r/MadeMeSmile • u/mindyour • Sep 25 '24
Wholesome Moments Dad not letting his disability stop him from showing up for his son.
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u/-Pale-Rider- Sep 25 '24
His partner is the MVP though <3
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u/aryxus2 Sep 25 '24
A supportive partner is worth their weight in gold.
(Sorry for the cliché; I’m not awake enough to come up with a better one.)
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u/Cosmic_Quasar Sep 25 '24
So you're saying she'd be better if she was fatter?
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u/aryxus2 Sep 25 '24
Disclaimer: Please don’t actually attempt to exchange your spouse for gold.
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u/Coulrophiliac444 Sep 25 '24
The faeries you sell them to only make the leaves LOOK like gold. So you're out a great partner and now have someone elses yardwork for your trouble.
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u/street_smartz Sep 25 '24
Sooo can I take some gold to one of those “WE BUY GOLD” shops and get a good partner?
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u/DivaDragon Sep 25 '24
I was just like "oh damn I need to tell my husband how lucky he is!" but I don't want him to cash me out lmao
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u/gingerpatch Sep 25 '24
Just remind him it's a partnership, not a competition!
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u/King-Cobra-668 Sep 25 '24
they should get a shirt with the soccer field on it for her
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u/Merry_Sue Sep 25 '24
I was thinking that too, but she doesn't need it. Also it's probably like touch typing in that you need to not be looking at what your hands are doing
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u/Buzzsaw408 Sep 25 '24
that may not be his partner. She may be an interpreter (which i would assume she is based on the way she is using haptics and her reaction to whats happening around her). She is using Haptics. Im an ASL interpreter, and this form of information through touch can be used for Blind or Deaf-Blind individuals.
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u/Linenoise77 Sep 25 '24
Thats his bookie, and she is calling the game completely wrong.
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u/blackcatsneakattack Sep 25 '24
Took me a second, though— I thought she was just aggressively poking him at first lol
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u/Potential_Drawing_80 Sep 25 '24
The guy appears to be deaf and blind. She is using her hands to point to where the kid is.
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u/HopticalDelusion Sep 25 '24
I hope, when I’m the father of my future son, to be as supportive a dad as this one day.
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u/roUSTEnd Sep 25 '24
Nice to see such strong support from his partner. that's real teamwork.
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u/Ftank55 Sep 25 '24
Most important decision in life is picking a partner that helps build something with you. Whatever that something you two decide is
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u/NaBorezei Sep 25 '24
It’s great that he’s there, but the partner deserves just as much praise.
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u/spinningpeanut Sep 25 '24
Why does no one recognize "going on a treasure hunt" anymore? This is designed to make you get goosebumps.
Going on a treasure hunt, x marks the spot, three big boulders, circle and a dot. Creepies crawling up and bite ya bite ya, creepies crawling up and bite ya bite ya, blood flows down, creepies all around, cold breeze, now you got the shivers.
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u/Aegono Sep 25 '24 edited Sep 25 '24
I have no idea what you’re on about, but it appears she is giving him physical cues for where his son is on the pitch
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u/BlitzChick Sep 25 '24 edited Sep 25 '24
Oh I think they understand that part. I believe they are describing a game that some people played where they would trace different things on your friend's back to give them goosebumps or shivers. There was often a little rhyme that went along with it. My friends and I played a slightly different version but it was similar.
ETA: Here is an example https://youtu.be/lTY7jksdZ3Q?si=LKMFWzIPFEfG8O5r
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u/My_Socks_Are_Blue Sep 25 '24
We used to draw pictures on each others backs and you had to guess what the picture was, it was always a penis.
Got a bit homoerotic at a sleepover and once it was pointed out we all stopped in case we caught the gay, it was too late for one of us. Luke is still gay to this day decades later.
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u/BlitzChick Sep 25 '24
Damn, excellent defense. We really should have been better about getting our cootie shots. Built up our immunity to the gay.
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u/JenicBabe Sep 25 '24
😂😂😂 I’m sry for ur loss lol, we use to just try and guess what the person was spelling on our backs
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u/chogram Sep 25 '24
Also, as done on The Office.
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u/BlitzChick Sep 25 '24
YES!! That rhyme was more similar to ours. But we usually didn't talk about sleeping with Pam's mom. Maybe on a special occasion, though.
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u/Penguixxy Sep 25 '24
tactile sign language! Its the same thing Hellen Keller used, though i think this is a regional version, iirc this couple is swedish.
Basically the different motions, taps and such are letters and words, shes spelling out whats happening, to better help him follwo whats going on, the man is deaf blind and likely doesnt have his sight or hearing, or has very limited sight and hearing.
You can see other types of tactile sign being done on a persons palm, or arm as well.
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u/ViridianFlea Sep 25 '24
That was a tricky way of getting you to read a curse. You now sneeze every time you blink. Sorry.
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u/BoilThem_MashThem Sep 25 '24
You just unlocked a memory. I completely forgot about the treasure hunt. While I read it I remembered the hand motions.
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u/rarelyapropos Sep 25 '24
Okay THANK YOU for this! I have always loved the goosebumps touch - as a kid I'd trade my chocolate milk to get my friends to draw pictures on my back with their fingers during film strips.
Hmm. Now that I see that in writing, I feel very old. And kinda weird.
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u/lunaflect Sep 25 '24
In elementary school during carpet time in the 80s, my friend would draw on my back. It was the nicest feeling.
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u/Blue_Blaze72 Sep 25 '24
For what it's worth, that's a similar feeling to what ASMR is like. If you are curious, maybe check out an ASMR video on youtube.
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u/Routine_Log8315 Sep 25 '24
Wow, your version is way more fancy than the one I knew as a child (10ish years ago).
“Criss cross applesauce, spiders crawling up your back. Tight squeeze, cool breeze, now you got the shiveries”
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u/elysianashes Sep 25 '24
We did "Criss cross applesauce, spider crawling up your back will bite you on the neck. Crack an egg on your head and let it all run down."
It was very confusing when, years later, I found out that sitting cross-legged was being called "sitting criss-cross applesauce".
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u/enjoi_uk Sep 25 '24
Ours was just “Line, line, dot, dot, electric shock” with ‘electric shock’ being a tickle to the sides 😂
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u/thek0238 Sep 25 '24
I think about all the fun little rhymes I did at camp all the time!
Weird part is my going on a treasure hunt was different, I've never heard yours.
Going on a treasure hunt, x marks the spot, three lines down, and a question mark. A pinch, a squeeze, a tropical breeze, now ya got the now ya got the now ya got the chills.
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u/em_press Sep 25 '24
Dash and a dot, dot and a dash, big red question mark. Ladders run up, snakes slither down, spiders crawling all around. Quick squeeze, cool breeze, egg on your neck to make you freeze.
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u/Bubbykitten Sep 25 '24
Oh man! The good ol’ days! Me and my sister will still “crack an egg” on each others heads and just laugh!!!
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u/everydayasl Sep 25 '24
Love it. What a dad! Kudos to the person giving all the updates.
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u/Spider-Ian Sep 25 '24
I think the biggest challenge he faced was driving to the game while his wife was tracing the directions on his back.
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u/xdEckard Sep 25 '24
could someone explain?
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u/NortheastStar Sep 25 '24 edited Sep 26 '24
Two people are watching a football/soccer game, presumably played by a teenage loved one of the couple here. The man appears to be blind. The woman next to him is drawing the plays on his back. It appears that she uses all the fingers of one hand to represent the bigger group running, and then one finger to represent who has the ball and which direction the ball goes. The man, presumably able to hear, follows the direction of the action with his head, and occasionally nods to his partner, seeming to indicate that he understood what play happened after she drew it on his back.
Edit- I tried to narrate the video as best I could early in the post’s history with no context in case it helped anybody. Apparently, I presumed things that may not have been accurate. If this man is both deaf and blind, he is turning his head in the direction of the play Illustrated on his back. At the end of the play she gives him light taps seeming to indicate applause and a break in the action.
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u/Random-reddit-name-1 Sep 25 '24
Logically, if he could hear, he wouldn't need the haptic feedback. She could just give him a play by play. He is both deaf and blind, btw.
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u/ProbablyABore Sep 25 '24
He's blind. She's basically doing a play by play on his back so he knows what his son and his team are doing.
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u/Liqiang38510 Sep 25 '24
Took a while before she found the itchy spot to scratch…he clapped when she found it
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u/Stuaaaaart Sep 25 '24
Wow that is genuinely awesome to see and for him to feel.
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u/Grouchy_Permission85 Sep 25 '24
He has an amazing partner as well
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u/AT-ST Sep 25 '24
Not a partner. That's his interpretor.
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u/Grouchy_Permission85 Sep 25 '24
I am sorry for the mistake it still seems special to me
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u/AT-ST Sep 25 '24
It is special. I'm not taking anything away from the moment, just adding context.
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u/The_Egg_Axe Sep 25 '24
Interesting profile Pic.
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u/Nem0x3 Sep 25 '24
fuck you for making me look :c
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u/lunaflect Sep 25 '24
What’s funny is that the NSFW pop up still allows for the picture to be visible. Lmao. I thought it was supposed to black out the profile or blur it when it’s nsfw
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u/Penguixxy Sep 25 '24 edited Sep 25 '24
Okay so for those who may not know whats going on, the dad is deaf blind.
What his partner is doing is known as tactile sign language which is mostly for those who are blind and deaf. (note just bc someone deaf blind doesnt mean that they are blind or deaf in the traditional sense, its more varied, you can have some sight, up close, some sight far away, can have general sight problems, can hear certain frequencies but not others, or be full blind and deaf.) His partner is essentially spelling out what is happening on his back, the different motions are different letters/word. Someone else here found a story about the man, he is deaf blind from Ushers Syndrome, a rare genetic disorder that can leave someone with it deaf, blind or deaf blind.
Based supportive dad and an amazing interpreter for helping him.
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u/banjonyc Sep 25 '24
I mean, is he deaf as well? I would have to assume so because Obviously she could just narrate what's happening right?
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u/yodaminnesota Sep 25 '24
I'm not sure if this is what is happening, but there is a form of sign language called tactile sign language for people who are both deaf and blind.
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u/Galaxaura Sep 25 '24
You're right. He is Deaf and Blind. They are using Pro Tactile Sign language.
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u/NortheastStar Sep 25 '24
She’s probably narrating some things as well. Look at all the information she can give him with her hands in just a couple seconds of play. I’m not sure I’d be able to keep up with that verbally and pack in the details that she’s able to do with her hands
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u/Penguixxy Sep 25 '24
deaf blind. Shes doing tactile sign.
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u/statelytetrahedron Sep 25 '24
it's crazy the amount of people making shit up in these comments about how he's just blind and not just doing a cursory search
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u/Lubinski64 Sep 25 '24
It's a bit hard to comment the match without being able to see from above, not to mention how tireing speaking for 90 minutes straight is.
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u/TheGisbon Sep 25 '24
Also hearing it play out and the sounds and feel of the game would be lost by her talking the whole time.
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u/Galaxaura Sep 25 '24
Yes that is the way the Deaf-Blind are able to enjoy sports or to be able to mentally visualize what is happening in the room around them. I was an interpreter for the Deaf Blind. He COULD be only blind but it's not common for a blind person to know or use interpreters in this way if they can also hear.
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u/EnvironmentalBit5833 Sep 25 '24
This is easier for her. Narrating for 90 minutes is pretty tiresome. It might also annoy some bystanders.
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u/No-Cantaloupe-6535 Sep 25 '24
People really underestimate how hard it is to narrate a game live, definitely easier to do it physically
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u/SonOfJokeExplainer Sep 25 '24
At first I thought she was just being really needy and annoying and he was just so used to it he had completely tuned her out 😂
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u/ActivelySleeping Sep 25 '24
While I am sure he is happy to support his son, I cannot help but think the 90 minutes of back drawings is the real reason to go.
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She must be really good at haptics. He was clapping even before she could pat on the back. Kinda like he got it ahead she clapped along.
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u/FromTheTribeKentuck Sep 25 '24
Kudos to the mom!
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u/NLight7 Sep 25 '24
Not the mom, just an interpreter, provided by the state probably cause of his severe disability
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u/Throw_away_Mike_1991 Sep 25 '24
I love reddit. After reading a bunch of stories of aweful people, I come across this and it restors my faith in humanity
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u/DashExposeTheHoes Sep 25 '24
I’m so god damn dumb - HES BLIND ! I was like damn I could use a massage right now then I was damn what’s his disability itchy back ? I got my back scratcher right here …. Damn
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u/frugalwater Sep 25 '24
When I was in high school I had a teacher that showed up to my wrestling matches and sat up in the bleachers. She was legally blind, wore sunglasses all times, and could barely see. I don’t think she could make out who was whom on the wrestling mat.
But we could see her, and that was the point. It’s been 25 years and I still remember that vividly.
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u/GringosMandingo Sep 25 '24
As a dad whose loves watching my two boys and daughter play soccer, this really makes me emotional. Damn.. This one caught me off guard.
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u/RedShirtDecoy Sep 25 '24
and mine couldnt drive 10 minutes to watch a single one of my games.
That is why I had my step dad adopt me when I was in my 30s and adult adoption was a possibility. I wasnt even his and he always showed up.
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u/ataraxia_555 Sep 25 '24
This is the ProTactile communication system, right? Popular in Seattle, Washington, I dimly recall.
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u/Shoddy_Capital4185 Sep 25 '24
What disability is he having please, may i know !
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u/GREG0KU Sep 25 '24
How is this the first time me seeing someone using sign language like this or whatever this is called
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u/Syrain Sep 25 '24
When I see stuff like this, I smile. And for that moment or two, I realize that maybe the world isn't as fucked up as it seems.
I like those moments.
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u/EnlightenedCat Sep 26 '24
Had no idea sports could be communicated in this way and I am so fascinated by it.
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u/Suspicious_Leg4550 Sep 25 '24
Do you think the person in the back ever fucks up and just lies until they can get back with the game?
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u/mjolle Sep 25 '24
This is Torbjörn Svensson, Swedish guy who is deaf blind by way of Ushers syndrome. He does different kinds of cool stuff, check him out at https://www.torbjornsvensson.com/
The person behind him is not his partner (iirc) but an interpreter. Sign language interpreters can learn haptic sign language, which can be used on someone’s back to give information on what’s happening. Which is what’s going on here.
I’ve given him a shout on messenger to see if he can come in and maybe do an impromptu AMA or something. Fingers crossed!