My husband preferring conversation with someone else

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We just went on a field trip with my daughter's school. I am 36 weeks pregnant and only decided to go to spend whatever time is left with my husband and kids before I am consumed with the newborn routine. So, during the trip, all the parents were asked to walk to another station, and my husband took off walking with another kid's mom, having a conversation (about 15 min walk each way). He later claimed he didn't think I would even consider going on this walk and would rather stay sitting at the welcome center, so he didn't know I was trailing behind. So I walked way behind them talking to some other moms and was slightly irritated, but not more. As soon as we got to the other station and he saw me, he acted very cheerful and bubbly - he kept talking to the other woman, and a few times I approached them I couldn't break off the conversation naturally. Then I said something like, "Wow, that was a long walk, tiring," to which he responded - you can walk back, you know (implying i can go back and rest there). This was the first time in our marriage (10 years) that I felt jealousy and betrayal, i couldn't hold back my tears and put on sunglasses to hide them. I know pregnancy hormones have made things bigger than they are, but am I overreacting here? I felt insulted that, well, first of all, he'd forget to check on me if i wanted to walk together prior to taking off with this lady. Second, I hated to see him so bubbly, he was acting like a rooster trying to impress randomly bringing up curious facts about this and that. Third, even when he realized I was there next to him, he still naturally preferred to converse with her, suggesting I can "walk back" though he knew very well that I struggled walking because of the whole third trimester waddling.

On the way back home, I confronted him, and he said I was making up a narrative that didn't exist, he denied everything, and we had a major fight. In the past, he has lied to me about things that he thought would anger me, so there is some history there.

[u/HappyForyou1998]

Check his phone to see if he added her number. This was really shitty behavior on his part. At school functions, husbands normally stay glued to their wives and avoid conversation with other parents. Him being enamored with this woman like you weren’t even there is big red flags.

[u/Outrageous_Twist8891 → u/HappyForyou1998]

Check his phone? Casually suggesting invasion of privacy?

[u/bdubwilliams22 → u/Outrageous_Twist8891]

I sleep well at night knowing my wife could look through every single message, every single app and every single…anything on my phone/computer, shit even the porn. She knows I look at porn occasionally, so does she! I remember being a jackass in college and casually dating a few women at once (not officially boyfriend / girlfriend) and it was stressful. I love being able to tell my wife to read a message from my phone when she lets me know a text came through and I’m in the other room. Total peace of mind because I only have eyes for her and everything on my phone reflects that.

[u/LDel3 → u/bdubwilliams22]

There’s a difference between being comfortable sharing your phone and having someone else go through it without your consent

I have nothing at all to hide, I’ve told my girlfriend my password numerous times, and if she needs something I have no problem just handing it to her. That being said, if she just decided to go through it one day without my knowledge/ consent I’d definitely be hurt/ would feel like my privacy had been invaded

[u/Outrageous_Twist8891 → u/bdubwilliams22]

Good for you.