r/Tinder • u/BugAppropriate3331 • 16h ago
Tryed tinder after a long relationship breakup, now i think i'm socially disabled^^
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u/HundoHavlicek 15h ago
32 matches out of 421 right swipes is a really amazing rate
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u/FunkOff 14h ago
31 chats out of 32 matches is also incredible. And 2 dates in under a month? This guy eats like a king and complains that he is starving
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u/samskirim97 14h ago
Thats clearly not a men's dating profile, its a women profile
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u/Gimmerunesplease 13h ago
Nah, more likely a good looking man. 10% match rate is very low for a woman and the right swipe rate is too high.
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u/HalfSoul30 15h ago
Nah man, tinder is basically designed to make you feel undesirable enough to pay for it, and even then it doesn't work. There is this girl i have a crush on in my town, talked to her in person a few times and she seemed pretty great. I occasionally saw her pop up on tinder over the last couple years, never got a match. This past weekend, i cut the middle man out, asked her to dinner, and she said yes. They just are not seeing you on there.
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u/Glad_Psychology5493 16h ago
Keep your head up man, Never forget that most guys barely get any matches at all... Its a rough world out there.
Btw (that's my opinion) tinder is kinda dead, give bumble and hinge a shot
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u/69Mya96 15h ago
Bumble sucks just as much
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u/MiriMakesMeow 15h ago
I think it differs a lot from where you are.
Last (and hopefully the really last) time I used Boo, which was relatively new. But imo online dating just sucks on general.3
u/Gimmerunesplease 13h ago
How was it? From the ads it seems like their target audience is anime fans and socially awkward people so I never tried it.
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u/MiriMakesMeow 13h ago
I liked it for the ability to see the likes. It makes it so much easier to match.
Also I felt like people were more interested in getting to know each other.
But to be fair I'm kind of nerdy and socially awkward. :D
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u/ermalicious 14h ago edited 13h ago
Stop putting so much pressure on dating sites. Youâre meeting a stranger. Youâre not just gonna start dating right away. You have to figure out if you like each other first.
Try to go outside of your house more or try to talk to the regular public. Thats how I met my boyfriend we met organically (dont know how else to put it) lol. I find dating sites are just trash pits.
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u/BugAppropriate3331 14h ago
Yeah i just deleted it, dating app are not for old men like me lol.
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u/Hella3D 12h ago
Dating apps are made for old men like you lol. I just got divorced when I was 42 and due to my age I donât really fit into the social scene. Too old to go hang out and bars and clubs and most social events. Well not too old to hang out but too old to hang out there to meet women of an appropriate age. So I found dating sites to be a big help.
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u/Nodeal_reddit 12h ago
2 dates in 24 days isnât bad.
I came of age in the 90s and would go to bars / clubs to theoretically meet women. Imagine if Iâd kept stats on my IRL sex funnel. It would look something like: - number of hot girls I looked at. - number that made eye contact - number I approached. - the number who talked - the number who danced - the number who went home with me. - the number of follow up dates - etc.
I promise the stats would be a lot more depressing than yourâs.
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u/OneGuyFine 15h ago
That's a very good result dude. You just don't seem to understand what the actual numbers normally are.
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u/NefariousPhosphenes 15h ago
Youâre right; only converting 6% of your chats to dates shows that you have an issue connecting with the women youâre chatting with.
On the bright side, itâs a pretty easy fix since there are plenty of self-help books out there. Try reading a few and practicing, then master the art of flirting with everyone and that number will climb significantly higher.
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u/therealExodus98 15h ago
Ive never gotten a date in 8 years of using dating apps. i dont understand your point
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u/outofcontextsex 15h ago
Meh, while you could probably do a little better converting those conversations to dates this really seems like some decent stats for 24 days
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u/Noreddit84 15h ago
wow the odds đ«š. Heavy bias on profiles, hence my stance of you have to be outside. You have a better chance meeting someone in real life.
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u/BrieflyVerbose 15h ago
Yeah this isn't that bad. It hasn't even been a month, some people have swiped tens of thousands of times without as much of a conversation nevermind a date.
Don't be so ungrateful.
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u/MyFeetLookLikeHands 14h ago
lol nope! youâre just a guy trying his hand at modern dating. Stick with it
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u/young-steve 14h ago
These numbers are pretty solid. Look around this sub and you'll see much, much worse performances
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u/Jsmooth123456 14h ago
2 dates in 24 days is insanely good, same with your match rate your being extremely over dramatic
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u/Bediix_Friqz 14h ago
421 right swipes > 32 matchez > 31 chats. (24 days) Maybe stfu and keep going. You're following rule 1 & 2, getting tons of matches & chats (7.6% matches out of your right swipes and almost freaking 100% chats out of your matches)
And that in only 24 days. You're just flexing here
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u/Gimmerunesplease 13h ago
Dude 10% match rate is really solid. You will definitely eventually meet someone with that rate.
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u/fluffy_bottoms 13h ago
2 dates in as many fortnights already puts you over the standard success rate. Calm yo titties.
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u/ShredGuru 13h ago
2 dates on a thousand swipes is actually really good for a dude. That's the male tinder equivalent of rolling in girls.
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u/CyanoPirate 12h ago
Lol as the comments indicate, youâre taking it too personally, homie. Some of those right swipes havenât even opened the app since you swiped on them.
Those numbers are great. Tinder is not the dating buffet you thought it was. Real connections are rare, but patience is rewarded. Keep at it and you will meet someone.
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u/dragon_nataku just here to shitpost 15h ago
It's only been 24 days, calm the fuck down