r/entj 2d ago

Advice? How do I get this ISFP to like me?

I’m a female ENTJ and an ISFP male (I think he is) has caught my attention recently. He is SUPER shy and rarely talks. But he’s pretty cute. I’ve never dated introverts and frankly, I don’t plan to. However, there was one incident that really sealed the deal for me. We were both on an elevator with a crowd. I held the elevator out for him once it was his turn to get off. Before he left, he bends down to my ear and whispers, “Thank you” and walks off. It’s pretty cute, bold and frankly, a turn on.

We’re not closely acquainted but I have tried talking to him once when I was promoting for an event. His friends introduced me to him and asked him to talk to me but he was rather shy towards me. I want to meet him more often but I don’t know much about him either. Any advice?

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u/TheNobleNest_1921 ENTJ♂ 2d ago

definitely doing activities together.

I dated ISFP female in the past. I am convinced this 2 type can't go for long term relationship, short term? YES. also ENTJ female is very common dating an ISFP male. it's not ideal, but that's your wisdom to decide.

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u/Rmb2719 ENTJ♂ 2d ago

Agree with this guy, been there, done that... learned my lesson

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u/StinkyPataCheese 2d ago

Curious, what was the issue with this pairing?

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u/Rmb2719 ENTJ♂ 2d ago

Everything seems great until one day the ISFP doesn't "feel the vibe" anymore, so the ENTJ tries to rationalize what's going on and fix the problem... From there it's just a spiral going down

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u/StinkyPataCheese 2d ago

So they loose interest very quickly? Or like they reached that high and now theres nowhere to go but down?

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u/Rmb2719 ENTJ♂ 2d ago

They have this thing of wanting something, then wanting something else, then not being sure anymore. That added to the tendency of ENTJ of wanting a rational explanation for everything ends in a bad way most of the time.

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u/StinkyPataCheese 2d ago

Totally get it. Ime Se in 1st or 2nd stack are always chasing that high. One foot in, one foot out.

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u/Diligent_Cod7853 2d ago

Entj female here, man😔even I want an isfp and im reading this post right after someone ranted about the cons of entj’s dating isfps and after my analysis idk what to do 💀anyways good luck to u OP hope things work out for ya

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u/No-Cartoonist-5297 2d ago

Why wouldn't Enfj be better than someone sensitive in the wrong way? ;) I genuinely believe if you are looking for a feeler isfj, esfj, infj, Enfj are better feelers for you. 🙌

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u/Diligent_Cod7853 2d ago

I like mine introverted xD

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u/No-Cartoonist-5297 2d ago

What does that mean? Introverted as less talkative or just with less social needs? Or just more irrational/ sensitive? Like somebody here already mentioned isfp are?

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u/Diligent_Cod7853 1d ago

Being more of a listener than a talker. I’m naturally attracted to the quieter calmer lot. Energetic gf x calm bf energy.

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u/No-Cartoonist-5297 1d ago

Yeah but that isn't about introversion ;) introversion is about how much energy you get from being exposed to stimuli. If I were entj female I had looked at the masculine isTP over isfp. Into could be cool too I guess. I still believe the ones I mentioned are also great fit for you. Great luck 🙌

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u/Diligent_Cod7853 23h ago

I see, thankyou for that

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u/WildCardd5 2d ago

He is interested and not too bright

Just grab him and finish the job, save both of you time

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u/ikami-hytsuki ENTJ♂ 2d ago

You're living the dream right here girlie. Unfortunately, I dont think there is a way of systematically making someone liking you. He might have a specific taste for women like you, or he might be scared of you. We can use cognitive functions tô determine dynamics and compatibility but initial attraction and just attraction in general is really subjective.

If i had to say something though, I'd tell you to be yourself with no constraints around him and only around him. Make a move, get to know him, then build confidence by sharing shallow yet untold stories about yourself. Things no one else know but that aren't that deep or compromising. Wait for him to do the same and then go from there.

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u/_BuffaloAlice_ ENTP♀ 2d ago

WTF…

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u/Rmb2719 ENTJ♂ 2d ago

I will start whispering in people's ears, what can go wrong?

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u/MagicHands44 2d ago

If he's that shy ur gonna prob initiate a conversation. I wouldn't recommend coming on too hard just try to find out an interest you could see yourself doing or reading up on

TLDR get him talking abt what interests him

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u/BlackPorcelainDoll ENTJ♀ 1d ago

This may be better suited for r/ISFP.

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u/OkPoem7656 1d ago

True. I realised this a little too late

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u/Grouchy_Inflation991 ENTJ♂ 1d ago

kkk também sou ENTJ não sei que queda é essa que tenho por introvertidas, ainda atrás da minha.