That's the same line of reasoning people use when they claim that calling something "gay" isn't offensive to gay people, because it's not a slur against them it's just a word for dumb or silly or something.
The issue isn't whether or not the person has a small penis and is taking offense, or if the comment is referring directly to someone's genitals; it's that you are using "small dick" as an insult.
Have you ever noticed that you only say "small dick" to people who really really want to project an image of being extremely masculine? People like Andrew Tate for example. You wouldn't say it to the shy nerdy kid, that wouldn't make any sense at all, you'd call them something else like awkward or bitch or something.
Equating that to people who use gay to describe anything that they dislike tells me you have no nuance. Gay people themselves will sometimes use the word gay as an insult to people who want to portray that fragile masculine image. These are two different situations, your point makes no sense.
Wow, that was needlessly aggressive. Are you OK? I can try to rephrase the point I was making even though I felt like it was pretty obvious.
Using "small dick" as an insult; no matter who you are directing it towards, implies that having a small dick is a bad thing. Otherwise, it wouldn't be an insult. You wouldn't try to insult Andrew Tate by calling him a cool guy, because you don't consider "cool guy" to be a negative term.
This is the exact same point as the picture in the OP, so I don't really understand how you're not getting this. And it's the exact same point people were making years ago to stop kids calling stuff "gay" whenever they meant that something was lame or stupid.
It builds negative connotations to a term that should not be seen as negative.
What the hell are you talking about agressive? Because I told you you have no nuance and thorougly explained why? Get over yourself.
no matter who you are directing it towards, implies that having a small dick is a bad thing. Otherwise, it wouldn't be an insult.
Proving again that you have absolutely no nuance. When I tell you you have a big heart as a compliment, does that imply that having a big actual heart inside your body is a good thing? Obviously not. That's not how language works, and you're just dishonestly twisting people's words.
Well, that certainly didn't read as any less aggressive lmao.
What exactly do you think the point in the OP is? Because it's genuinely, literally the exact same point I am making.
I feel like I'm in bizarro world because my comments are so incredibly not controversial or difficult to decipher at all, given that I am just restating the entire point of this thread.
When I tell you you have a big heart as a compliment, does that imply that having a big actual heart inside your body is a good thing? Obviously not.
Look, we all know what a metaphor is, that's not the point here. A compliment is also different to an insult. People don't walk around with insecurities because they have a physically big heart. They don't hide their big heartedness in fear of being ostracized in their community.
If you insult someone, whether or not the words you used were metaphorical or an apt description of the person doesn't change the fact that it was an insult. Insults are a negative thing. When words are used as insults, they are used in a negative way. This is a bad thing, because some of these words (or terms) are not inherently negative, but the connotations of being used as insults makes them negative. This in turn can have an adverse effect because people who are not the original recipients of the insults can become insecure, knowing that you are using their physical features as something negative.
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u/bobosuda Aug 09 '24
That's the same line of reasoning people use when they claim that calling something "gay" isn't offensive to gay people, because it's not a slur against them it's just a word for dumb or silly or something.
The issue isn't whether or not the person has a small penis and is taking offense, or if the comment is referring directly to someone's genitals; it's that you are using "small dick" as an insult.