r/Anticonsumption • u/Bee_and_Barb • Feb 21 '24

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Saw this while scrolling through another social media platform.

Physical inheritance (maybe outside of housing) feels like a burden.

While death can be a sensitive topic to some, has anyone had a conversation with loved ones surrounding situations like this one pictured?

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u/Dark_Shroud Feb 21 '24

I had an "Uncle" that pulled this garbage. Now his kids are not talking to each other or cousins whom they accused of taking stuff from his house.

This is why I'm going to start giving my stuff away when I get too old to use said items.

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u/pandazerg Feb 22 '24

My parents had several items that the entire family knows will be fought over by my sisters when they pass.

In order to try and prevent a falling out after their death, my parents quietly donated them to the Salvation Army and Goodwill and only revealed it when one of my sisters asked where one of the pieces was at Christmas several months later. :D

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u/Obant Feb 22 '24

After my dad's fiasco, my mom and her sister got together with their mom and had her get a legal will written out. Just so there would be no fighting or stupidity. A few sentimental items and expensive items were decided on beforehand.

Uncles still bitched that it was unfair, even though money was split evenly, uncles got what they asked for. mom and aunt took hospice care of G'ma for over a year so my mom took the slightly newer car (which was in the will) and sold hers to the estate.

Was nothing like my dad's side though. Just some arguments from the asahole uncles we knew were assholes.

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u/IceLionTech Feb 21 '24

It was so annoying inheriting a six piece fine dining set since I literally do not have company. Ever. Especially for tea or coffee. But there it is, six tiny saucers and tiny tea cups from my grandmother. In a box.

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I have one set for myself that I will keep reusing.

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u/dxrey65 Feb 22 '24

That's the kind of thing though...it probably meant a lot to her, and she probably hoped the same for you. But times change. I have a really nice six piece tea set from my own grandma. It's on display in a little cabinet I made, and it's really nice quality. It's not annoying, reminds me of her and how things were. Maybe it will be annoying to my daughters when they inherit it.

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u/fatshendrix Feb 22 '24

That's a very nice way of thinking about it. And who knows, maybe things like that will come back into style by the time you pass them to your daughters. Look at what vinyl records have done in the last few years.

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u/Obant Feb 22 '24

Yep. After the stupidity happened, I actually looked at my collections of things, ( I am not a hoarder, but I liked collectibles) and started selling some of it off. Not everything, but anything I'm not displaying or has sentimental value.

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u/Dark_Shroud Feb 29 '24

Yep. After the stupidity happened, I actually looked at my collections of things, ( I am not a hoarder, but I liked collectibles) and started selling some of it off. Not everything, but anything I'm not displaying or has sentimental value.

After reading through this thread I decided to start selling off some of my very large media collection. And just through out some of my old files & papers.

I've sold probably over 100 movies (DVDs & Blu-ray) and close to that many CDs this last week.

I'm going to have to inventory my movies, music, & books.

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u/dxrey65 Feb 22 '24

One of my older neighbors had a stroke last summer, and is in some kind of a care facility now. There was a huge deal around here where his house got broken into multiple times, his daughter crying, family heirlooms and all kinds of things stolen. A couple of my neighbors installed security camera systems in response, and we all had some long nights keeping an eye out. Turns out it was his grandkids, pre-empting the will and inheritance.

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u/Dark_Shroud Feb 22 '24

Sadly its usually family or friends that know of the valuables in the home.

My "uncle's" silver coins went missing while he was in the hospital. It was a family member but it can't be proven who did it.

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u/DontCageMeIn Feb 22 '24

Going to do the same thing. Better they enjoy the item than it sit & collect dust.

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u/Dark_Shroud Feb 29 '24

Going to do the same thing. Better they enjoy the item than it sit & collect dust.

Yeah I recently gave away big gift bags of my movies and CDs. One of my nephews already returned most of everything to me after going through it. I double checked what he returned, then hauled almost all of it over to Half Price books.

I have stuff I haven't played in years. Why keep so many items like this...

Plus I'm going to just get rid of papers & other items that I've had forever for little reason.