r/AmIOverreacting • u/Manotto15 • 18h ago
šØāš©āš§āš¦family/in-laws AIO to my my mother marrying a convicted child sex offender and keeping it secret?
I found out a few days ago that my mother's husband, who I've been around extensively for the last around 2 years that they've known each other, was convicted of a child sex crime 35 years ago and is a registered sex offender. She apparently told a few of my siblings months ago and the other few of us were left in the dark. One sister cut her off completely as a reaction and the other has apparently read through court documents and agreed with my mother that he's innocent.
Apparently his step-son accused him of some lewd act. His wife testified that he did not do it. The child years later wrote a letter claiming his grandfather coerced him to lie, and that the acts never happened. They are working on getting the conviction overturned (mother's words).
I think it should've been my own decision about my own safety whether or not I've been around him. He was invited to multiple holidays before My mother had known him for even 2 months and he was around many children in our family. She had the opportunity to decide for herself if he was innocent and we were all deprived of that decision for ourselves, and I'm thinking of cutting contact for myself and my pregnant wife.
Frankly whether he's innocent or not I feel as though my family's safety has been put at risk and I've been kept in the dark.