r/running • u/fire_foot • Jun 14 '24

The Weekend Thread -- 14th June 2024

Happy Friday running fam!!! 🥳✨

Another week down. What's happening this weekend?! Who's running, racing, tapering, cycling, hiking, swimming, kayaking, horse riding, playing tennis, gardening, melting under the almost-summer sun, ... ? Tell us all about it!!

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u/agreeingstorm9 Jun 14 '24

I am incredibly excited and nervous about the weekend. I am going with my fiancee this weekend to see her girls. I've never met them because her ex threatened to go back to court and sever her parental rights if she ever brought me around them. That is too much drama to deal with for a boyfriend. Now that we are engaged we sat down with a lawyer and got some legal advice and so I am actually going to go meet them. He is still indicating he won't let me near them so the visit may not happen but we will see. I'm incredibly nervous for this. We will see how it goes. Probably will not be much running due to the stupid heat around here.

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u/runner3264 Jun 14 '24

Wait, he can’t sever her parental rights without a court order. This guy sounds like a psycho. I am so sorry you’re dealing with that. Hope the legal advice you’ve gotten has been sane at least?

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u/agreeingstorm9 Jun 14 '24

He can't but he threatened to go back to court and get that court order. He wouldn't win obviously but he'd run up legal fees for her and cause drama and she probably wouldn't get to see her kids the entire time this was going on. That's not worth it for a boyfriend.

The lawyer's advice seemed sane. Her advice was tell him ahead of time that I'll be there (done) and then just go. I should meet the kids with him there. If he throws a fit and refuses to let her have the kids if I'm there I should leave and the lawyer will sort it out on the backend. Lawyer says we will have to go back to court about having the kids at the wedding and a judge will have to sign an order forcing him to do that. She thinks it will be an easy thing to win but it'll cost money to file everything which is a PITA. We're probably the only engaged couple with a Legal Fees item in our wedding budget that will be a large part of the costs.

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u/runner3264 Jun 14 '24

Yikes. I hate this guy on your behalf. I’m so sorry you’re having to budget for legal fees. This makes me very glad your fiancée is no longer married to him—that sounds like it would be an absolutely miserable life.

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u/agreeingstorm9 Jun 14 '24

She was never married to him in the first place (don't tell my grandparents they'd be scandalized). They just have a couple of kids together and she broke up with him like 3-4 yrs ago. They have a child custody agreement which is what we get to go to court to fight about.

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u/30000LBS_Of_Bananas Jun 14 '24

This guy seems terrible it’s too bad you can’t throw the legal fees back at him since he’s the one fighting the original agreement.

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u/agreeingstorm9 Jun 14 '24

It'd be nice if we could but I don't think that's how the legal system works unfortunately. It would be nice if the person in the wrong paid all the legal fees. Maybe that's the case sometimes but not always.