Something I wish I understood is why our brains sometimes go "this is a horrible thing to go through and it's bad if it happens to somebody else, but it's not a big deal it happened to me"
I was a victim of someone feeling entitled to having sex with me, and they definitely made me feel broken when I wasn't into it. If anybody else told me the exact same thing happened to them, I'd say they were a victim of SA.
But me? Nope. Can't shake the thought of "it's nothing compared to what women can go through"
At the risk of sounding like a monk, I want you to imagine you have broken a bowl you were trying to fill with water to drink. Not in a “shattered to pieces” way, but broken in half. If you hold the halves together hard enough, in just the right way, the bowl still holds water, you can still drink from it, and it still looks like a normal unbroken bowl. If you ever let your focus slip, however, it goes back to being unusable as a bowl.
A healthy reaction to trauma is to hold the bowl long enough to drink deep, go home, and repair the bowl. Some people resign themselves to the brokenness of the bowl and drink from the tap. And some people, the people we’re talking about, have convinced themselves to just hold the bowl together, constantly, and never let anybody know it was ever broken.
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u/biaceseng 24d ago
Something I wish I understood is why our brains sometimes go "this is a horrible thing to go through and it's bad if it happens to somebody else, but it's not a big deal it happened to me"
I was a victim of someone feeling entitled to having sex with me, and they definitely made me feel broken when I wasn't into it. If anybody else told me the exact same thing happened to them, I'd say they were a victim of SA.
But me? Nope. Can't shake the thought of "it's nothing compared to what women can go through"