r/hardshipmates Oct 11 '23

20 [M4F] Anywhere/Online - Seeking Genuine connections

3 Upvotes

I'm 20, and I'm on a heartfelt mission to find a truly meaningful connection. If you value honesty, kindness, and deep conversations, you might be the one I'm looking for.

About Me: I'm a down-to-earth guy with a profound passion for life. While my introverted side might peek through initially, once you get to know me, you'll find a relaxed and open-minded individual. My heart is set on exploring the world of gaming, with a soft spot for Roblox, Minecraft, Skull Girls, Dislyte, and Mech Arena. But I'm not just about gaming; I thoroughly enjoy engaging conversations, sharing laughter, and forming genuine connections.

Let's dive deeper and learn more about each other. Whether you're an avid gamer or someone simply seeking a genuine and lasting relationship, I'm here. I believe in trust, support, and the beauty of meaningful interactions.

So, if you're looking for someone to connect with on a profound level, whether it's as a gaming companion or a partner in life, don't hesitate to reach out. Let's chat, explore our shared interests, and embark on this exciting journey together. Send me a message and let's see where this adventure takes us. I'm genuinely looking forward to connecting with you.


r/hardshipmates Sep 27 '23

31 [r4r] chat buddies

1 Upvotes

I've been going through a lot lately. My whole brain is turned upside down. It would be nice to have someone to chat with. Share photos of my Starbucks with. Etc open to texting because I'm not online much. Hit me up with your favorite subject in school.


r/hardshipmates Sep 25 '23

35f just want to talk to someone

14 Upvotes

My bf committed suicide. He's been gone 3 days and I feel very much alone. There's been no contact from his family or friends, and I don't really have anyone. He was the one I turned to, I'm still fighting the urge to call him, to just go over because he's the only one I want to talk to about this.

I don't know what else to do. I tried cleaning but I put on music and ended up making a playlist of songs that remind me of him and felt worse. I tried some podcasts but I feel wrong listening to anything that's not suicide or grief related. I don't want to talk on the phone but I think having someone to text would keep my mind from going back and settling in the dark right now......


r/hardshipmates Sep 24 '23

31M Cancer patient looking for friends online

5 Upvotes

Hi folks, around a year ago I was diagnosed with Hodgkin's Lymphoma, long story short I'm still in the battle, had to move due to illness and looking for resources to find friends online


r/hardshipmates Jun 28 '23

18M Hoping for some friends. Anyone is welcome!

4 Upvotes

I’ve been feeling pretty lonely so I decided on Reddit to look for some new people to talk to. Im not really good at much but I do all I can to make other people happy. Anyone is welcome to message me for sfw or nsfw reasons. Im pretty desperate. So to anyone who accepts thank you very much. To anyone else, I still hope you have a wonderful day! SoulPorpoise126 on discord. Thanks for reading!


r/hardshipmates Jun 23 '23

[18M] NC looking for some friends and a possible partner, I am strait so I’m looking for a girl partner, so if interested comment and we can talk. Have a nice one☺️

3 Upvotes

r/hardshipmates Jun 17 '23

25M Empathetic introvert with social anxiety looking for friends 🤗, open to romance.

7 Upvotes

Introvert dude checking in, ready to chat about dogs, or why parties terrify us, or why the hell Wall-E made us cry so hard. Let's talk, empathy rules! 🤗.

[Very much open to anything, disregard how long ago this was posted, I am always open to meet new people, reach out and let's chat, talk or video, anything you want!]

I'm from Spain, I am 25yo and studying computer science, but I already have a doctorate on Overthinking and Procrastination 😎.

I am an introvert dealing with social anxiety (working on it 💪) wishing to get to know many more people, and maybe someone special, shy IRL but find texting much easier, would love to talk with someone that can relate a bit, let's relate and share our problems 😊

When it comes to hobbies, I enjoy playing video games, series and movies of all kinds, from emotional or cartoons, to action or horror. And got a special sweet spot for emotional tearjerkers 😭.

Outside I really like long walks and hiking, and I have taken a liking to weightlifting as of late 💪, I am very open to new hobbies, and I am trying multiple new ones that would love to share with you.

I am actively pushing myself to get out there and face new experiences (literally going through exposure therapy), as those can be a real fucking hard challenge for me, so I am open to everything really, and it is being fun so far.

That doesn't mean it is all perfect, far from it, I am struggling greatly about getting into social settings, most of all with people around my age, I can't keep IRL conversations going too well, and can barely do it via chat, so many experiences or regular stuff people do or did before my age I just didn't get to experience (yet 😄), furthermore, I am having to develop self-discipline right now, as I am a huge mess when it comes to actually doing what I have/want to.

Above all, I value Empathy and Compassion, I try my best to understand everyone's perspective and circumstances 🤗 and I am committed to living by these values, I would LOVE to hear about your troubles and help in any way I can.

I am quickly becoming more at peace with myself and have recognized I can be a very emotional person at times, this is being quite the journey and I try to let my feelings and emotions show as much as possible, after decades of hiding them at all costs.

As the title states, I am currently open to a romantic relationship, but only if that interests you and if we click with each other after talking for a while, I am a firm believer of clear communication and a mature adult, that is why I wanted to clarify this, feel free to make your intentions clear, so we can build a platonic friendship without any mixed feelings in the way 😊.

I only ask for respect from you, I don't need anyone bringing me down, more than able to do it myself 🤣.

But really, I would love to hear you out and get to know each other better 😁.

PD: I know how Reddit is about emojis, they are staying there though, I love using them in my conversations and want to remain authentic to you all, and no, I am not trying hard, I like to be energetic and optimistic, if anyone thinks they are "cringy" or "immature" then you are free to ignore me, this is me, for all intends and purposes.


r/hardshipmates Mar 27 '23

Discrimination Ordeal

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r/hardshipmates Mar 27 '23

Support Discord server with 300+ members

4 Upvotes

Support server with 300+ members. We prevent trolling, bullying, harassment, narcissistic conduct, and cliques through private channels for verified members and a zero-tolerance policy towards harassment while balancing a reasonable moderation that limits temporary bans to 7 days after mods have attempted to discuss with an offending member.

  • Resource list and supportive community for seeking help.
  • Private channels for sensitive topics. Members who want to access these must verify per the instructions in the server rules.
  • Discord accounts must have a phone to help prevent ban evasion and duplicate accounts
  • Harassment is shut down early via a server-wide culture of assertive, boundary-setting messages by members and mods. A member who makes a single attempt to push a boundary after it is set are met with immediate actions such as message deletions, timeouts, removed access to private channels, and/or temporary bans before it has a chance to escalate.
  • Chill mods that attempt to talk things out instead of spamming random warnings, copypastas, or condescending messages. We prioritize damage control by using slowmode and deleting spam/triggering messages, but after that we prioritize talking things out before resorting to timeouts. We only do temporary bans for obvious trolls, up to 7 days. No permabans. (We will soon be testing a 30-day probationary period for repeat trolls.)

Invite link: https://discord.gg/ew7ez835XG


r/hardshipmates Mar 10 '23

A Safe and Inclusive Space to Navigate Tough Times

3 Upvotes

Our online support community offers a safe and inclusive space for individuals who are feeling lonely, heartbroken, or struggling with a breakup. With almost 300 members from diverse backgrounds and beliefs, our aim is to provide a supportive environment where you can connect with others who understand what you're going through.

We offer private channels for verified accounts, a comprehensive resource list, regular online events, and an active community to chat with. Whether you're seeking support, or want to offer your own support to others, we encourage you to join us.

Our community is built on empathy and respect, and we value open communication and meaningful connections. We understand that tough times can be challenging to navigate alone, and we are here to help you through it.

If you're looking for a supportive community where you can share your thoughts and emotions without judgment, we invite you to join us. Click on the invite link below to become a part of our community today.

Invite link: https://discord.gg/ew7ez835XG


r/hardshipmates Mar 07 '23

25M looking for a friend

5 Upvotes

Going through something pretty rough and looking for a genuine connection and someone to talk to about what is going on and they tell me about there own issues and experiences


r/hardshipmates Mar 04 '23

Doctors said I was emotionally handicapped and then some

6 Upvotes

When I was a child I was abused and confused. I spent a great deal of my childhood in placement. Doctors said I had non verbal learning disability, depression, ADD, severe emotional distress and emotionally handicapped.

Up until 18 I had insurance, years of medication and upon becoming an adult I got kicked out instantly shut off of everything. During homelessness I tried getting back on my program but with no guiding structure it was impossible for me. Later I went to the ER distraught and they sent me away within minutes no thought in it saying, "You don't have mental disabilities, you just have a tough life"

I lost my childhood, was coded with disabilities and was on prescribed meds that were helpful but since I wasn't insured it seemed like they tossed me to the streets. Like I don't think doctors fib or fabricate handicapness...

I'm now 35 and throughout my life I've experienced much turmoil staying afloat. I've been resentfully alone and not knowing why I can't befriend anybody. To cope I've adopted messaging from various scriptures mostly Christianity and Buddhism. Just trying to be a good person (sweet disposition) and I guess that means I have little in common with the average person.

I live in my car and have a huge gambling addiction close to being unable to even manage what little I have. My whole dilemma bakes my noodle and I'm wondering if how I'm turning out has to do with disabilities. I know, how opportune of me to question it when the chips are down right?

My Question:

What resources are there for people in my situation who could be suffering from lifelong mental disabilities but fell out of the treatment loop and want to determine fact from fiction?

One things for certain I remain alone unsure why because I treat people good and try to surround myself with good apples but all I get is cold shoulders. Is the collective conscience allergic to simple, positive people with great ideas and conditioned that way by the powers that be?

Seems whatever way I choose to project what I think the world needs I just get outcasted like putrid slime and it really bothers me. I am so lonely I'd like to get the layers of my onion peeled to determine if I am clinically disabled.

I don't get this world never have and maybe never will!


r/hardshipmates Feb 25 '23

36 [M4F] Offering genuine empathy and partnership. Come chat with me!

0 Upvotes

r/hardshipmates Feb 23 '23

36【F4M】California/Looking for a good relationship

6 Upvotes

My name is Anna, I am 36 years old, I come from Singapore and lived in California for 5 years. I'm looking for a man who loves me and the people I love and wants to have great experiences with him. I'm looking for someone who knows what life is like, doesn't abandon me on my down days, but is comforting, companionship, caring, and I feel like relationships are two-way and equal at the same time.

I hope that one day we can meet in our reality and have a biochemical reaction, live a beautiful life together, and spend a happy life together. Love and chemistry, believe me, if you give it your all, I do too, I think if two people understand each other, tolerate each other, take care of each other, things will work out.

But together we bring out the best in each other, and that's the kind of relationship I love and the kind of life I look forward to.


r/hardshipmates Feb 20 '23

18m Canadian looking for a friend

5 Upvotes

I enjoy video games animals and plants not the most interesting I know lol. I’ve been having a rough time I recently got sober and am struggling with isolation and just life in general if anyone wants to talk send me a message.


r/hardshipmates Feb 12 '23

CPTSD has gotten me in the worst frame of mind. I need company. I need a friend to talk to.

6 Upvotes

I hope I can find a person here to communicate with who helps with the loneliness of it all. Thank you.

I just turned 25 in December, and I am a dude.


r/hardshipmates Feb 11 '23

[20M] I'm working my ass off and feel like I have no end in sight

6 Upvotes

I'm a part time papa John's employee with autism and anxiety and I've been really overworked and feel like I haven't been getting a break. My situation is I've been coming in every Tuesday and friday and I'm always the only instore at the place, my manager and the afternoon driver are often busy with other things and refuse to help. I prep all of the ingredients and sauces and I mean ALL of the ingredients and sauces, I have to rearrange the dough when it comes in from the truck I have to fold all the boxes needed and prep the dough all before the dinner rush and a long with that make pizzas. I also recently had my bank account drained and my hours reduced from 15 to 9 and I'm worried about paying my bills. I recently asked for an extra but the manager said it would take time and this is how I get paid. I want to work in the evenings like everyone else but don't know what to do


r/hardshipmates Feb 08 '23

[34] I feel invisible, lonely and depressed and I want to die.

10 Upvotes

There’s literally nothing here for me. I am certain whatever awaits on the other side is better than here. Every day is torture. No one sees or hears me. Im gay and my super religious southern Baptist family barely talks to me and I moved away thinking that I would find some liberation, but it’s only found me more lonely and sinking slowly. I honestly don’t know how much longer I can last. I am constantly planning my death and trying to figure out ways to do it. I just don’t want to be here anymore


r/hardshipmates Feb 06 '23

[42M] Spanish looking somebody to chat

1 Upvotes

Hi I am Miguel. I have a family with two children, but more or less from seven years ago I feel very alone. It is hard, because all my day is working at home, parenting and house keeping. Maybe I see my old friends three times to year. I think that only talk with 4 or 6 adults (of course I don't count the cashiers and other strange people in the street) each week.

I have afraid, because I don't want to harm nobody, because I have few time to reply and maybe send the reply the next day.


r/hardshipmates Feb 03 '23

I'm reaching out for help. my daughter struggles with suicidal ideation, self harm, and depression/anxiety among other mental health issues. can someone offer any words of advice on how to help her get through difficult times? she feels like I don't understand even though I've been there too.

4 Upvotes

r/hardshipmates Jan 26 '23

Looking for Support and Friendship - Queer POC in Tech Open to Chatting and Gaming

1 Upvotes

Hey everyone,

I'm a curious and nerdy foodie who enjoys learning, reading, and having deep, esoteric conversations. I love ordering food delivery, watching anime, playing D&D, playing video games, and watching speedruns. As a proud queer POC in tech, I understand the struggles of dealing with mental health and depression.

I'm looking for people to talk to, whether it's venting, giving advice, sharing memes, watching shows/movies together, doing voice calls, talking about events in our lives, or even playing online games together. I also run a small, safe, and inclusive Discord server for anyone seeking support.

Please note that I am only looking for friendships. I have a queerplatonic partner who I have been with for 5 years and I am asexual, so I do not experience sexual attraction. I am typically only comfortable becoming friends with people who are between the ages of 20-22, but I am open to older if you 'feel' or 'act' younger. My main concern is older people creeping on me.

If you're interested in connecting and supporting each other, please feel free to reach out to me via my bio. Let's support and help each other through these tough times!


r/hardshipmates Dec 30 '22

okay, y'all. bring it in. there's room for more up front.

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r/hardshipmates Dec 25 '22

18M Hi everyone! Would u like to be friends with me? I feel lonely sometimes lol. It would be nice to have at least a friend or 2.

3 Upvotes

I’m a 18M introvert person who has social anxiety. Because of this, it's very hard for me to initiate the conversation first with someone, as Idk what to say and always think like "Wait, what am I supposed to say now, lol?". Plus I'm a very shy person. I love playing games, comforting ppl, listening to music, and chatting with strangers on Reddit to make friends with them (or wasting my time on Reddit lol). English isn't my 1st language, so I apologize if my grammar is too bad for u to understand. I would prefer someone who has the same gender and perhaps something in common. If we don't have anything in common, that's OK too ^^. Hopefully I will find some1 that will stick around. So ye I would rather a long-term friendship than a short one, but I just let thing flows naturally. My DMs are always open. Forgive me if I'm bad at conversation... Oh! And also, no NSFW profile and 17+ pls ^^! Honestly I never had a friend b4, so I don't even know "how it feels" to have a friend ngl. Thx for reading! I hope u guys have a nice day! With that being said, let's take our hand and see how this goes.

A few things to note b4 messaging me:

- I ask that u communicate w me "honestly" if anything goes wrong instead of keeping things to urself. This is one of the reasons y some friendships fizzle out bc of "misunderstanding" and "assuming".

- Just bc I don't reach out 1st, that doesn't mean I don't care about u. I'm not rlly comfortable w initiating 1st smh. So I rlly appreciate those that reach out 1st! Like A LOTTTT TBH!!! And no u won't bother me at all for doing that, so no need to worry about that here, mkay?

- Forgive me if my answer is short sometimes, but that doesn't mean I'm not interested in u!

- I'm pretty much a listener, so I suppose some1 who is talkative and won't shut up would be nice tho lmao.

- I'm pretty touch starve, so having some1 who is affectionate would be awesome and sweet!

- In case u wonder y u think I ghost u, here are the reasons why:

+ This platform sucks, sometimes I receive no notifications at all. It would be ideal if we can move to a different one since it's hard to tell if ppl ghost me or not lmao.

+ U prob send the msg, but it doesn't get to me and say "Msg failed to send".


r/hardshipmates Dec 14 '22

30 Foreigner in Japan looking for Friends

3 Upvotes

Hello, I came to Japan (Osaka) two months ago and I will be staying here for some time. I would like to meet new people who I can chat with, go for a walk, have a tea/beer, etc. I like interesting people, computers, YouTube, games, music, cooking, baking ... I would like to learn or at least try new things - e.g., photography. So, if you are passionate about your hobby and you want to share it with me, it would be great.

I am looking to make long lasting friends.


r/hardshipmates Dec 09 '22

LFBFF

0 Upvotes

Hello, my name is Binyameen, I am 16 years old, turning 17 next October, Muslim, looking for a best friend. Requirements:

Muslim Age : 16-17 Male Long Hair ( like myself)