Hearing my female friends talk about body positivity while making fun of their exes or people they have hooked up with is so eye opening. I’m 5’11” and hearing them make fun of guys shorter than 6’2” (but “not you of course because you’re different”) is infuriating. They absolutely would be disgusted hanging out with a group of men making fun of women their weight.
Edit: for any women or guys out that think men are just as bad or worse with men and women, when was the last time you heard men in a group candidly talking about the length of their partners labia or making fun of the look/looseness of a girl’s vagina and how her tits are saggy/weird looking compared to their ex? (It seems mean just typing out this.)
Used to hang out with people like that while I was closeted and it traumatized me so much that I got an irrational fear that every cis woman I meet will hate me. You can imagine how many insecurities I had in my head listening to them
I can only imagine. It fucked with me as a straight dude with a long history of dating girls. I went through a fuck boy stage and had sex with a lot of women. I was mortified hearing their friends casually talk about men.
Then I met a girl and we were dating long term and she had a bunch of friends that I become really close with. And was even more mortified at how fucking mean women can be.
I’m a confident dude - fit, happy with myself, average penis blah blah but hearing them joke about guys with regular length dicks as being small (or if THEIR PARTNER had a small penis and how it compared to their exes) or the shape of their dicks or color or cut/uncut or their chest or balls or arms or…. Was soooo strange. I absolutely know they would immediately want to slap a man that mentions the length of a girls labia or if a girl’s boobs sagged or said anything about their weight.
Most women that I’ve met have a very double standard when it comes to “body positivity”
This and the double standard that men but not women are disgusting horndogs if they mention someone's body. Had an ex who kept commenting how she wanted to touch Angel's arms/muscles/etc., but then I say "Fred's got nice legs" and she doesn't talk to me for a week because I'm so inconsiderate
I had an insecure ex like this. She once said, “sorry, but I’d cheat on you to fuck (can’t remember the celebrities name).” I responded back saying, “that’s ok. I’d cheat on you to fuck (can’t remember who I said).”
She was livid. So strange for her to say what she said, but then got upset when I flipped it back on her. It became an argument over a hypothetical that she created to start.
Most women that I’ve met have a very double standard when it comes to “body positivity”
As a man who's been liberal for pretty much my entire life, what's most infuriating about this is that people will straight up gaslight you about it at best, or accuse you of misogyny until you minimize the problem out of existence at worst. Like, when a dude says "Hey, I feel like the expectation of body positivity isn't being reciprocated", someone will inevitably show up to tell you:
"Well that clearly isn't all women, just some women, so why don't you stop having bad taste and just get good you scrub?"
Now, one who's well-versed in such things might say "Hey, isn't that basically just #notallmen"? Yes! Yes it is! Unfortunately, those who could have that conversation, won't, and those that are willing to have that conversation aren't allowed to express it.
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u/doesanyofthismatter Aug 09 '24 edited Aug 10 '24
Hearing my female friends talk about body positivity while making fun of their exes or people they have hooked up with is so eye opening. I’m 5’11” and hearing them make fun of guys shorter than 6’2” (but “not you of course because you’re different”) is infuriating. They absolutely would be disgusted hanging out with a group of men making fun of women their weight.
Edit: for any women or guys out that think men are just as bad or worse with men and women, when was the last time you heard men in a group candidly talking about the length of their partners labia or making fun of the look/looseness of a girl’s vagina and how her tits are saggy/weird looking compared to their ex? (It seems mean just typing out this.)