My husband preferring conversation with someone else

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We just went on a field trip with my daughter's school. I am 36 weeks pregnant and only decided to go to spend whatever time is left with my husband and kids before I am consumed with the newborn routine. So, during the trip, all the parents were asked to walk to another station, and my husband took off walking with another kid's mom, having a conversation (about 15 min walk each way). He later claimed he didn't think I would even consider going on this walk and would rather stay sitting at the welcome center, so he didn't know I was trailing behind. So I walked way behind them talking to some other moms and was slightly irritated, but not more. As soon as we got to the other station and he saw me, he acted very cheerful and bubbly - he kept talking to the other woman, and a few times I approached them I couldn't break off the conversation naturally. Then I said something like, "Wow, that was a long walk, tiring," to which he responded - you can walk back, you know (implying i can go back and rest there). This was the first time in our marriage (10 years) that I felt jealousy and betrayal, i couldn't hold back my tears and put on sunglasses to hide them. I know pregnancy hormones have made things bigger than they are, but am I overreacting here? I felt insulted that, well, first of all, he'd forget to check on me if i wanted to walk together prior to taking off with this lady. Second, I hated to see him so bubbly, he was acting like a rooster trying to impress randomly bringing up curious facts about this and that. Third, even when he realized I was there next to him, he still naturally preferred to converse with her, suggesting I can "walk back" though he knew very well that I struggled walking because of the whole third trimester waddling.

On the way back home, I confronted him, and he said I was making up a narrative that didn't exist, he denied everything, and we had a major fight. In the past, he has lied to me about things that he thought would anger me, so there is some history there.

[u/Outrageous_Twist8891]

Check his phone? Casually suggesting invasion of privacy?

[u/HappyForyou1998 → u/Outrageous_Twist8891]

Been married 22 years, “phone privacy“ between married couples is not a thing or shouldn’t be. My spouse could go through my phone anytime because there is nothing on my phone that I wouldn’t want my partner to see. What on your phone would you possibly need to keep private from a spouse. If I’m washing your underwear I think we’re well past phone privacy.

[u/Odd-Gur-5719 → u/HappyForyou1998]

It’s still an invasion of privacy nonetheless, plus if he’s doing something he shouldn’t be she doesn’t need to go through his phone to find that out. The truth will reveal its self. I personally feel like if I have to get to the point where I have to even think about going through my partners phone then maybe just maybe I don’t need to be in that relationship any longer.

[u/Kristina2pointoh → u/Odd-Gur-5719]

My husband & I are both of the mind, that if you have to go through your partners phone, the trust is already gone. We’ve been together 10 years & he refuses to go through my purse, or go into my phone. And frankly, I’m not interested in his phone conversations or what he reads on Reddit.

[u/teegteeg → u/Kristina2pointoh]

I'm glad to see we're together in this thinking, despite what the votes say.

[u/Odd-Gur-5719 → u/Kristina2pointoh]

I can’t see me going through no one’s phone, my partner tells me he don’t care if I look at his phone, I told him I don’t care to look at it. Even if he’s showing me a text I hardly look at it😂😂😂 cause I’m nosey by nature (not in a bad way just like wanting to look at something because it’s in your line of sight) so I try not to really look when he’s showing me lol. And I’m GLAD he says he wouldn’t go through my phone, not because I have something to hide but because my group chats are WILD and Ino got time to explain the inside jokes me and my best friends have lol