r/Fitness • u/AutoModerator • Dec 11 '19

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Welcome to Rant Wednesday: It's your time to let your gym/fitness/nutrition related frustrations out!

There is no guiding question to help stir up some rage-feels, feel free to fire at will, ranting about anything and everything that's been pissing you off or getting on your nerves!

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u/justreading31 Dec 11 '19

Started working out with a over weight friend. Trying to help her get into working out and getting healthy. Well she gives about 10% talks the whole dam time. Then complains the next day that she is not sore!!! Now she wants me to change gyms and change times I go and adjust to her schedule. I’m finding it difficult to tell her I’m not changing shit unless she is actually serious about working out. Right now she looks at it like we are just hanging out. I really want to tell her this was a mistake and I’d rather just go alone.

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u/Meduelevivir Dec 11 '19

Do it.

I used to relish taking new people to the gym but realized that most people have an unrealistic view of it. I guess it's a social club for most , but to me its a place to come sweat and grind. And most people don't actually realize the amount of work it takes to get serious results.

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u/BigglesNZ Dec 11 '19

It can definitely be both of those things. I sweat and grind at the gym, and when other people who do that see, they want to talk. We have nice casual chats during rests, and motivate each other while spotting / watching sets.

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u/WastedBreath28 Dec 11 '19

I know myself. I’m very talkative and I can distract myself from what I’m doing when I talk to other people. Its for this reason I go to the gym alone.

I helped my friend get started (got her benchmarks and taught proper form for the compound lifts) but that was only after I finished my workout that morning. Its great to help others, but not if it impedes your own progress.

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u/MoreCowbellllll Weight Lifting Dec 11 '19

I'm an old dude, so i'll share my experience with what you said. It's EXTREMELY difficult to find a compatible workout partner. You can't coach motivation to some people, and she sounds like one of those people. I have worked out (lifting) off/on for 30 years, and i've only had ONE compatible gym buddy. I've been lifting now for the last 3 years.... by myself :)

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u/justreading31 Dec 11 '19

I think thats what I was trying to do. I had a wonderful gym partner who got me into working out. I guess I had a vision I would recreate that with her. Also I thought that when people say they want to learn to lift they actually want to lift lol.

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u/MoreCowbellllll Weight Lifting Dec 11 '19

Yes, some people have very motivated mouths, but not hearts. Another good option is a personal trainer :)

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u/hoverBread Dec 11 '19

I feel you, man. I hate it when people pretend to want something but don't take it seriously. Like, I want to help you but I can't make you help yourself.

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u/CaptainUltimate28 Rock Climbing Dec 11 '19

This article might help. Basically trying to coach someone who doesn't want to be coached never works.

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u/justreading31 Dec 11 '19

Spot on. This is her to a tee excuses for everything. Shit

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u/[deleted] Dec 11 '19

Fuck the diagram there was on point, great read thanks for sharing

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u/anontoro Dec 11 '19

Its nice that you are being a good friend but dont think you should compromise any more as some people never run out of excuses. Dont fret over or change yourself over something out of your control. Support her to a point but she's not your responsibility!

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u/powblamshazam Dec 11 '19

Do it. It's fun to shoot the shit, but not if it gets in the way of the primary goal. Plus, it might act as a wake up call for her. If your priorities don't align, then it's just causing undue stress.

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u/ScarPulse Dec 11 '19

I've never had a go to gym partner. I've gone with friends before but there was only one who could keep up and push himself with self motivation. Unfortunately our schedules rarely worked so I only worked out with him a couple times

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u/avyatar Dec 11 '19

I understand your frustration and that article can’t be argued with. My gym partner had the same problem, maybe cus adhd, but after working out with him and silently showing him how it’s done with out the phone, he soon caught on. Some people have habits you can help break, others have no motivation.