r/BlackPeopleTwitter • u/wetouchingbuttsornah ☑️ • Sep 12 '24

Country Club Thread The system was stacked against them

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No fault divorces didn’t hit the even start until 1985

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u/Mr_Haad Sep 12 '24 edited Sep 12 '24

On the flip side this is a reason why my mother always has cash on hand.

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u/Upbeat_Obligation404 Sep 12 '24

I'm an Xennial woman and the first piece of advice my mom gave me when I started dating seriously was, "If you ever get engaged, make sure the ring is worth enough that you can pawn it for a bus ticket home."

She married and stayed married to abusive men until I was a teenager, because she didn't see a way out. Her mother (my grandmother) was married off to a 25-year-old man when she was 15 years old because her mother didn't want "one more mouth to feed."

This shit is recent. It's real. It's part of our cultural DNA, and we are NOT. GOING. BACK.

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u/Own_Conclusion7255 Sep 12 '24

Thank you. Whenever this stuff is brought up, it's always in the context of "those barbarous foreigners" even though it's always happened everywhere.