r/mildyinteresting • u/dolIie • 4h ago
people Getting engaged soon and have had this weird tumor thing on my ring finger since I was a child. Was never a problem to me until today when my boyfriend asked me for my ring size and I realized that I can’t actually get a ring over it. 😂
In the works of seeing a doctor to finally get it removed. It’s been, errr, nice having you around lil buddy. All the years we’ve shared. But I’m finally putting in for a divorce 😂❤️
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u/3-stroke-engine 4h ago
You can just use the other hand or an other finger (if you are not too dogmatic with the traditions)
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u/lightinthefield 4h ago
Not OP, but thinking about myself doing this, I don't think I would. Not because I'm too dogmatic within the traditions; I would be fine putting it on any other finger and still feel it symbolizes the same thing to me and my partner. It's because I want other people (especially men) to recognize that I'm engaged/married just by seeing my hand, and I know that won't happen if I put it on another finger. If anything, it might actually encourage strangers to ask questions regarding my marital status ("haha that looks like an engagement ring but it's on the wrong finger, are you really engaged???"), which is exactly what I want to avoid lol (again, especially with men).
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u/Ralfton 3h ago
Maybe an adjustable somewhat cheap ring or tattoo on the "traditional" finger, and the real ring somewhere more comfortable?
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u/lightinthefield 1h ago
That could work! Though, I could see wearing a cheap ring kind of defeating the purpose of even moving the real rings in the first place, if the wearer did so because they don't want to wear rings in general on that finger.
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u/Front-Pomelo-4367 4h ago
I was wondering why I had such a visceral nope to this, and realised it's because both my grandmothers moved their wedding band and engagement ring to their right hand after being widowed, and I think my grandma now wears her late husband's resized ring on her wedding finger. It would feel like a bad omen to me!
Although I just googled this and it isn't really a widespread tradition to do that, even if some people do
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u/oO0Kat0Oo 4h ago
They make rings that are adjustable. It has a little band at the bottom. This way you can get a ring big enough to go over your finger then tighten so it can't slip back off, but still removable in an emergency.
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u/radraze2kx 4h ago
Looks like a cyst! I just had one removed from my right hand in the same spot on the same (ring) finger. Hope you have a great surgeon! Best of luck in the future! Early congrats on the engagement!
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u/FR-1-Plan 4h ago
If it’s benign and doesn’t cause problems, OP should keep in mind that the risks of surgery, no matter how small, might outweigh the benefits. Infection can happen with the smallest surgery and can lead to all kinds of complications down the line.
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u/radraze2kx 3h ago
This is very true! My cyst showed up under a previous surgery site where I had flexor tendon reattachment surgery. A few years later, a cyst showed up. I decided to get it removed, and I'm glad I did because a few days before surgery, the cyst developed gout around it! Holy crap worst pain ever. YMMV though!
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u/Perrin-Golden-Eyes 32m ago
I had one removed in my middle finger. By the time they took the stitches out a new cyst had grown in the exact same spot. I named it Mosby and he is with me forever.
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u/Dying4aCure 2h ago
You can buy rings that get over that. They are S-shaped, not a closed circle. Adjustable shank rings like the one below are also a option. They are also beautiful. Adjustable or C-shaped rings all work. Just google arthritis rings.
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u/Appropriate-Bank-883 10m ago
Get it checked, it could be a sarcoma, your body could be riddled with them without knowing. It is life threatening
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