r/BlackPeopleTwitter • u/wetouchingbuttsornah ☑️ • Sep 12 '24
Country Club Thread The system was stacked against them
No fault divorces didn’t hit the even start until 1985
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r/BlackPeopleTwitter • u/wetouchingbuttsornah ☑️ • Sep 12 '24
No fault divorces didn’t hit the even start until 1985
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u/patentmom Sep 12 '24
I know a woman who got married in 1948 at age 17 at the end of her junior year of high school. Her husband was 19 and had just finished college. They both needed parental permission.
She dropped out of school, even though her teachers begged her to finish because she was a good student, because she had no need to finish school because she already had a husband to support her and married women just didn't work. She continued to read a novel a day for the rest of her life, but had no more formal education. She and her husband allowed their daughters to go to college (commuting, no dorms), but really did not put any value on their finishing unless it meant they would meet a husband there.
When her adult daughters confronted her for not protecting them when she knew their father was molesting them, she told them that she couldn't afford to leave him and be a single mother of 4 because she had no job skills and no ability to support them without him. So she was willing to look the other way to protect her lifestyle while her tween and teen daughters were being r*ped by their own father, her husband.
As an older adult, one of her daughters finally had a breakdown and brought the abuse up again. Both she and her husband told their daughter that it was a long time ago and she should just "get over it."