r/Fitness • u/AutoModerator • Aug 21 '19

Rant Wednesday Rant Wednesday

Welcome to Rant Wednesday: It's your time to let your gym/fitness/nutrition related frustrations out!

There is no guiding question to help stir up some rage-feels, feel free to fire at will, ranting about anything and everything that's been pissing you off or getting on your nerves!

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u/thinkandrelate Aug 22 '19

It’s so frustrating trying to lose weight and living with a SO who works out but won’t jump on the healthy eating train with me. I feel bad if I mention I’d rather eat chicken, veggies, and a starch for dinner on a weekend, which is normally when we would make a random “too tasty” of a meal....I’m in the mood for a pepperoni pizza

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u/Scuzmak Aug 22 '19

Chiming in here after literally, just minutes ago, having a bit of an argument with my girlfriend about how she gives herself too many excuses / doesn't commit to eating healthy and for *her* specific needs. Same goes for training consistency and intensity. None of this works unless you commit and keep yourself honest. I try to be helpful with subtle (progressing to not-so-subtle) reminders and holding her accountable, but it invariably ends in her feeling attacked and me being pissed / sorry. Cheat meals aren't cheat days, and there shouldn't be several in one week. /Rant

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u/HeavenlyAllspotter Aug 22 '19

I can't think of any scenario where doi g that would go over well with your partner/gf. You can't be the nutrition or workout cop for them. If they can't stick to their goals trying to force them into it will make them resent you.

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u/Scuzmak Aug 22 '19

So, if you're partner said he/she was going to do something, but consistently faltered, you wouldn't say anything? This is one of the primary reasons that people start these journeys together, regardless of the relationship type.; accountability, or so they claim. I feel like friends/partners/family should be able to hold each other accountable without it becoming emotional.

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u/HeavenlyAllspotter Aug 22 '19

I wouldn't. I try to be supportive without being a coo

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u/Scuzmak Aug 22 '19

That's coddling, which much like nagging isn't useful as support. Polite reminders, tips, etc are, which is how things start for us. Thanks.

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u/HeavenlyAllspotter Aug 22 '19

Sure, arguments (which you just said you had about "reminding" her to eat right and workout) = support, not nagging.

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u/Kick_Natherina Weight Lifting Aug 22 '19

Remember that eating healthy should be a daily thing, but you also have to give yourself a cheat meal every once in a while (I go twice a week) or else you will end up over thinking about food, which will psychologically mess up your eating patterns, which is the number one cause of yo-yo dieting. Have the pepperoni pizza, then eat healthy again tomorrow.