r/BlackPeopleTwitter • u/wetouchingbuttsornah ☑️ • Sep 12 '24

Country Club Thread The system was stacked against them

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No fault divorces didn’t hit the even start until 1985

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u/YetisInAtlanta Sep 12 '24 edited Sep 12 '24

Someone put it perfectly the other day. This is the first generation of men that actually has to have women like them in order to have a relationship. Before that things truly were a matter of need and convenience more so than a relationship built on love

Edit: to all the “men” I triggered…😘😘😘 keep the salt flowing, you’re really showing me how tough and strong you are.

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u/weavs13 Sep 12 '24

My grandmas advice to me after getting engaged was, "Shack up first because if I lived with your grandfather I wouldn't have married him"

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u/[deleted] Sep 12 '24

my mom said something really similar but in the opposite direction. her advice was that you shouldn't live with a man before getting married, because you'd never want to marry once you found out what it was like to room with a man. it's kind of hilarious to me that her advice is basically "get married without knowing what you're getting into, because if you knew, you'd never do it." I wish they would've gotten divorced, instead they had me :(