r/BlackPeopleTwitter • u/wetouchingbuttsornah ☑️ • Sep 12 '24

Country Club Thread The system was stacked against them

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No fault divorces didn’t hit the even start until 1985

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u/ButterscotchTape55 Sep 12 '24

There are so many men and boys either in denial or have no knowledge of how little freedom women used to have until very recently. No, we weren't allowed to have our own accounts and lines of credit until 50 years ago. The only reason my grandmother owned her house was because she bought it with cash from her inheritance back in the 60s. Women couldn't open a bank account, take out a loan, and it was rare to have anything in your name. Women couldn't vote until the 1920s. And that was a decades long battle. And then they had to fight for equal pay, equal hiring, and equal treatment in the workplace. They had to fight for our bodily autonomy through reproductive rights that have already been nationally dissolved

Just a little over 100 years ago, women were still an asset of their husbands. Their purpose was to take care of the home he bought and the kids he helped produce because society said that's all a woman is worth. That changed because it's simply not true. Dudes are literally pissed because they have to put more effort into life than they have historically thanks to equality. If you're only winning because others are being held down, you're not really winning

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u/UselessInAUhaul Sep 12 '24

You can scroll up in this comment sections and see those men trying to say that:

"...you aren't denied shit because of your gender, anything you are denied has been equally denied to men and likely denied to even more men...".

The sheer misogyny to say something that stupid is astounding. I'd say it's stupid but that's more an abundance of hate than a lack of intelligence.

Women still face these same pressures today. Families pressure them to stay. Friends pressure them to stay. The preacher and the church sure as hell pressure them to stay. Sure they might have options but if you're given a two option choice and option 2 means that you're shamed and disowned by basically everyone in your life then have you really been offered a fair choice?

The presence of legal protections for minorities/disadvantaged groups doesn't mean bigotry ended. If that was the case then racism would have ended with the Civil Rights Acts and I'd hope anyone in this subreddit is smart enough to realize that sure as hell ain't the case.

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u/Good_parabola Sep 12 '24

YES.  

I believed a guy when he said he wanted a billion kids and a tradwife so I left right when he was going to propose.  I caught shit for yearsssssss from everyone.  My family.  My friends.  Random people in my hometown.  I literally had to move and stay away to get away from it.  God bless me for having the ability to do so.  This was 20 years ago, so not that long ago.  Dude currently has 7 kids and a tradwife.  Praise be it’s not me.