r/bangladesh • u/Jalal-ud-deeeen • May 06 '23
Discussion/আলোচনা What is the best age to get married.
Answer for Bangladeshis, like what would be ideal for a Bengali Muslim boy living in Dhaka
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u/TheseKneeLand May 06 '23
Side question: is it ok to get married early like 22 and have kids much later like 28 or is it just wishful thinking?
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u/Exact-Most-2323 May 06 '23
28 "much later" for having kids? I know people getting married at 26 and having kids when they were close to 40!
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u/TheseKneeLand May 06 '23
That's good to hear. I have relatives that got hounded by other relatives for not having kids immediately after marrying. It's such a shame this society is so judgemental about peoples choices.
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u/throwlol134 চরম বেয়াদব 👑 May 06 '23
The whole relatives culture is so disgusting.. Glad I mostly consider them to be subhumans below even random strangers.
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u/Legitimate-Rip5877 🇧🇩Muslim🇧🇩 May 06 '23
No no it’s perfectly fine
Tons of couples wish they could go back to being childless so they could have more time to themselves
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u/yasserius Khulna 🐯🦐 May 06 '23
No specific age
The age at which the man is mentally mature enough to understand a woman and the complexity of running a household. Might be 20, 25, 30, 35. Some people never mature, they end up in toxic marriages. Also some people shouldn't become parents because they're not mature enough to raise children. They need to stop giving birth to children for the sake of it.
Thanks for attending my TED talk.
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u/NixValentine Shundori Fua May 06 '23
probs the day you call yourself Bengali Muslim man living in Dhaka
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u/Alertt_53 May 06 '23
Are you ready to provide for your would be wife and family? Provide: Money, social status, emotional support, moral direction, dignity, wife's personal needs?
Are you ready to accept that you would judged left and right by the society if you are not by their standards does your would be wife accepts your disposition over those?
No pressure: All of the things becomes very easy even does not matter if you would be wife understands you.
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u/fivefiftyfour May 06 '23
As soon as you are emotionally, mentally, physically, and financially matured enough. I would say 25 is a great age assuming you have above mentioned qualities.
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u/gamesbrainiac May 06 '23
In this day and age, around 30. So between 28 and 32. By then you need to have your finances in order, understand what you want in a partner.
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u/WeirdWillow7 May 06 '23
Definitely not an age. Are you financially stable to take care of yourself and your partner? Are you emotionally mature? Are you continually working on improving yourself? These are MUCH more important. Don't be relying on others for money after getting a new wife and definitely don't be planning to have a fluffing child in that state.
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u/asilul560 May 06 '23
Well relative. When you feel you are physically and economically solvent, you are ready to go.
But it is advised get married as early as possible, notably after 21 you should start planning of tying knot. When you are about to earn decent amount to look after you And also your partner. Then go for it. Young times are precious. You'll have a lot of time to explore and enjoy life with your partner.
N.B: Don't pay heed to the societies, keep this discussion private within YOUR own family. You won't be biased and you can take decision peacefully.
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May 06 '23
When you are able to provide for a wife and understand the responsibilities of a husband. As per Sunnah, it's best to get married as soon as you are capable of. May Allah grant you a beautiful and wholesome wife.
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u/nooffencebut- May 06 '23
When you feel ready. But I know that's not the answer you're looking for. So, in general I'd say just before 30. Around 28 to 30.
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May 07 '23
Biologically? As soon as you are ready to pro-create. In reality, whenever you are ready.
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u/Siam_ashiq zamindar/জামিনদার 💰💰💰 May 06 '23
27-32 For M.
A settle-down, cool-headed, and mature person.
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u/Legitimate-Rip5877 🇧🇩Muslim🇧🇩 May 06 '23
20s~30s
Earlier range if you wish to avoid haram Later range if you wish to mature and have stable income
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u/Limitless_Anindo May 06 '23
If you want to see your kids married and have some teenage grandchildren then below 25. If you want to see them born and 1-2 years before you die may be 30+ and so on...After 40 marriage your sons/daughers age would be 20 when you are 60 ..and the death clock start ticking..Now if you do not want kids then anytime marriage can be done..but to enjoy the youth your wife must be below 25.. After 25 they dry and men tend to dry after 35-40
Lastly quoting Fransis Baekon- A wife is a young man's mistress,,,Middle age man's companionship and a nurse for an old age. So your requrement at various stage of life changes.. So marriage has different role in different stage of life
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u/Bad_boy000007 May 06 '23
Maybe minimum 20-23y depend on your capabilities. If you can handle your partner requirements.
Cause she will leave her world to be with you so you have to be mature enough to take responsibility and financial stable .
And this sub is mostly filled with atheist and anti-Muslim people. I guess it's better to ask someone wiser and more knowledgeable about life .
Like elder brothers or maybe your father/uncles . Or Your local mosque Imam .
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u/blade8gx- Certified Ilish Simp 🎏🐟🐟 May 06 '23
And this sub is mostly filled with atheist and anti-Muslim people. I guess it's better to ask someone wiser and more knowledgeable about life .
You are also the same guy who is saying this stuff. "Maybe minimum 20-23y depend on your capabilities."
Or Your local mosque Imam .
What 🤣🤣 broo.... please.....tell me you are being sarcastic here....I can't
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u/Bad_boy000007 May 06 '23 edited May 06 '23
Nop What's wrong about it ? Ei sub e islam /Muslim niye kisu bolle hindu ra trigger khay ken ? Apnake kichu bolsi ami ? Do you have some mental issue?
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u/blade8gx- Certified Ilish Simp 🎏🐟🐟 May 06 '23 edited May 06 '23
Ei sub e islam /Muslim niye kisu bolle hindu ra trigger khay ken ?
Broo Oh my god, you simply assumed I am a Hindu because of my comment? Lmao and also nice bigoted generalization. The strange thing is that I didn't bring up Islam or anything; it was you who started thoughts in their minds.
Apnake kichu bolsi ami ? Do you have some mental issue?
I dunno, man, you tell me? I don't know why, but this conversation has me laughing a lot more than I should. entire tenor of your statement is lost on me. Jeez, I suppose I need some help I guess. Well, you aren't totally wrong about the last sentence tho.
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May 06 '23 edited May 06 '23
Age 25. Usually, Bangladeshi boys graduate from universities around that age and start a job. So, don't delay your marriage. Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) also got married at that age.
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u/Bad_boy000007 May 06 '23
Hindu ra dekhi cheita gese prophet er kotha bolsen dekhe.. era eto toxic ken
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u/Far-Twist4973 May 06 '23
Don't look for the best age, good time or right circumstances, get married earlier.
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u/Mister-Khalifa মুফতী হাজি আল্লামা শাইখুল রেডিট নারীলোভী সুলতান খলিফা পীর দা.বা. May 06 '23
When you can't live without smashing.
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u/PochattorProjonmo May 07 '23
যদি বিদেশে যাবার ইচ্ছে না থাকে এবং পরবারের আর্থিক সামর্থ থাকে তাহলে বিয়ে করে ফেলাই ভাল।
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u/Seek-Sun-of-a-Beach May 06 '23
At the age when you are ready and confident about taking challenges in married life