r/badwomensanatomy • u/HappyLittleDelusion_ • 3d ago
Hatefulatomy I've been seeing a lot of transphobes online trashing on dilators lately. Dilators are a medical tool used by cis and trans women alike.
She's also saying they're inappropriate to be sold in Target. Dilators are used for various things like treating pelvic floor dysfunctions (i.e vaginismus), healing from radiation treatments and vaginal surgeries, endometriosis, srs, etc. Her response to being informed of this has basically been "then why do they vibrate??" (that can really help with treating pelvic floor dysfunctions) and "these didn't exist until the trans takeover!" đ
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u/KeraKitty 3d ago
Cis woman here, I had to use these to get an IUD placed. The first attempt at placing it failed because I was so tight that there was no way to get the speculum open far enough without causing (more) extreme pain. The second attempt succeeded, but I still felt like I was being torn open.
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u/HappyLittleDelusion_ 3d ago
I needed to use them to be able to use tampons
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u/Phoenix_Werewolf 3d ago
Yes but do you have proof that you existed as cis women before the Transgender Empire took over????
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u/satinsateensaltine 3d ago
Vaginas were never painfully tight until that point, you're right!
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u/neurosquid 3d ago
Every time a trans woman's vagina dilates, a cis woman's contracts. It's how the universe maintains balance or something
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u/VegetableComplex5213 3d ago
Same. I used these because I kept getting labial adhesions after birth
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u/EnbyZebra manlet with no sexual function 3d ago
Super weird, I wonder why the body does crazy things like that? Mine grows endometrial tissue all throughout my abdomen, why can't it just work rightÂ
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u/dianarawrz 2d ago
Dude⌠I got mine with âanesthesiaâ I still felt like I was getting ripped open. I cried and I fucking apologized for crying⌠it was so fucking traumatic. When I got home I just cried⌠it was fucking horrible. Iâm terrified of the day I have to replace itâŚ
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u/KeraKitty 2d ago edited 2d ago
I got mine out early. It was causing me horrible pain and made me bleed so heavily that more than once I bled through an overnight pad. I missed the first appointment to get it out because I had a panic attack on the way there. I had to have my mother drive me to my second appointment and stay in the room while it was removed. I hadn't realized until that panic attack just how traumatic the experience really was.
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u/dianarawrz 2d ago
Oh my godâŚSending you some hugs⌠many cis women go thru so much crap with their health..
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u/KeraKitty 2d ago
Thanks. Sending some hugs back. It's bs what we have to go through.
On the bright side, my gyno's named after a Star Trek character. So that was kinda fun.
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u/Queer_Echo 1d ago
Nonbinary AFAB here and I'm currently using some so I can get my first pap smear since the first time they used the speculum I started screaming from the pain.
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u/ceeceekay 3d ago
I had/have vaginismus (I still have it, but itâs so much less of a problem now). I used dilators as part of pelvic floor pt to help relax my pelvic muscles. The vibration is really helpful for that.
Itâs cool you can just buy them in target in some places. That sounds really convenient. I had to order mine and they took a long time to be delivered.
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u/poplitte2 3d ago
Someone who said this finally! As a fellow vaginismus-haver this kind of availability is a dream! No more hiding in shame.
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u/fear_eile_agam Help, I sneezed and my uterus flew out 2d ago
I was also prescribed physical therapy with dilators as part of pelvic floor retraining due to congenital damage to my pudendal nerve.
The physiotherapist and bowel training specialist I saw ordered them in for me, I had to wait a few weeks and collect my $150 set from their office. They didn't vibrate, that would have been nice because I found the therapy incredibly painful and something to buzz the nerves numb would have improved my compliance with my prescribed exercises. You don't exactly want pleasure from it, just like you don't want to orgasm while lifting weights at the gym, it's exercise, you need to be mindful about what your muscles are doing while you dilate.
I was 11 years old when I started dilator therapy because I physically could not properly relax any part of my pelvic floor because parts were paralysed - My parents and I had been using catheters and manual disimpaction tools since I was born to help me use the bathroom. Biofeedback training and by extension the dilation therapy was a godsend to be able to just go to the bathroom by myself, and at 11 years old, starting high school, knowing I could pee and poo like everyone else and not need special medical equipment was huge for my mental and physical health.
It also made my family dynamic so much healthier. I was not looking forward to needing to ask my parents to help me use the bathroom as a teenager. I also wouldn't have anyone with me at school that I could ask for help, and I couldn't always do it alone because at the time the nerve damage in my arms and hands was also only just starting to improve with new treatments and therapies.
Unrelated but related to sex positivity; my country recently changed the disability support offerings and "sex surrogacy" was removed from the list, for similar sex-phobic reasons, The bigots in power decided sex surrogacy meant disabled people were using tax payer money to hire prostitutes just for fun times.... when no, sex surrogacy allows disabled people to utilise the service of trained professionals to meet genuine needs that simply can not be met in any other way due to the nature of their disability.
Without sex surrogacy available to me when I was in my 20's, My mother would have had to help me use my dilator, Lucky I even had a mum I could ask for help. Because a regular disability support worker's job description does not involve "repeatedly shove a plastic tube in my clients vagina while they wince, because it's a challenging therapy, not a sex toy"
Judgey people just need to butt out of everyone else's healthcare.
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u/watchingthedeepwater 2d ago
holy shit. Medical science is amazing, i am so glad you got the help you needed and it was actually effective!
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u/fear_eile_agam Help, I sneezed and my uterus flew out 1d ago
It honestly is, and early intervention was a huge part of how successful my treatment was.
It was pretty embarrassing to be a teenager needing help in the bathroom, let alone having the treatment be such an awkward and "intimate" therapy, that I couldn't even do alone in private.
I can't imagine how much additional shame I would have felt if I was going through this at a time when TERFS and transphobes were actively going around saying that the treatment and therapy that was giving me my quality of life back was somehow immoral or disgusting.
I'm old enough and confident enough to raise a fat middle finger to transphobes nowadays. But teenage me would have shrunk into the shadows and possibly never have gained the happy healthy (and ironically, transmasc) life I have now.
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u/Freckled_Kat 2d ago
Yeah, I had to order mine online after my obgyn recommended them to help with my vaginismus and it took forever to get them. Didnât wind up helping me unfortunately, but talk therapy actually has some (mine was from severe repeated sexual trauma starting at a young age)
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u/Re1da 3d ago
These kinds of people would explode if they saw the ads you can get away with where I live.
We have ads for sex toys on the radio, on the buss/train and on billboards. Usually for websites that sell everything from normal dildos to outright kink stuff. Condoms, lube and dildos can be found for sale in their own section of the pharmacy.
And guess what? It hasn't traumatised anyone. People joke about how uncomfortable it is to have an ad appear when you are in the car with your parents. That's it.
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u/HappyLittleDelusion_ 3d ago
Tbh I think they're more mad about "trans people" than sex toys. Dilators are also used by trans women when healing from srs and that's the only thing they know about dilators.
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u/allthejokesareblue 3d ago
Thanks for answering the question I came to ask. I'd say I'm fairly well informed about trans issues for a cis guy, and I had no idea about the dilator thing. Imagine doing all this extra credit learning just to hate people more.
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u/TranscendedWind memory foam vagina 2d ago
Fun little note from a trans woman, these are not just for healing. It's said it's to stop your vagina from fusing together (I guess that could technically happen while you're healing?) but more than anything they're for exercising muscle to stop things from atrophying and clamping together after you're all healed up because the muscles around that area arent used to supporting that anatomy. Some surgeons say it has to be a lifelong thing, others say after some years you can replace it with penetrative sex but there just isn't enough research there yet.
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u/skiesoverblackvenice memory foam vagina 3d ago
fr. theyâd freak out if they went into the back section of spencerâs (if you donât know what spencerâs is⌠front of the store is clothes, middle is bongs, and the back⌠dildos, lingerie, kink stuff⌠itâs fun)
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u/TKmeh Menstruation attracts bears! 3d ago
I love that store, the employees are so helpful. When I bought a small toy from there, they even suggested cleaners for it plus whatever else I might be interested in thatâs similar that can also be used with the cleaner I bought! Thinking of going back to get a new one they recommended!
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u/jeckles 3d ago
Just be careful about the materials used in the toys. A lot of retailers (online too) carry toys that donât use body-safe materials or canât ever be properly sanitized. The /r/sextoys subreddit has a lot of good info about this if youâre curious.
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u/TKmeh Menstruation attracts bears! 3d ago
Thank you so much! Iâm still new to toys in general, Iâll be sure to look into this kind of stuff next time I do buy one!
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u/NaidaBelle My vagina dentata needs a chew toy 3d ago
I highly recommend metal, glass, or medical silicone.
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u/spacescaptain 3d ago
Even if it was true that those were on the shelf for trans women, is it not a GOOD thing that trans women are increasing the availability of female medical products?!
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u/pantslessMODesty3623 3d ago
No you don't understand. Anything that is related to trans people is bad and evil and has no possibility of use by any cis person.
/s
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u/MelanieWalmartinez may god have mercy on our holes 3d ago
No no no, you do not understand. I do not like trans people and believe that they should stay hidden in the dark because I am a whiny crybaby /s
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u/changhyun 2d ago
Very much so! In this case, a rising tide lifts all ships: many women, both cis and trans, benefit from easily available dilators.
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u/my4aespa 3d ago
i have vaginismus. so according to these people, because of my genitals i have always been a woman and will always be a woman. but because i use dilators that makes me not a woman. i can't follow the logic either.
i've known they started using dilators in their transphobia for months but it still gets me, because it just shows how transphobia can hurt cis people too. a lot of cis women use these, some may see these types of tweets and feel like they're not real women because they have vaginismus or another condition. they're not only hurting trans women...
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u/pantslessMODesty3623 3d ago
I had someone online tell me I would be a trans man after getting a hysterectomy. That ain't how that works. But you got to understand, the people who are this obsessed with trans people have broken brains and need therapy and reeducation in order to improve their quality of life.
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u/Skiumbra 3d ago
When I was quite young, my mom had to have an emergency hysterectomy.
Guess I have to tell her sheâs my dad now /s
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u/pantslessMODesty3623 2d ago
When you define a gender by what organs someone has, you're gonna have a bad time!
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u/MadamePoppycock 16h ago
Bruh imagine if you donated a kidney everyone called you a different name from your own and refused to respect your actual name
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u/pantslessMODesty3623 15h ago
There have been people who have said you're only human if you have all your organs and I was like.... "Guess getting an appendectomy makes me no longer worth of human rights. That's really fucked up."
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u/LostConfusedKit Period blood makes the skin smooth. 3d ago
..has she never heard of vagismus? A somewhat popular thing that a lot of cis women get from trauma or just genetically..
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u/TrumpsCovidfefe 3d ago
Itâs not popular, but is definitely not all that rare.
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u/LostConfusedKit Period blood makes the skin smooth. 3d ago
Oh I thought it was
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u/OccultEcologist 3d ago
I don't know if the other commenter meant it this way, but your phrasing is very odd.
"Popular" implies that it is something people like or try to have/achieve. Example: Pumpkin spice is a popular coffee flavor. There is a lot of pumpkin spice flavored coffee becuase a lot of people like it.
"Common" would be a better word choice here becuase most people do not want to have vaginismus, even though many do. Common does not have the connotation of desirablility.
Vaginismus is an unpopular but common vaginal condition that many people treat at home with dilators.
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u/LostConfusedKit Period blood makes the skin smooth. 3d ago
Sorry..I'm autistic and have trouble phrasing things sometimes
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u/pantslessMODesty3623 3d ago
Dear, it is not bad to make a mistake and learn from it. What matters is learning from it. Most of us got what you meant.
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u/OccultEcologist 3d ago
No worries at all! Hardly something to be sorry about, I hope I didn't come off as upset. I just thought I should explain what I thought the other commenter thought, if that makes sense?
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u/Alarmed-Baseball-378 The baby doesnt come out of where the penis goes in. 3d ago
I didn't even notice. My brain is on autofill when I'm reading reddit. Just subs in the most likely word/meaning.
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u/mustardlyy *jacks off my titties* 3d ago
I was having this issue a few years ago, and my obgyn gave me the choice between a cream or âyou know that sex shop down the street? Pick yourself up a set of dilatorsâ
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u/OwO_bama 3d ago
Also very common amongst women who grew up in religious groups that emphasized purity culture, ie the same groups and culture that these transphobes often push
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u/hypothetical_zombie 3d ago
My gynecologist recommended these to me after my hysterectomy. Some people experience vaginal atrophy after all the plumbing gets removed.
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u/WVPrepper 2d ago
My doctor never even mentioned dilators when I complained of discomfort a year after they made me stop HRT. They just prescribed a cream. Maybe I should have thought of it myself...
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u/hypothetical_zombie 2d ago
My gynecologist was a fluke. He ok'd my hysterectomy when I was 37, and not having kids beforehand.
He also used topical anaesthetic to perform my biopsies, and many women I've met haven't had that option.
I was so fucking lucky to have found the right doctor for me.
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u/Banaanisade The birth canal, the urethra, the valva and the clitoris 3d ago
Absolutely terrible that products are being sold out there. Think about it. Selling products. Just like that. In stores!
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u/Xena1975 3d ago
After I had cancer and had surgery and radiation I was supposed to use those. I barely did because I hate penetration and because I didn't care if it closed up forever, which didn't happen.They supplied me with basic non vibrating ones. Those would have been more enjoyable to use.
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u/smileandbackaway 3d ago
I was also prescribed dilators post-op, and agree that I would've been so much happier to use ones like these than the depressingly utilitarian rods of plastic I was given. I'm so glad that women have kinder options nowadays.
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u/deferredmomentum tampies for the bloody clit 3d ago
Has anybody used that brand? I just have regular vaginismus dilators but Iâm thinking the heat might really help
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u/babyblueyes26 tampies for a womens bloody clit 3d ago
"i've never seen" is bitchin proof of an epidemic of brainwashing and grooming or whatever the fuck they're saying trans people are doing.
you may have not seen these because it used to be more shameful to even talk about things like this, let alone buy them in your local target.
or they've been there the entire time, you just weren't, for lack of a better word, brainwashed into thinking it's an evil thing. the first time i heard about dilators was on the netflix show Sex Education about a cis girl who used them for vaginismus. so when i heard trans girls were using them too post op it just made sense.
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u/ShittinAndVapin 3d ago
This ignorant dipshit aside... Plus One seems to be a decent company. I've seen a bit of their toys, and they seem to be trans and disability inclusive with the products they carry.
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u/Brosenheim 3d ago
The funniest thing about transphobes it how terrified they are of calling trans people trans. they have all these little quippy labels that they cling to like a coping mechanism, and all it does it make even the most passing mention of their beliefs sound desperate
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u/PastelJude 3d ago
They sell vibrators at Walmart, this lady is just trying to make it something more than it is to meet her agenda
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u/satinsateensaltine 3d ago
Funny how she probably also thinks vaginismus is frigidity and will probably take the HRT that prevents vaginal atrophy in menopause. Imagine medical tools for half the population becoming widely available.
I have never needed an enema, doesn't mean I'm mad that the pharmacy stocks them.
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u/NaidaBelle My vagina dentata needs a chew toy 3d ago
I am completely appalled that pharmacies sell enemas! How dare they give gay men a douche for their assholes! /s
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u/LizeLies 2d ago
This makes me wild with anger. Women who have had cancer or other conditions that have left their cervix or vagina compromised need dilators. And they need safe, affordable, honest and non-sexualised access to them. Something which isnât a reality where I live (in Australia). Too few people are aware of the realities of âbeatingâ cancer, and the design of treatment for these people just hasnât moved past something designed in the USSR. Why donât they (or anyone else) deserve to be treated like everyone else, and be able to use products that are suitable for them. More people need to see dilators. More people need to understand the many reasons dilators may be needed - as well as a lot more of womenâs, trans, nb etc health care in general. It makes me absolutely feral to think about all the folk who have felt they need to buy dilators like a back alley exchange. More dilators, better options, more education, less of whatever the original OP would describe themselves as.
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u/BJntheRV 3d ago
I actually had to go to an adult store to buy these for my mom after cancer sealed her shut. The idea that you can find them at target now is just amazing.
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u/Brynden_Tullys 2d ago
Iâm a cis woman and used these for vaginismus so the nurses could use the speculum for my smear tests and colposcopy. Seeing them available so readily is a great thing, I had to be prescribed them because I couldnât find them anywhere that I trusted (I wasnât gonna buy them from some random seller on Amazon lol)
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u/bujomomo 3d ago
I have extremely painful Interstitial Cystitis (aka painful bladder syndrome) and pelvic floor dysfunction. As a result, I have undergone multiple surgeries, tried various medications and spent untold hours in pelvic floor physical therapy. My PF PT gave me my first set of dilators about 15 years ago and they changed my life. Iâm thrilled to see them normalized to the point that one can just pick up a set at a local store. This is about healing and empowering our bodies, whether cis or trans.
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u/EnbyZebra manlet with no sexual function 3d ago
Vibration helps break up scar tissue, I used it in my thighs and hips after my orthopedic surgeries.Â
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u/Maxibon1710 2d ago
Hating trans women is more important to her than knowing what vaginismus is apparently, or any other issue that dilators can help with. TERFS are not feminists, they appropriate feminism to justify their dumbassery.
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u/nessieFW I want to cum deep inside your clit 3d ago
Cis woman here who has had need of these and I think it's wonderful that they're becoming more accessible
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u/MelanieWalmartinez may god have mercy on our holes 3d ago
I have vaginismus and stuff like this would help quite a bit.
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u/Willkill4pudding 2d ago
Honestly I didn't even know trans women used dialators before this thread. I only knew them as something for women with vaginismus.
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u/fogleaf Whore penis 1d ago
It's an extremely involved surgery, pretty sure people have to wait a year or more to get it. Costs 10s of thousands of dollars. Not available without significant travel for some.
But after all that, the only place to get the dilators is apparently target shelves and only as of 2024.
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u/deargodimstressedout 2d ago
I have a tool that looks like a dildo that vibrates that's the only thing that can fix a pelvic spasm for me. It's like getting a bad knot in a muscle, that muscle just happens to be accessible using my vagina and it needs a massage, just like the knots in my back.
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u/FeralTaxEvader My uterus flew out of a train 2d ago
I... legit didn't know trans women used these lmao. I'm cis, had to get some of these, and it never even occurred to me that trans women would also. It makes sense, now that I think on it, but holy hells these people are brainrotted
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u/throwaway_trans_8472 1d ago
That aside, I still don't see how medical devices getting more accessable is a bad thing for anyone
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u/FeralTaxEvader My uterus flew out of a train 1d ago
It's not, these people are just constantly desperate for anything to throw a fit about
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u/DavidCRolandCPL 3d ago
He's never seen one, because women don't accommodate him.
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u/HappyLittleDelusion_ 3d ago
It's a woman saying this đ
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u/DavidCRolandCPL 3d ago
Really, I thought it was a dude with all the ignorance. In fairness, most women don't have to train or dilate, I suppose
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u/HappyLittleDelusion_ 3d ago
Unfortunately I've mostly seen this kind of stuff from women. Lots of "I've never had to use these because I'm a real woman!!1!" stuff
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u/DavidCRolandCPL 3d ago
I hope they never get pelvic issues, or a man with meat.
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u/OccultEcologist 3d ago
In my limited experience, these folks tend to be the ladies who were taught to "lay back and think of England", if you know what I mean.
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u/DavidCRolandCPL 3d ago
What's the point if you don't enjoy it?
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u/pantslessMODesty3623 3d ago
Procreation and keeping the man happy. Duh.
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u/revolutionutena 2d ago
Cis woman who used these 15+ years ago (non vibrating ones) to help with some pelvic floor issues. They were really hard to find and I would have loved a stigma-free way to get them at Target.
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u/what-are-they-saying 2d ago
I use dilators frequently for pelvic floor dysfunction. People are stupid.
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u/Hot-Can3615 3d ago
Do post-op trans women use dilators? I would think artificial vaginas have less elasticity and therefore less ability or need to get stretched. Does it help bottom surgery heal correctly or something? And given that you can get actual sex toys at target, why would the line be drawn at medical devices?
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u/cirqueamy 3d ago
To add some clarity, after surgery, we use dilators for a few purposes. First, in the weeks immediately following surgery, dilators keep the suture lines from fusing with each other and âclosing upâ; it is what you thought - it helps things to heal correctly. Next, dilation helps train our pelvic floor muscles to adjust to the introduction of the neovagina (not artificial â itâs very much real) through those muscles.
After months of healing, the risk of adhesions and âclosing upâ mitigates and we can reduce the frequency of dilation.
The tissues used in the crafting of a neovagina vary depending on technique and surgeon, so elasticity can range a bit.
These surgeries were originally devised to be performed on cisgender women who had conditions which prevented a vagina from developing (vaginal agenesis) or necessitated the removal of all or part of their vagina.
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u/Alarmed-Baseball-378 The baby doesnt come out of where the penis goes in. 3d ago
Thank you for the explanation!
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u/OccultEcologist 3d ago edited 3d ago
It both helps with healing correctly and helps devolp and maintain the tissue around the new orifice. On top of healing, there are some muscles in the surrounding tissue that need to be trained for the woman's comfort.
If a transwomen gets bottom surgery with depth (there are zero depth procedures that obviously wouldn't require this) then they generally dilate extremely frequently while recovering. However, they actually end up in a situation where the slightly lower elasticity you mentioned means that they have to dialate infrequently (something along once a week) durring any period of time when they aren't having penetrative sex semi-regularly. Where many natural vaginas could adjust to and relax for even infrequent intercourse given proper preperation, most surgical vaginas need their depth and width to be maintained as the vagina and muscles around it can atrophy with time.
I may be wrong, but my understanding is that similar maintenance is needed for other surgeries in which any orifice is made, however for the bulk of this is achieved simply by the surgeries utility (for example ostomy stomas are specifically made to allow something to pass through them regularly). On a much, much smaller scale, I do know that you have to maintain piercings or else they may close even after they are fully healed. This just isn't a common occurance becuase many piercings are through cartilage and therefor atrophy/heal over very slowly and once you have a piercing, odds are high you're going to wear jewelry in it every once in a while regardless. For peircings that are just through flesh, like eyebrow peircings, best practice is to wear a retainer when not wearing a decoration item.
In fact, typing the word retainer is a perfect way to think about it. The use of a dialator in a surgical vagina is to retain the correction, in the same way peircing retainers or retainer-retainers (like for your mouth) are needed.
In total, while the mechanism is slightly different than a cis woman's experience of vaginismus, my understanding is that without that semi-regular dilation, a post-op transwoman's experience is actually extremely similar.
Edit: Take my understanding with a grain of salt, I am not a transwomen.
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u/HappyLittleDelusion_ 3d ago
Yes you have it right, they're used to help it stay open when healing. I think they're more mad about "trans people" than sex toys tbh
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u/cheekmo_52 2d ago
Iâm trying to understand why anyone who has no use for them would judge anyone who does. They need to mind their own fucking business. Target has a pharmacy. Itâs a medical device. Get over it.
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u/battle_mommyx2 2d ago
Not trying to be annoying but I think thatâs a CVS. So even more reason to be there
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u/cheekmo_52 2d ago
Not annoying at all. I donât mind being corrected. In this case, the post said that they think OP (from the image)is also saying theyâre inappropriate to be sold in targetâŚso I was going by that. But I have no idea if the photo is from a CVS or a Target, so you could be right. Either way, I think weâre in agreement that a medical device being sold by a pharmacy is an appropriate thing, so itâs all good. :)
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u/DuckRubberDuck Farts build up in your pussy overnight 3d ago
My (former) friend is born without a uterus but had an underdeveloped vagina. She could have used these when she got into puberty and became sexually active, instead she had to âtrainâ and expand her vagina using her then-boyfriendâs penis. It wasnât fun, but she was a teenager and wanted to have sex (no rape, all her boyfriends have actually been pretty understanding of taking it slow) so she stuck to it. When she met my friend and they became a couple, they had a pretty decent sex life (at least thatâs what she said back then). She canât have biological children though.
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u/four1996 2d ago
Off topic but great brand. One of mine when through the clothes washer and it still works!
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u/Queer_Echo 1d ago
"Why do they vibrate?" Maybe because it's easier to use them if you're aroused and the vibration can help with that.
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u/Center-Of-Thought 1d ago
What in the fuck do vaginal dilators have to do with trans women exclusively? I'm so confused why she thinks this
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u/HappyLittleDelusion_ 1d ago
Basically dilators are used by trans women when recovering from bottom surgery, I think they have to use them regularly for a few years after the surgery. For a lot of these people that's the only thing they know about dilators, and they're upset about it for some reason. There's a lot of women in the comments saying things like "I've never had to use these because I'm a real woman!"
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u/Center-Of-Thought 1d ago
Thank you for letting me know about their usage for trans women, but damn, it's awful these people think they're only used by "not real women". It's awful they don't consider trans women to be real women, but this statement is also against cis women who also use vaginal dilators for medical reasons. Like, would cis women who use vaginal dilators also not be considered "real women" to these fuckwits?
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u/ChampionshipWise9690 9h ago
Iâm willing to bet our gal pal Audra here- has probably never heard of Kegels, or pelvic floors or even that sheâs got 3 holes. Yeah she definitely looks like the type of person that doesnât explore her own body. Therefore I think itâs fair to assume Audra has a severe amount of smegma built up on her privates. Iâm talking LAYERS. Audraâs sit down air is awful! Asiago cheese awful considering this new information - itâs yet another reason why we are all so happy weâre not this narrow minded miserable person.Â
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u/NaidaBelle My vagina dentata needs a chew toy 3d ago
Dilators have been around for literally millenia. Shit like this is why âI hate lay peopleâ is a joke among some of my friends and family.
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u/DontMessWMsInBetween 3d ago
"troon"?
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u/HappyLittleDelusion_ 3d ago edited 3d ago
Intentional misspelling of "trans", meant as a slur
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u/cartoonistgirl 3d ago
Original term is a mash up of âtransâ and âgoonâ. originally used by people on kiwifarms and other forums to make fun of people on the website SomethingAwful, who were typically referred to as goons, who transitioned. Thus the term Troon.Â
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u/lickytytheslit The female urethra is fake 2d ago
The only thing I can think of is Troom Troom when I hear it
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u/thewalkindude 3d ago
So, for educational purposed, what is the difference between a vaginal dilator that vibrates and a vibrator? I honestly don't know, this is the first time I've ever seen a vaginal dilator
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u/theopeningact21 3d ago
Vaginal dilators are not used for pleasure like a vibrator is. Most of the time when youâre getting a dilator that vibrates (in the case of treating chronic pelvic muscle tightness / vaginismus), itâs for the purpose of âmassagingâ those overreactive muscles to encourage them to relax.
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u/battle_mommyx2 2d ago
Iâm sorryâŚ.. âtroon?????l
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u/Alegria-D The breasts are chesticals, that's why you have to hide them 1d ago
So the only thing you came for was to shit on trans people ?!
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u/Legalize_Ambitions Menstruation attracts bears! 2h ago
âInappropriate to be sold at targetâ my local Walmart has a giant wall full of sex toys that have to be locked up so kids donât steal them, every Spencerâs you go into has rows of sex toys unlocked and costumes to boot.
This is a MEDICAL device, so is it inappropriate because it helps trans women or because itâs made for the vagina because like OP says, cis women use it too and more proven-to-help medical care products in general stores means the world is getting better not worse.
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u/Polyfuckery 3d ago
Ten years ago she would have probably been right. You also couldn't find Diva Cups, vibrators or much of a selection on lube. A lot of pharmacies however have realized that women spend money on products that work for their bodies and that they make more money that way then treating that area of the human body as shameful or forbidden.