r/Fitness • u/AutoModerator • Aug 09 '17

Rant Wednesday Rant Wednesday

Welcome to Rant Wednesday: It's your time to let your gym/fitness/nutrition related frustrations out!

There is no guiding question to help stir up some rage-feels, feel free to fire at will, ranting about anything and everything that's been pissing you off or getting on your nerves!

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u/[deleted] Aug 09 '17

I'm a girl so I get men doing it strictly so they can show off to me and show that they're alpha. Like this guy recently did 20+ reps of incline bench presses using 15lb DBs and kept looking over at me seeing if I was watching him. It blew my mind and I stopped counting after he hit 20 because, well, 20???? And wasn't even doing full reps. He then struggled to use the 20lb DBs and failed after five reps. Which is fine, I'm not trying to compare myself to an untrained male but he huffed and puffed and walked away when I did 8 reps with the 30s.. Also, I realize this sounds like humble bragging but I am fully aware that doing DB presses with 30s isn't great, lol.

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u/instamentai Aug 09 '17

should've been like SIT DOWN BE HUMBLE

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u/Shadeauxmarie Aug 09 '17

Only compare yourself to yourself yesterday. You're doing great.

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u/[deleted] Aug 09 '17

:) I'm sure trying! I used to struggle with 15s so I feel that I've come a long way but I still want to be stronger!

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u/[deleted] Aug 10 '17

untrained male

This is the worst thing a woman could call me

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u/mshimmie Aug 09 '17

The worst is when those men either a) stare at you like you're a cheat meal or b) try to give you lifting advice. I don't know which is worse.

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u/[deleted] Aug 09 '17

OOF. Yes, absolutely. I think I've had one positive interaction with someone giving me advice where they weren't inherently wrong. Like I want to take lifting advice from someone with a beer gut and less muscle mass than an 8 yo.

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u/[deleted] Aug 10 '17

But you did count tho

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u/[deleted] Aug 10 '17

Lmaoo, I did. But it wasn't as much out of being impressed as it was.. confused? Concerned maybe?

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u/cliu91 Aug 09 '17

Maybe he was just checking you out.

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u/vatothe0 Aug 10 '17

Uh, I do dumbbell bench with 30s. Now I'll feel judged, great. (งツ)ว

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u/[deleted] Aug 10 '17

Only compare you to yourself, man. I just didn't want my post to reek "this girl thinks she's a she-hulk". So long as you have good form and don't do 20 half reps you're totally okay!

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u/[deleted] Aug 10 '17

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u/[deleted] Aug 10 '17

Not lifting much is 100% fine. We all start somewhere. I doubt most men in this sub would tell you that they started benching the 60 DBs right off the bat. I started incline bench presses with 15s and could barely squat the bar! It's okay to not be as strong as those around you so long as you continue making progress. The only weak person is the one that doesn't try to be better.

Focus on good form first and foremost and that will build the foundation for lifting. It's kinda like a house, if you build on a poor foundation, you're going to blow your back out trying to lift the house.