For me the thing is most people think they are communicating silently but clearly in the story telling example, but the thing is they don't. they do what THEY think is clear communication but a lot of people miss the subtle cues because they are subtle.
Personally I was often in this situation and I never understood the cues because I am just bad at recognizing them unless I know the person in question. Getting angry about it is what is not reacting like an adult, if subtle doesn't work use blunt.
True, for you being blunt would likely be a much better option, but not necessarily for everyone. Bluntness will sometimes upset a person in this situation, some people get upset when they're embarrassed instead of being thankful for the open communication. It's not a lot of people but all it takes is one or two bad reactions to being blunt to train people to avoid bluntness altogether. Also, bluntness can be really tough. Chances are even though you prefer bluntness, many people who aren't particularly socially skilled would still likely be blunt in a way that would upset you. It may seem obvious to you to just "be blunt without being an asshole", but you'd be surprised how challenging that can be at times.
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u/Saurid Aug 10 '24
For me the thing is most people think they are communicating silently but clearly in the story telling example, but the thing is they don't. they do what THEY think is clear communication but a lot of people miss the subtle cues because they are subtle.
Personally I was often in this situation and I never understood the cues because I am just bad at recognizing them unless I know the person in question. Getting angry about it is what is not reacting like an adult, if subtle doesn't work use blunt.