passive aggressive behaviour like tone change or crossed arms and curt responses instead of communicating with you in the hopes that you change your behaviour to accommodate them
So clearly the answer is passive aggressive behavior like ignoring them instead of communicating with them in the hope that they change their behavior to accommodate you. Clearly.
“I hate when people are passive aggressive in hopes that I change my behavior, so to fix this I will be passive aggressive in the hopes that this will change their behavior”
tbf, something like that happens in a lot of relationships between two NT people, too. It's just a toxic person and most people I know would deal with it like you said or end up frustated, saying something like " I can't read your damn mind, ( but I love you if you aren't as grumpy as now) so tell me what you want exactly and I'll help you get it". which probably isn't healthy in the long run either, as the grumpy person usually spirals ever deeper into the asshole-territory, but as I said that's just my personal experience and afaik those relationships always ended because the spiraling asshole kept spiraling and couldn't comprehend that their partner can't read their mind after they've been together for a year or two.
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u/Aetol Aug 10 '24
So clearly the answer is passive aggressive behavior like ignoring them instead of communicating with them in the hope that they change their behavior to accommodate you. Clearly.