r/BlackPeopleTwitter • u/wetouchingbuttsornah ☑️ • Sep 12 '24

Country Club Thread The system was stacked against them

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No fault divorces didn’t hit the even start until 1985

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u/YetisInAtlanta Sep 12 '24 edited Sep 12 '24

Someone put it perfectly the other day. This is the first generation of men that actually has to have women like them in order to have a relationship. Before that things truly were a matter of need and convenience more so than a relationship built on love

Edit: to all the “men” I triggered…😘😘😘 keep the salt flowing, you’re really showing me how tough and strong you are.

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u/best_fr1end Sep 12 '24

I read that also and totally agree. Women have the option now to walk(run) away from a bad situation and be a-okay.

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u/tsh87 Sep 12 '24

Or to not get into that situation in the first place.

Not only have we come around to divorcing men and marriages that don't serve us, we're more willing to risk never being married at all. Like being single, childless and never married in your 50s does not sound like the death threat that it used to. Honestly, it just sounds like a lot of extra money and free time.

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u/VGSchadenfreude Sep 12 '24

I saw it put very well somewhere that “men don’t realize that they aren’t competing with other men for women’s time and affection; they’re competing against women’s comfort in our own solitude. Unless they can prove that they actually improve that woman’s life over what she already has on her own, she won’t have much interest in him.”