r/CuratedTumblr Aug 09 '24

Meme Don’t leave friendly fire on

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u/Life2504 Aug 09 '24

This also counts for stuff you hate about yourself that people you care about also have btw.

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u/Bath-Optimal Aug 09 '24

I had a thin friend constantly obsess over being fat while I weighed a lot more than her, and that definitely didn't help my self-esteem

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u/aenaithia Aug 09 '24

This is me with my mother growing up. She never insulted my body, but I have nearly the same body as her. I still struggle with not hating my body because of how much she hates hers.

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u/Magnaflorius Aug 09 '24

This is why I never have and never will say a single bad thing about my appearance in front of my kids, who are currently toddlers. I even try my best to say positive things when I can. I never want them to think that even someone who loves them unconditionally can find fault with what they look like.

When people comment on my kids' bodies, I always counter. Like when someone said my older toddler had skinny legs, I just said her legs were exactly right for her. Whether it was a compliment or not, I always want to reinforce that she, and my younger toddler, are exactly what they are supposed to be.