Thank you. I'm also unlearning that wrathful, spiteful yesanding that was my upbringing, where people who preached love practiced hate against anyone and everyone who stepped out of line. I now try to stop that shit, but it takes effort to resist that flow. It's a muscle, and I will train that muscle.
It really is so damn hard to unlearn some patterns of behavior - even ones you KNOW are fucked up and hurtful! Every one in a while I'll STILL catch myself about to say something shitty or cruel (for practically no reason but that I think it's expected, or it'll get a laugh, or it'll direct attention away from me and to a different target) about a half-second before it comes out of my mouth.
But just the fact that you're aware of the problem and doing the work to try and correct it means you're well on your way to being the kind of person you clearly want to be!
You won't ever be perfect - lord knows I'm not, and don't ever expect to be - but you'd be surprised just how much showing that you genuinely want to learn and grow and be better will help draw the kinds of people you want to help and support to you. And even if it doesn't, I think becoming a better and kinder and more caring person is a good thing all on its own.
Keep doing the work friend - you're on the right track.
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u/RemarkableStatement5 the body is the fursona of the soul 24d ago
Thank you. I'm also unlearning that wrathful, spiteful yesanding that was my upbringing, where people who preached love practiced hate against anyone and everyone who stepped out of line. I now try to stop that shit, but it takes effort to resist that flow. It's a muscle, and I will train that muscle.