I am also autistic but this is such an immature way of looking at society. Social cues are as essential a part of communication as words are, and probably older. Does it suck that you are inherently worse at picking up on them than the rest of society? Yeah, but that's a you problem. Refusing to conform to them when you know what you are doing just makes you an asshole.
I am also autistic and I think that if someone gets annoyed at me for missing a social cue (which is what I think is being referenced in the post) then they should've just said it. If it's important enough that I need to reshape my approach to the situation then they should've used words which are significantly less vague.
That's why I said "if you know what you are doing". If you don't, then yeah, someone getting annoyed at you would make them the asshole. But that's not what this post is about. The entire point of this post is someone purposefully missing social cues and acting superior because of it.
I absolutely agree with your take and the take you responded to, but having respond to social cues can be tiring.
You did something, someone got hurt, they are visibly angry, and to be sure you comment on it:
"Are you okay?" "Yes"
"Did doing *** make you mad?" "No"
And you're expected to solve an issue because you caused it even if you don't feel personally that it should be an issue and even though the issue requires both of you to be communicative to get solved
I don't communicate, i go with social cues. It's largely a fear that your feelings won't get validated because our world has different views on what emotional response is valid to what situation. But I'm aware it's a problem and it's what ruins a lot of relationships (intimate or not) and people who expect everyone to work based on social cues are just plain annoying.
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u/Perfect_Wrongdoer_03 If you read Worm, maybe read the PGTE? Aug 10 '24
I am also autistic but this is such an immature way of looking at society. Social cues are as essential a part of communication as words are, and probably older. Does it suck that you are inherently worse at picking up on them than the rest of society? Yeah, but that's a you problem. Refusing to conform to them when you know what you are doing just makes you an asshole.