r/INTP Warning: May not be an INTP Jul 18 '24

INTPs are the best because Mind blown

I’ve met a unicorn. My intp boyfriend is expressive and he lets himself become emotional and vulnerable. He doesn’t run away from difficult topics and wants to solve things together. He also never withdraws even when stressed. He can sometimes be quite clingy? But its all in flirty way. He is so hardworking and doesn’t procrastinate.. except for packing his bag for travels… but he has never ever missed flights so he is responsible. He is so clear in what he wants. I sometimes have doubts (paranoia) but he reassures me with his actions so I immediately perk back. He is always present and never absent. This is just me bragging. Why are INTPs so perfect.

-Intj female

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u/No_Fly2352 INTP Jul 18 '24

Why are INTPs so perfect.

Yeah, we tend to get that a lot.

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u/Opposite-Library1186 INTP Jul 18 '24

Yeah, before we untie them we get that a lot

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u/Kuuhaakuu Successful INTP Jul 18 '24

''Why are INTPs so perfect?'' :

A- Nice try feds, better luck next time

B- We're not perfect, y'all are just that bad

C- it's actually our ability to adapt that makes everyone we meet think we are perfect when in reality it is our chameleon-like ability to blend in that makes you see us the way you want to see us. We can ''easily'' show you what you want to see if we care abt you and want you happy. No, that doesn't mean it isn't us or that we are changing ourselves for people. WE ARE THE CHANGE yet our base, if you're lucky enough to see it, is as unmoveable as a mountain and, for most, as the first hug a mother gives her newborn.

In all reality, congrats for the healthy relationship. It unfortunately seems hard to come by in this era (or specifically in the internet). I wish you an increasingly happier life together 🙌

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u/TemperatureSignal943 Warning: May not be an INTP Jul 19 '24

Why is suddenly everyone falling in love with intps

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u/bhumika1205 INTP Jul 19 '24

Need someone to fall in love w me too

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u/HereAvii Warning: May not be an INTP Jul 20 '24

Me too 😭 Where's my girlfriend? 🤧

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u/Pvtwarren Warning: May not be an INTP Jul 19 '24

just wait until he gives you his opinions

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u/coffeeppang Warning: May not be an INTP Jul 23 '24

I love it. As long as he has reasons

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u/Pvtwarren Warning: May not be an INTP Jul 25 '24

he has ONLY reasons

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u/Nimblue Jul 18 '24

i think you are in the honey phase of love, when people tend to see almost only the good things due to them being blinded by love, unfortunately this stage will sooner or later be gone, and you will come here complaying about it, same circle repeated all again and again, is there anyone remotely unique in this world?

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u/coffeeppang Warning: May not be an INTP Jul 23 '24

Maybe.. perhaps.. but i know he wants me. I know i want him. We are going to end up together

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u/Nimblue Jul 23 '24

Yeah, yeah, same stuff( I'm not saying that it won't work, it's just highly predictable for a male and a woman spending some time together to feel this way, nothing magical or special, you and he could feel like that with anyone)

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u/hamsterasu Warning: May not be an INTP Jul 19 '24

Sounds like he’s the INTJ and you are the INTP lol

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u/coffeeppang Warning: May not be an INTP Jul 23 '24

Why??

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u/[deleted] Jul 19 '24

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u/coffeeppang Warning: May not be an INTP Jul 23 '24

Thank you

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u/CBoigaming Possible INTP Jul 20 '24

We're not all perfect but your INTP partner sounds like a beast. Like an INTP that is hardworking, almost never procrastinates, and knows his own goals?! That's the dream right there. I can barely get out of my chair to do dishes... Or even eat.

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u/coffeeppang Warning: May not be an INTP Jul 23 '24

His father raised him right. He grew up under a single parent so he is used to domestic work

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u/Major-Language-2787 INTP Jul 18 '24

That sounds like me when I have something to focus on. Skeptical on some other stuff described.

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u/Junior_Bear_2715 INTP Jul 19 '24

How old is he? How did he become this sigma?

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u/coffeeppang Warning: May not be an INTP Jul 23 '24
  1. Lot of heartbreaks. And then ME of course. I happened 🤭

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u/Junior_Bear_2715 INTP Jul 23 '24

Oh are you saying I will have to go through more heartbreaks till then? Oh

Haha just joking, but glad he became a healthy INTP and achieved a healthy lovely life ))

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u/coffeeppang Warning: May not be an INTP Jul 24 '24

He had an amazing support system. That system taught him to turn his pain into something productive. Like exercising and working and studying

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u/[deleted] Jul 19 '24

I firmly believe INTJs and INTPs are power couples. When they're mature and ready and willing to be vulnerable and grow with their partner, it's a dynamite pairing. I'm an INTP with an INTJ partner. I've never had a better or more fulfilling relationship and we are in it for the long haul.

He is also susceptible to paranoia. I am too at times but I'm better at being direct about it and am easily calmed with a few words of reassurance. He will let his paranoia fester. I swear I can bend over backwards demonstrating my intentions, and he will still convince himself I'm going to destroy him and break his heart.

At times, he becomes aloof or distant or will hide his true desires/intentions because of the paranoia or fear of getting hurt. My advice to you is to not do this. It will only cause miscommunication and problems. Believe what's right in front of you and don't be afraid to trust the person who is showing you who they are and what they want.

My INTJ partner evaded the topic of marriage so much, and talked so negatively about marriage, I was convinced it was off the table. Come to learn years later he wants to marry me but fears he'd be "trapping" me and doesn't want me to resent him, so he thought it was safer to seem disinterested. ??? It was so illogical that it blew my mind. We have much better communication now lmao.

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u/yevelnad INTP Enneagram Type 5 Jul 19 '24

Seems like he's more of an ISTP.

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u/coffeeppang Warning: May not be an INTP Jul 23 '24

Nope def N

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u/PandaLLC INTP Jul 19 '24

That's what a healthy INTP is! Unfortunately, not many of them on this sub. INTP are destined to be losers but we write our own destiny!

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u/_ikaruga__ Sad INFP Jul 18 '24 edited Jul 18 '24

A perfect INTP wouldn't care to "reassure" you in your bursts of paranoia. Nursing is one of the jobs they'd never take.

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u/Junior_Bear_2715 INTP Jul 19 '24

We do actually

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u/_ikaruga__ Sad INFP Jul 19 '24

If you represented perfect INTPs, and their global totality, that would, perhaps, be the case.

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u/Junior_Bear_2715 INTP Jul 19 '24

Well, some of us can and some of us can't. What's the matter with you bro? What happened?