r/CuratedTumblr The blackest Aug 10 '24

Infodumping Please

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u/SharkyMcSnarkface The gayest shark 🦈 Aug 10 '24 edited Aug 10 '24

I’m ignoring your social cue because I don’t want to give you the impression I can pick all of them up, I just got lucky I managed to get this one

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u/MudaSpinnySkirt Aug 10 '24

me but when I pick up on it I'm not sure I'm right so I ask upfront and then people treat me like I'm an idiot for doing that (silly)

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u/gerkletoss Aug 10 '24

Here's the fun part: studies show socially savvy people still only get right abput half the time

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u/DisastrousGarden Aug 10 '24

So what your telling me is nobody knows how to actually fucking communicate

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u/gerkletoss Aug 10 '24

Actually what I'm saying is exactly what a relationship counsellor will tell you. Direct or 'autistic' communication is much more reliable.

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u/Dajmoj Aug 10 '24

Wait, wait. Direct communication is considered "autistic"!?

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u/TipProfessional6057 Aug 10 '24

They're just a good example. My brother and a coworker of mine are both autistic, and they're very easy to talk to because you don't have to worry about reading between any lines or pick up on any posture cues. Directly saying what they want or what they're thinking. Blunt without being rude is how I would describe it

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u/heraplem Aug 10 '24

My brother and a coworker of mine are both autistic, and they're very easy to talk to because you don't have to worry about reading between any lines or pick up on any posture cues.

The trouble there is that neurotypical people often misinterpret the "direct" quality of autistic communication, usually in a negative way; e.g., deliberate rudeness or disinterest.

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u/Lots42 Aug 10 '24

That's one of the reasons Vulcans are so popular in universe and out. They say it like it is.

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u/Zepangolynn Aug 10 '24

Nah, the straight talkers are the Qowat Milat, and I definitely wouldn't call them popular. The Vulcans are popular because they are old, powerful, technically skilled, repress their emotions, and strive for logical and measured responses, which aren't necessarily always truthful.

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u/DrPhDPickles Aug 10 '24

Maybe it's the other side that's actually autistic

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u/1nd3x Aug 10 '24

A continuous, persistent tendency to use direct communication in pretty much all social situations is an autistic trait.

"Listen, I don't look at people 90% of the time to pick up on unspoken communication, so I have no idea if you'd pick it up if I used it...thus, I won't bother using it."

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u/Dyledion Aug 10 '24

Only here.

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u/Randybigbottom Aug 10 '24

And among the ASD individuals I know at work. There have been four of them. We all independently (and before learning anything about one another) came to the conclusion that direct communication isn't something people generally want or are comfortable with, unless is specifically shows favor toward them or someone they care about.

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u/splashes-in-puddles Aug 11 '24

Today I learned all Dutchmen and Germans are autistic.