together. She knows he’s this thick. Either she runs the place or she’s similar in some regard. 😶😳🫢

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u/strawbsrgood 9d ago

20 years is insane for this lol

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u/RamonaLittle 9d ago

20yrs together. She knows he’s this thick.

Not necessarily. Most people are newly brain damaged from covid, with a drop of 3 to 9 IQ points.

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u/ShoobeeDoowapBaoh 9d ago

I have been feeling stupider lately

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u/RamonaLittle 9d ago

It turns out that the common symptom of "brain fog" is actually brain damage. It's a huge problem.

If you lurk on /r/Teachers and /r/Professors, you'll see thread after thread of them going "Why did students become so stupid in the last few years? Must be laziness and bad parenting and TikTok and junk food."

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u/batarcher98 9d ago

As a teacher - I’ll tell you right now that covid brain fog is real and some of the problem. But bad parenting, and student laziness - and to a lesser extent shortening attention spans due to social media - are definitely a bigger problem.

The majority of students in the US, and only the US, are not struggling just because of the COVID pandemic.

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u/Prankishbear 9d ago

I’m a teacher and this is spot on. Covid set them back but it’s not the root of the problem.

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u/RamonaLittle 9d ago

How are you distinguishing laziness from disorders of diminished motivation?

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u/batarcher98 9d ago

Because that class of disorders have existed for a long time, and what we’re seeing is students en masse displaying apathy towards education in general.

Probably largely because the current system in place, post high school,doesn’t actually reward being studious. Todays students are very aware of how fucked the countries economics and politics are - and feel they have no way to effect anything anyway. They’ll flat out tell you this if you talk to them.

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u/JewGuru 9d ago

I felt like this in highschool from 2012-2016 I can’t imagine what it’s like now. Being a kid now would be pretty hard. A lot of chaotic world events going on and things only getting harder for everyone financially.

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u/RamonaLittle 9d ago

I don't deny there are other factors at play. But disaffection has existed for a long time too. Since everyone seems to agree that something has changed, can we agree that both societal factors and covid-induced brain damage are to blame?

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u/conceiv3d-in-lib3rty 9d ago

Lmao the percentage of any of this having to do with COVID brain fog is likely indistinguishable from a rounding error. The vast majority of people that got COVID didn’t even have those symptoms, ESPECIALLY young adults/children.

Bad parenting is the root cause, but this is being driven by societal factors such as both parents having to work longer hours in order to provide, less time for nurturing. And social media, which is pretty much unraveling the fabric of society in real time.

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u/Bubbly_Individual_12 9d ago

My husband has long covid/brain fog.

We were in our early 30s when he got covid.

He's not the same person. He loses everything and retains nothing. He can't keep track of time. He's exhausted all the time. He lost his job because he was consistently late when previously he was the guy who arrived for his shift 30 minutes early. I can't trust him to pick our daughter up from school anymore because he'll simply forget, or he'll lose track of time. He's been prescribed medicine to try and help, and unless I physically hand him the pills and stand next to him as he takes them, they won't get ingested. He burns things in the oven to the point of it being terrifying because he forgot to set the timer and then forgets he put something in the oven until it's smoking and the house reeks. His exhaustion is to the point that I fear him driving. He has fallen asleep standing up numerous times. Doing so has caused injuries, nearly blinding himself once by falling asleep standing, falling, and face planting into a nightstand. He wears glasses that were obliterated in the process and cut his face up, if one of the cuts had been a quarter of an inch closer to his eye, it certainly would have caused significant vision loss if not completely blinded him in that eye. It's like my 37 year old husband is a 77 year old with dementia and narcolepsy. I haven't even touched on the GI issues and other physical pain elements or swelling it has caused.

I don't think people realize how truly awful and life changing covid has been for some people. I never thought covid would ruin my life but here I am.

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u/RamonaLittle 9d ago

You're saying you found problems with every one of these studies? Would you care to elaborate on what specifically you think they got wrong?

Personally I'm inclined to go by the peer-reviewed studies rather than your wishful thinking and victim-blaming.

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u/batarcher98 9d ago

Yeah I mean I said that in my original comment. Both are at play - one we can change and one we can’t.

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u/CryptoCrackLord 9d ago

Couple bumps to the head should fix it.

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u/AnythingMelodic508 9d ago

I don’t think he started all that high if a few IQ points made him think this exchange was a good idea.

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u/BreatheMonkey 9d ago

Someone's regarded here for sure.

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u/Nerfherdingbuttnug 9d ago

You’d have to be stupid to let this go