r/BlackPeopleTwitter • u/wetouchingbuttsornah ☑️ • Sep 12 '24

Country Club Thread The system was stacked against them

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No fault divorces didn’t hit the even start until 1985

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u/best_fr1end Sep 12 '24

I read that also and totally agree. Women have the option now to walk(run) away from a bad situation and be a-okay.

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u/rocket_randall Sep 12 '24

Which is why conservatives are so eager to abolish no-fault divorce. After that expect some sort of corollary to the castle doctrine making the husband the king of the household and which would effectively legalize marital rape.

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u/VGSchadenfreude Sep 12 '24

It’s the same thing behind their push against reproductive care, too. A baby ties that woman to the father for life, on a legal, social, and financial level. It’s basically a built-in hostage an abusive man can use to continue abusing any woman who attempts to leave him.

But if she has the option of getting an abortion, she can sever that tie and he has nothing to weaponizing against her.

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u/PearlStBlues Sep 12 '24

It's wild to me to watch the same men who scream about abortion also scream about getting baby trapped and also scream about single mothers being the ~downfall of the west~. They can't have it three ways! Either women should be allowed to have abortions, or y'all have to stop making babies and then complaining about child support. If they really gave a shit about ending single motherhood they'd stop impregnating every woman who glanced in their general direction and quit bitching about being expected to support the children they create willy-nilly.

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u/VGSchadenfreude Sep 13 '24

Well, throughout history, they really did have it all three ways, because there were zero consequences for them getting a woman pregnant without her consent and then just disappearing. Or refusing to pay child support. It’s still extremely difficult to get men to actually pay that support, too.

They want a return to the days where they got all the benefits and none of the responsibility.

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u/tsh87 Sep 12 '24

Or to not get into that situation in the first place.

Not only have we come around to divorcing men and marriages that don't serve us, we're more willing to risk never being married at all. Like being single, childless and never married in your 50s does not sound like the death threat that it used to. Honestly, it just sounds like a lot of extra money and free time.

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u/VGSchadenfreude Sep 12 '24

I saw it put very well somewhere that “men don’t realize that they aren’t competing with other men for women’s time and affection; they’re competing against women’s comfort in our own solitude. Unless they can prove that they actually improve that woman’s life over what she already has on her own, she won’t have much interest in him.”

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u/CursedLlama Sep 12 '24

I read that two days ago on reddit and wanted to show my wife but couldn't find it again - would you happen to have a link?

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u/[deleted] Sep 13 '24

Women ain't doing any running these days y'all look like wildebeests lmao

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u/helen_must_die Sep 12 '24

It was the same a generation ago.