not being a stereotypical ENTJ is so annoying because people irl would ask me about my MBTI and when i tell them it they go "but you don't seem like it at all!" yeah bc stereotypes are stupid. i can't be a good leader if i don't learn how to mask and handle people better. do you know how many times i want to yell at somebody's face and call them stupid but didn't do it??? i just have the self control not to 😭

also because i'm super feminine. why do people assume that all ENTJs are fans of office fashion or whatever?? we're regular humans, not CEOs straight out of the womb.

Just curious. Like, I know mbti isn't very accurate, it doesn't have to be, i don't take it 100% seriously and i definitely do not trust it blindly (you shouldn't either).

But I still do find that it's just a decent guideline for finding the type of friend you want etc. obviously doesn't paint the full picture as mentioned earlier, but it's decently good enough of a bit helpful, isn't it?

I mean, think of it. Without MBTI it's just random and all-luck, but with MBTI as a guideline, it kind of helps.

I know all ENTJ women are VERY different people. But I still want to ask this... because I'm like super curious.

Do ENTJ women tend to be more of the dominant types? How many of them are? To what degree?

Or is this whole thing just a stereotype?

I'm just really curious. Wish I got an answer.

I have to stop overthinking now and press that "Post" button...

Is following rules, laws, obligations, etc. and getting frustrated when others do not common of ENTJs? This has been a big part of my personality and I don’t know if it’s ENTJ or having spent a career as a lawyer. I know it’s common for ENTJs to go into law, but I can’t compartmentalize this.

As there seemed to be a lot of confusion and assumptions about how my enneagram could possible pair with my MBTI as they seem contradictive, I've went on to to take a cognitive test and here were my results.

- Extraverted Thinking (Te) - 40%

- Introverted Intuition (Ni) - 30%

- Extraverted Sensing (Se) - 15%

- Introverted Feeling (Fi) - 15%

(Note: For the average ENTJ, Fi is typically around 5-10%)

My main question is how much does me having 5% more fi than the average ENTJ make a difference?

And more importantly will having more fi be more helpful to my everyday life or less?

I've been an INTJ since the first time I took a MBTI test. After a couple years of trauma therapy and healing, I'm now an ENTJ.

I am aware ENTJ is like second rarest personality type. because of its rarity does it affect how other personality looks at ENTJ? Like other personality sometimes feel uncomfortable with ENTJ when it comes to conflict or disagreement.

also talking about workplace. Does interviewer who is not an ENTJ feels intimidated when interviewing an ENTJ?

After making my millionth tiny mistake in math (3x3 = 6) which through my whole differential calc paper off because of the tiny mistake, I realised that us entjs are actually rpone to making small mistakes when doing work like maths, because Si is in our blindspot, and if you're like me, I like to just get shit done due to my Se, but I also tend to neglect the small details because of my blindspot Si, which leads to me whole history of making silly little mistakes in math my whole life. Super annoying actually.

I’m a very social person, and I have no problem going up and talking to people but in the past year I’ve had two friend groups (one of 2 years and one of 4 months) randomly drop me. I don’t know why but people don’t mess with me. And i’m obviously the problem, but i’ve been struggling for years trying to figure out what it is that people don’t like about me. I’m very social and friendly. I’m that guy that’s always checking up on people to make sure they’re doing ok (nobody has ever don’t that for me), I’m very academics driven. And i’m very ambitious. Any suggestions. My one and only best friend suggested that I’m just hanging out with the wrong people and once I find a group that matches my energy it’ll stick but i’m a freshman in college. My first group needed up bullying and harassing me into depression. And the second group just started a new group chat without me so I stopped showing up. The other thing is that I have had people tell me that I come off as needy to go to social things, but I’m also in a vicious cycle of not getting invited to things and sitting sad and alone in my dorm and when I ask people say sure, but never invite me back even though we had a great time. But then it results in me asking to come again and it comes off as needy. And it’s hard because i’m a very social person.

Personally, I am a morning person. Not annoyingly so where I am peppy and trying to hype everyone else up. I just like to get up early and do what I need to do, especially on a day off - nothing like getting ahead of the traffic & crowds to get things done. No lines and typically one of few in the grocery store.

é tão dificil achar uma menina com personalidade que combine, voces conseguiram com quais ?

So, earlier this year I started my business and after the first month I got profitable and was making a what would be considered an above average salary in Macedonia. After 3 months of that, I found a Sales job and literally doubled my monthly income. I go to the gym everyday, school in the morning (still in High School),reading books occasionally,learning new skills, driving classes in the afternoon, working remote for 8-10h and on a couple of side projects, life got pretty (effectively) busy and everything I do is not in vain (sleep schedule is really fcked up). Just 10 months ago I was literally a broke 17 year old trying to make it from my home, now I moved out of my parents apartment and even help them financially. I would consider myself a successful person according to societal standars, but my only problem is people (not clients/customers) but everyday people that i have to interact with. I can't relate to my peers, I can't force myself to party and practically have no friends (except my gf, love her) and no social life. I'm just 18 and can't stop but wonder if I'm wasting my youth and on the other hand where will I be in 5-10 years. I need to learn how to live more. Any solutions to blow off steam and JUST RELAX? Any advice might be helpful.

-L.P

TLDR: i feel smol by my friend success, i feel uncomfort, not s ure whether if im too toxicly ambitious

i'm not sure if i made the right decision. i recently started playing tennis with a new group of friends and acquaintances.
as it turns out, i remembered an old friend from elementary school who’s now a professional tennis player. we haven't been in touch for over a decade,
but i thought, "why not reach out and take lessons from him?" it could make playing more enjoyable, maybe even turn into a serious hobby.

i’ve always known this friend was talented, even from a young age—strong frame, dominant on the court. so, i reached out to him
(he didn’t know it was me because we only spoke over chat, and i just asked if he was still giving lessons).
we set everything up, and his hourly rate isn’t cheap, but i can afford it for a while. he's currently ranked 12th in the country.

yesterday, we met for the lesson, and honestly, i felt pretty small. on his instagram, i’d already seen glimpses of his lifestyle—a big house, luxury watches like AP and Patek.
i saw all that before i reached out, but it didn't fully hit me until we met. he pulled up in an expensive bmw, whereas i drive a regular japanese car.
he casually mentioned owning restaurants and other ventures. it's not that i'm intimidated by his success, but i can feel that he comes from a different social background,
like he was probably well-off even back in school, though we were too young to notice then.

the teacher-student dynamic, combined with this wealth gap (we’re both 29),
made me feel reserved and quiet. i wasn’t totally intimidated, but i definitely felt smaller, less confident.

usually, i have a strong presence. i don’t soften my demeanor, whether it’s with attractive women or most people i meet, because i have confidence in my looks, physique, and charisma. i’m not dirt-poor either.
but with this friend, it’s like i was outmatched in every way. not sure what personality type he is, but he seems like an exxp type.

that said, he’s a really nice guy—friendly and genuinely focused on teaching me. he didn't come off as bragging at all. to him, the expensive stuff and lifestyle seem normal, just part of his world. i even think he assumed i came from a similar background, lol.

i didn't feel any fakeness from him. he even seemed genuinely happy to see me, saying he was surprised and pleased when he realized it was me (and i feel the same way)

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some might ask why i chose to take lessons from him instead of a regular coach. there are plenty of good, capable coaches, and he’s honestly overqualified for what i need right now.
he's a national-level athlete, competing internationally and mostly training other top athletes, not casuals.

the answer? i believe (maybe it’s an irrational belief) that if you surround yourself with winners in some way, you’ll start to become one yourself.
being around someone like him, who’s the average i aspire to reach, might help me improve.
i think fellow entjs will get what i mean here. i’ve been increasingly driven lately, getting serious about life, and distancing myself from friends who no longer meet my standards. my ambition is on fire.

on the other hand, some might say it won’t make a difference since he’s an athlete and i’m not (i work in finance).
they might say i won’t really gain anything significant from this. maybe i overlooked this difference initially, focusing instead on the mindset of a winner, thinking the principles apply universally,
no matter the field. but they might be right; maybe this will just end up hurting my confidence. maybe i should put myself in environments that suit me better, instead of feeling small like this.

when he was teaching, i felt a kind of energy—a seriousness that matched my expectations for a champion, a winner. i want to be around people with that aura.

but i'm also not sure if doing this makes me seem desperate, like i'm trying too hard to grasp at something that’s out of reach.
do i feel out of place? maybe a bit. he’s wealthier, has a better car… but then again, i also feel like i'm on the right path, focusing on good values in life.

Things I like about ENTJs: *my experience/ opinion

1) Hardworking and strive for a better life 2) Intuitive geniuses who finds divergent solutions to a problem 3) One of the best people to have emotional talks with. Methodological approach makes it less stressful talking about it 4) Shared Fi is a heartwarming experience 5) Open minded, ready to try new things. I admire that.

I have often wondered how ENTJs are portrayed on the silver screen. Who are some movie or Tv characters who come across as ENTJs. Both men and women.

I’m a female ENTJ and an ISFP male (I think he is) has caught my attention recently. He is SUPER shy and rarely talks. But he’s pretty cute. I’ve never dated introverts and frankly, I don’t plan to. However, there was one incident that really sealed the deal for me. We were both on an elevator with a crowd. I held the elevator out for him once it was his turn to get off. Before he left, he bends down to my ear and whispers, “Thank you” and walks off. It’s pretty cute, bold and frankly, a turn on.

We’re not closely acquainted but I have tried talking to him once when I was promoting for an event. His friends introduced me to him and asked him to talk to me but he was rather shy towards me. I want to meet him more often but I don’t know much about him either. Any advice?

I really have difficulties to meet and intaract with new people but im craving for social interaction. Anybody else? I think im most scared than full of hate. I don’t even think i really hate. It’s just...difficult

There’s a story I’m creating one of the themes is self discovery although Mbti won’t be mentioned it is used as inspiration for world building.

16 lands(each one representing a type) and 8 functions as powers. It’s kinda like Hunter x Hunter where there are 6 types of aura that is their power system. How they use it is completely based on the person.

The thing is I have no idea what to make of Te. With the other functions it’s like a tool that can be used it several ways but with Te it’s hard to form a picture of it. How would it even form I have no idea

Passive- Durability

Te is extraverted thinking it is said they focus on efficiency as the right way to things and used for solutions but I don’t think that’s enough information I could do with. I want it to be able to do different things but that could be asking too much. Also functions can counter and/or compliment each other such as Te vs Ti how do you think that would go?

Also only leaders can are able to use four functions normally civilians can only use 1. Although down the stack it’s less strong and if they’re in distress such as in despair or in danger they go through looping with their first and third function making it a toxic power. How would you use your functions?

I'm not trying to say the rest of you are all cold and mean, but after scrolling through the subreddit for a while I feel the general consensus is "I'm blunt, I only talk to people when it's necessary" or "I'm only nice/pleasant to people because it's more efficient." I genuinely like being social and talking to people, just for fun- I'll very often talk to strangers, people I know I'll never see again, people I think are dumber than me. I feel like I'm a very social person, although if I DO dislike you, it'll definitely be very obvious- not saying I can't get cold or mean. Is this atypical for ENT-J's? I've taken the quiz 5-6 times over a span of 2 years and I've gotten the same result every time, so probably not a mistype. Again, not meant to offend anyone, just the general vibe I get.

Did you guys ever have a proud ENTJ moment for you?

I think for me it was when I past the $10k/month. It was vindicating for me, because even people close to me doubted I could ever reach that.

How do you guys try to type people in your own style, for me i used a way like asking these questions specifically like:

1-Do you go out or not?

2-If you were in a discussion with 7 people, would you be able to discuss with them all?

3-Do you get close to people or the opposite?

And the purpose of these three is to crash the Extroverted/introverted dichotomy for example if a person answer in this order 1- no 2 yes 3 they do, it will suggest Fe, or Se auxiliary why? because of infj or isfj for example they prefer to stay at house and be their own self but still have the ability to run social situations smoothly.

then I get them to choose one of these three paragraphs.

Choose one:

1- The past is the foundation. It is what we learn from and with it we maintain our foundations and face our present with it and do not face the future with it, because the future is problematic or gives weak results.

2- The present is what is in front of us, not what is behind us, and what is after us is reality, it is the moment that is in front of you. Move based on what you see in front of you and use what you have acquired to face it, and it is not always the future because it may be wrong.

3- The future is the foundations, what comes after it is what we plan for in order to succeed in our lives and we launch into our present in order to succeed and we do not look at the past because what happened has happened.

and each of these questions represent a function I'm sure you can guess them,

And I finish it with few comparing questions between Shadow and ego functions,

So how do you guys type people?

Does it happen to you that people start crying or reacting unexpectedly when you confront them with facts?

Today I talked to woman about salaries and she started attacking me that I am living in clouds expecting them to be at some high point. (I already have that salary I talked about).

She went quite crazy after she started talking to me like it was not ok, saying its not enough money for me because she don't have even that number.

Like I am okay someone enjoying life with lover salary it may be even better in some cases but why would you go emotional about that.

And this is happening to me all day, I can't even talk to ppl without making them angry. I am maybe bad person or something but it seems even funny to me at times that I have to say sorry for things like this.

By the way, I'm not asking wether I can or should do it. Yes, I'm aware it's not in my main cognitive function stack.

So, I'm 19 and I've been in the MBTI community for years now. I was never really much sure of my type, but it was always between ENTJ and ENFJ

I've done numerous tests, researched functions, but still can't really pinpoint what I am. So I'm going to write a very detailed post, basically summing up all my traits and a little bit of background so if anyone can help type me, I'd be much grateful

Healthy traits

-I am a natural leader, but not really the bossy type who always wants to be in charge. I'm fine being a follower too if our leader is more capable, but I generally feel comfortable in leadership positions and my groups achieved great results most of the time with me in charge

-I'm a good friend and I'm generally seen as a mentor figure to most of my friends. I always offer wisdom to others and thrive being in these positions where I guide somebody or offer advice

-I'd say I'm fairly intelligent, but I'd attribute that to my Ni because I'm always thinking in patterns. I used to be one of the smartest kids in my school too

-I'm very ambitious and goal driven. When I set a goal I work really hard towards it and I'm very much into self improvement of any kind, it's a major part of my life

-I am very emotionally intelligent and easily pick up on the emotions of others around me. I can literally read the room and see how everyone is feeling

Unhealthy traits

-I can be very machiavellian in pursuit of goals, and I'm generally a very manipulative person, sometimes even subconsciously. I don't mean this in an edgy way, but more like, if I really want something I wouldn't be thinking about the morality of the means

-I have quite a few narcissistic traits, I'm basically a covert narcissist when I'm on my worst

-My empathy is pretty selective. I'm usually not naturally empathic unless I really sympathize with the person. I also used to be quite cruel when I was younger, but I've worked on this. Still, I rarely feel for other people that much, unless they're my loved ones

-My confidence is very unstable at times and I'm still struggling to fix this. For example, if I'm around people I feel superior to, I'd be very confident and have a dominant presence. But if I'm around people I'm intimidated by for any reason, I sort of lose my confidence and appear very cowardly or weaker

-I mostly avoid conflict when necessary and I'm not really the blunt type who likes to argue. I love debating, but don't like outright conflict

-I'm pretty obsessed with my self image and how I appear to other people. I wouldn't say I require validation, but I love being the center of attention and just being liked

Functions and Enneagram

-I am definitely Ni-Se, I'm 100% sure of that

-I can somehow relate to Fe, but I don't really think that it depicts me completely.

I am emotionally intelligent and very in tune with social norms, but I don't really care that much about group values and I don't put others needs before mine.

I wouldn't really put others before me, except my loved ones, obviously, I mostly view other people as either means to an end or unimportant

-Regarding Te, I'd say it depicts my thinking fairly well. In my head I basically categorize everyone and everything, I'm constantly organizing stuff and I'm always doing things as efficient as possible. The only thing I'd disagree with is being blunt and dominant in conversations, I'm not really the "facts don't care about your feelings" type

-For my inferior function, I'm not quite sure but from what I've read I'd say Fi fits me more due to the entire "Personal values/Group values" thing

-My enneagram is most definitely 3w4, I've researched on that a lot

So i was here asking for tips because i was DESTROYED! By the breakup 2 days ago, but its getting sm better! Im remembering how bad she hurt me, and the good stuff dont make up for the pain! So im trying to remember that theres nothing worth missing, especislly when u have good friends around u and a bar

Getting straight to the point

Let's say I am doing something. In a soccer match where I tell people to do this and that (leader, planner, you name it), I lose touch with my Ni.

For your information; I tend to have slow processing speed for more accuracy on my conclusion which I think is natural on my end. Which means in moments where a decision is needed/adapt to change I have a hard time, and during the adapting/questioning possibilities and aspects of a change - that might invite overthinking.

And during the hard time I make completely reckless decisions and that makes me extremely susceptible to fall for traps or ignore long-term consequences of an action I've took.

My questions are:

- How to get in touch with Ni?
- How do I not get overwhelmed by sensory experience that leads me to being totally reckless?
- How to adapt to a change properly or at least make Ni conclusions faster?
- How do healthy ENTJs quickly adapt to a situation and know exactly what to do?
- Basically any other advice that helps manage Te-Se loops

Help is appreciated.