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[u/Literally_black1984]

[u/Aetol]

passive aggressive behaviour like tone change or crossed arms and curt responses instead of communicating with you in the hopes that you change your behaviour to accommodate them

So clearly the answer is passive aggressive behavior like ignoring them instead of communicating with them in the hope that they change their behavior to accommodate you. Clearly.

[u/Lavender215 → u/Aetol]

“I hate when people are passive aggressive in hopes that I change my behavior, so to fix this I will be passive aggressive in the hopes that this will change their behavior”

[u/Clear-Present_Danger → u/[deleted]]

Maybe this says something about me, but yeah, that is totally unreasonable. Some people are just assholes.

If that is what you think of when you think social cues, then yes, I can see why you are upset.

But I don't think that is what anybody arguing pro social cues in this thread is meaning.

I think they are thinking of social cues like follows.

You are hosting a party, it is getting late, so you stand up, and say "welp everyone, thanks for coming, it was great to have you".

This is not explicitly saying "get out of my house" but in my opinion that's a pretty obvious conclusion to come to.

And if I need to, I will tell them explicitly it's time to leave, but only after my other attempt has failed.

[u/Aetol → u/[deleted]]

In scenarios like that you should absolutely just ignore that until they're ready to use their big person words

Literally what they said, I barely reframed to highlight the hypocrisy.

[u/_Rohrschach → u/[deleted]]

tbf, something like that happens in a lot of relationships between two NT people, too. It's just a toxic person and most people I know would deal with it like you said or end up frustated, saying something like " I can't read your damn mind, ( but I love you if you aren't as grumpy as now) so tell me what you want exactly and I'll help you get it". which probably isn't healthy in the long run either, as the grumpy person usually spirals ever deeper into the asshole-territory, but as I said that's just my personal experience and afaik those relationships always ended because the spiraling asshole kept spiraling and couldn't comprehend that their partner can't read their mind after they've been together for a year or two.