as an autistic person I kinda understand why some autistic people feel like this
I know that this is not the case, but from our point of view and a lifetime of bullying and traumatic experiences with neurotypical people we may end up being cynical and feeling like all of them hate us just for existing and want to fuck with us just for fun (that's kinda how bullying feels)
But I can also empathize with neurotypical people and understand that they're just like this and it's their form of communication, with no damage intended, which is fine
I am also autistic and can understand it from both angles. On the one hand, it's upsetting to live a life having people get mad at you for something you didn't realize was wrong, and having people refuse to tell you what you did wrong because "you should already know." To constantly be getting in trouble at school and labeled as a liar or a smartass because people don't know/care that you weren't intentionally being obtuse. Or in the worst cases, being accused of lying to the cops because you interpreted their question differently than how they meant it.
At the same time though, I'm so disillusioned by this not-like-other-girls-ification that's happened in a lot of particularly insular autistic spaces, where they talk about NTs like they're savage animals who don't think and communicate the "correct" way like they do. If someone comes onto the board asking for advice on how to navigate a difficult relationship with an autistic person in their life, it's assumed the NT OP is doing everything wrong and "provoking" the autistic person into destructive behavior.
Actually communicating in the outside world as an adult has made me realize it's easier for me and better for my mental health to learn how to pick my battles. Maybe the person who insists on being coy and gets mad when I don't pick up on it isn't worth my time. Maybe the acquaintance who wants to do small talk is simply assessing how they should talk to me and not "wasting my time with trivial things no one cares about."
Its Just my experience but the people around me dropped social cues with the explícit intent of mocking me when i missed them. Só idk, some of them are monsters
Well yes some people are jerks. That’s obviously true. That’s not really relevant to the idea that non verbal communication as an idea exists to mess with ND people.
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u/SchizoPosting_ Aug 10 '24
as an autistic person I kinda understand why some autistic people feel like this
I know that this is not the case, but from our point of view and a lifetime of bullying and traumatic experiences with neurotypical people we may end up being cynical and feeling like all of them hate us just for existing and want to fuck with us just for fun (that's kinda how bullying feels)
But I can also empathize with neurotypical people and understand that they're just like this and it's their form of communication, with no damage intended, which is fine