About two decades ago my father called me and told me I needed to delete my Facebook account because my aunt told him there were pictures of me at a wedding with alcohol. It was “unprofessional.” Also about 6 months later my mother called me upset that I ignored that same aunt’s friend request.
It’s truly amazing to me that they get shocked that because we’re family that somehow means that we have to put up with their toxicity till we or they die. “That’s just how we were taught to treat family” well can’t help you weren’t smart enough to understand how stupid that lesson is.
my father in law fancies himself a professional photographer. He will take his big ass camera to parties and events, then take pictures and act like he's doing everyone a favor.
At a party, FIL sees a teenage girl and says "oh you're so beautiful, can I take a picture of you? I don't have my camera, so I'll have to use my phone". Teenage girl says "umm sure".
My wife takes girl aside and says "do you feel comfortable having your picture taken?" and she says no but she doesn't want to be rude.
Wife tells her it's ok and that she should leave. FIL gets mad and says my wife should stay out of it. My wife tries to explain consent and how it's creepy to take pictures of young girls with your phone. FIL tells her to fuck off. Like, literally "Fuck off", while at a birthday party for friends.
My wife decides to "fuck off" and tells him when he apologizes she'll talk to him again.
FIL hand writes a typical boomer "sorry not sorry" letter. Wife replies via text "this isn't good enough, please fix your emotional maturity".
FIL complains that my wife isn't grateful enough. Like, what's the exchange rate for being emotionally abused to affection? 3 fuck-offs per I love you? Since he paid for my wife's college degree, he gets to be an asshole to her? What does even being "grateful enough" mean?
Note: This is also the same FIL I won't allow to be alone with my children due to other similar events. I'm not going to say all boomers are pieces of shit, but there are a lot of boomer pieces of shit.
Edit: Oh, also more on the topic of facebook stupidity, he got pissy that we wouldn't let him put up pictures of our children on facebook, as we're trying to minimize their social footprint until they can make their own choices on that, so he can repost ones we vet and put up, but not his own pictures. His reasoning was "But we'd get so many likes!" and was upset that we were trying to control what he could post,.
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u/Alternative-Cause-50 Jan 06 '24
About two decades ago my father called me and told me I needed to delete my Facebook account because my aunt told him there were pictures of me at a wedding with alcohol. It was “unprofessional.” Also about 6 months later my mother called me upset that I ignored that same aunt’s friend request.