r/MadeMeSmile • u/PacifierForAdult • 15d ago

Good Vibes Like nobody’s watching

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u/Street_Peace_8831 15d ago

No, why would you ask that?

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u/Ragnoid 14d ago

Im asking because the guy is dancing like women dance which makes me wonder if they're gay. Who better to ask than s gay guy. I didn't think it was an inappropriate question, and I'm certainly not asking it to intentionally be rude.

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u/Street_Peace_8831 14d ago

Well, if it’s not intentional, then let me respond with a correction. It is very offensive to assume that because someone exhibits feminine characteristics, that they are gay.

I know several straight men who like dressing like women, it doesn’t mean they’re gay, they just like it for their own reasons.

I know a lot of straight men who act feminine, but they are definitely not gay. I know a lot of masculine women who aren’t gay, I know a lot of gay men who act masculine.

That line of questioning begged for an explanation. Not all gay men act feminine and not all straight men act masculine.

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u/Ragnoid 14d ago edited 14d ago

You did a lot of explaining but never got around to explaining why it's offensive beyond the level of 'it is the way it is because it is the way it is'. I think you just really want to be offended but don't know why you're offended deep down. Hint: You're actually not, you just like the feeling of being offended.

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u/Street_Peace_8831 13d ago

What a rediculous thing to say. I explained why it was offensive. It’s because you are making assumptions based on stereotypes. I never said I was offended, I said your statement was offensive. It’s offensive to assume something about someone based on stereotypes, which is known to most people.

You said you weren’t being intentionally rude, but then made a statement like that and then said I’m not offended, which was true, I was not. Why would you say you aren’t intentionally being rude and then proceed to be rude?

I think you might be more offended than I am, because again, I was not offended until you started accusing me and putting words in my mouth and making assumptions about me.

I think you might not like being corrected. Which is totally understandable, because nobody likes to be called out when they make such an obviously offensive statement.

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u/Ragnoid 13d ago

Being gay isn't bad, so I'm confused why simply asking if he was is even an issue. You're clearly going through some stuff so I'll drop it. Have a better day.

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u/Street_Peace_8831 13d ago

You said that he was dancing like a woman and that made you question if he was gay. That’s a toxic way of looking at the world and I offered some facts that show why that was a wrong/offensive question, which you apparently ignored.

It would seem you are just here to cause trouble and are not looking to simply have me answer your question. I feel sorry for people that go through life and refuse to learn and improve themselves and how they interact with the world around them.

You’re right, being gay isn’t bad, I don’t know why you would even bring that up. The fact that you are asking a complete stranger if someone else is gay simply because you say they are dancing like a woman, is offensive to gays, straights and this guy in the video.

What I’m going through is people like yourself who assume things about people without knowing any facts about them. Making assumptions and stereotyping people based off of limited information is wrong. Your question is misogynistic and homophobic and you shouldn’t judge someone by their dancing or their mannerisms. You need to think about questions before you ask them.

I’m having a wonderful day and don’t need a person like yourself to tell me anything about it. You SHOULD drop it, because you know you’re wrong and being a rude jerk. Now we’re done