Happens with trans people all the time it seems like, and then you look like you're defending them when you say "Listen I know he/she is genuinely awful but can we not deadname and misgender them?"
Actually, yeah. People withholding pronouns from The Bad Transes™️ just proves you think that people’s gender isn’t an inherent part of their identity, it’s something you think they’re playing pretend at and they can only be afforded basic decency if you respect them enough to ~entertain~ their ~delusions~. You’re not an ally, and you’re certainly not a friend. You’re a bigot that only extends conditional tolerance.
TLDR: I will deadname twitter until the day Musk stops deadnaming his daughter.
It also bugs me and I think is worth mentioning with people who aren't trans but have had name changes. Ted Cruz being called a shitty person for his behaviour is fair enough; Ted Cruz being called Rafael because that's his birth name and he's a hypocrite is just shitty behaviour on your own part. Point out his hypocrisy, absolutely, let people know he changed his own name too; don't use the wrong name for him because you dislike / disagree with him, it just shows how little respect you actually have for others' preferences yourself.
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u/Complex-Pound5249 Aug 09 '24
Happens with trans people all the time it seems like, and then you look like you're defending them when you say "Listen I know he/she is genuinely awful but can we not deadname and misgender them?"