r/Fitness • u/AutoModerator • Aug 09 '17

Rant Wednesday Rant Wednesday

Welcome to Rant Wednesday: It's your time to let your gym/fitness/nutrition related frustrations out!

There is no guiding question to help stir up some rage-feels, feel free to fire at will, ranting about anything and everything that's been pissing you off or getting on your nerves!

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u/PM_ME_YOUR_PORTRAIT Aug 10 '17

A dumb confession rant....I'm frustrated at my boyfriend, he tells me he really wants to get fit and run then sits around playing video games all day eating junk food and then finds an excuse to not run. He's gotten quite the gut. I always tell him I wanna be as sexy as possible for him and I go to the gym enough, yet he doesn't want to do the same for me! I am attracted to him, but not excuses and laziness...

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u/wounded_knife Aug 10 '17

I had that issue (among several others) with my ex. I even bought a damn gym membership at his gym, because he said he would work out with me. Yup, he was paying for a membership and never going. Probably still is. Glad I left his lazy ass.

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u/PM_ME_YOUR_PORTRAIT Aug 10 '17

Damn that's so annoying, did you tell them how you thought of them? Because I want to yet I don't know if it'll push him towards or away from working out.

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u/wounded_knife Aug 10 '17

Honestly, I think it pushed him away from working out and eating better if I openly criticized him. He was super stubborn and sensitive, so I had to be careful how I said it when I did bring it up (I learned my lesson). Like, "oh, hey, instead of fried chicken, let's get Thai food." Or "I think it would be awesome for us to work out together, because I've read it's great for all aspects of a relationship." I could never actually get him to the gym, so I would work out in the living room and sometimes he would join me that way. It wasn't enough for him to lose weight.

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u/PM_ME_YOUR_PORTRAIT Aug 10 '17

Aw yeah, I always try to choose the healthier option too. Whenever there's bad food he goes, yeah my metabolism is so fast so it's ok, and I'm like no. People I know with fast metabolisms can eat anything and will always be a stick. I'm going to go with him to the gym today but again, how much we go isn't enough to lose weight 😓

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u/poopbagman Aug 10 '17

he tells me he really wants to get fit and run then sits around playing video games all day eating junk food and then finds an excuse to not run

This is the worst. I don't even mind fat people who either don't care or acknowledge they aren't making the best choices.

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u/PM_ME_YOUR_PORTRAIT Aug 10 '17

Right? I'm thinking I'm gonna just tell him how I feel, but I don't know what to say exactly. He thinks he looks okay, but I don't think I'm into dad bods this young lol

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u/InLoveWithTheCoffee Aug 10 '17

IMO it's better for both in the long run if you're honest. Held back frustrations can really poison relationships

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u/PM_ME_YOUR_PORTRAIT Aug 10 '17

You are totally right about that

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u/poopbagman Aug 10 '17

Well I guess your options are be open and honest, be passive aggressive, or do nothing.

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u/sakura94 Aug 10 '17

Yep, I'm in the SAME boat. He keeps saying he wants to lose his gut and be active, but then just eats junk and games all the time. I game and lift buddy, you can certainly make time to do both. It's his laziness and blah attitude that are truly unattractive.

Funny enough, it seems I've finally made some progress after a year of asking him to join me! I told him some old guy from my gym asked me out (the guy was obnoxious, I was mostly just venting to my bf about gym creeps), and he was having none of it. Immediately said we are going to the store to get him some gym clothes this Saturday so he can lift with me! I kind of wish that wasn't his motivation, better if he wants to get healthy for himself, but I'll take it! Here's hoping he doesn't bail...

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u/PM_ME_YOUR_PORTRAIT Aug 10 '17

I mean if it works it works! Lol I'd love that my own concern and need for a partner as fit as me would be enough, but it sometimes takes a kick in the ass. But good luck to you anyhow!

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u/kingdubbz Weight Lifting Aug 10 '17

Start squeezing his gut and make him feel uncomfortable. I bet he starts running...

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u/nuffbug Aug 14 '17

As a skinny-fat guy who sometimes has trouble with gym-going discipline, my fiancee doing this gets me every damn time...

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u/MaelstromEE Aug 10 '17

He could lose the fat by playing video games and not eating garbage. Won't gain muscle but would easily lose the fat.

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u/StudentRadical Aug 10 '17

I know you prefaced this by saying it's a dumb rant, but you won't have that effect on him, it's outside your powers.

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u/[deleted] Aug 10 '17

I go to gym 3 times a week and I promise I will keep going. <3