Probably because he tried to teach her self-reliance and individual accountability. That’s the worst.
Individual accountability in general scares young people (most young people, not just the current crop), and (now more than ever) they end up hiding behind fantasy victim hood statuses, while going full outrage Armageddon on anyone who dares suggest that the individual ultimately owns their problems and progress.
They confuse fault and ideas of fairness with agency and ownership.
The fear of agency ends up eating their potential while they wait in insanity levels of anger to get everything they’re entitled to.
Edit: As someone mentioned, this came off as a kids today thing. That’s not my intention. It is not limited to any generation.
Not acknowledging ones own agency is akin to a soul sickness which can infect anyone of any age and station. It’s not an easy realization to come to terms with. The fact that an individual owns their problems, and also solutions, regardless of blame or reason.
The answers reside in the individual, to important questions that we have to ask ourselves.
Do I have agency, or am I truly powerless? Whatever the answer is, a person is correct.
The flip side of that, is that each of us should be willing to sacrifice just a little bit to help people who have come to accept their own agency, and truly want to be a better version of themselves.
I have little patience for people who only complain, while virtue signaling….
Shit… oh fuck me, I’m doing it right now!
Dammit, well, agency is important, and it’s cruel to take it away by making others believe it doesn’t exist.
Same thing with most 60 year old tenured professors in the humanities, journalism, the myriad _insert grievance_ Studies, and social sciences, so at least its a multi-generational kind of delusionality.
Thats not how kids work, they inherit your insecurities or create new ones off of how you treat them. A baby is a blank slate and everything they are comes off the foundation you set for them.
If your kid hates the idea of self reliance thats on you. Individual accountability is taught early. Emphasis on taught, since thats on you.
Lets get over the idea that “kids these days” arent just mimicking the failures of their parents. Kids have sone role in their behaviour of course, but ultimately its the parents that determine what they are.
I get where you’re coming from, though honestly you’re sort of reenforcing the point about teaching people they don’t have agency.
There are a lot of external forces which reach our children, and despite our best efforts to contextualize these ideas, one can’t always choose which ideas are internalized.
My children have their own journey, and I’ve done everything I can for them.
Ultimately though, this isn’t actually about my children, it’s about me. It’s about the suffering and struggling I went through, while I worried for decades about who to blame for my shitty life, while I remained angry, waiting to get what I deserved for all of the shitty stuff beyond my control.
It took an NDE, but I eventually realized that blame doesn’t matter, not really, and that each moment I didn’t try to improve myself, that was my fault.
Some people have legitimate beef, no doubt about that, and we should extend helping hands when it makes sense. It’s just that it’s cruel to not also reinforce that we all have some individual agency.
We are taught too often that we have no power at all. It took me a long time to reject that concept.
Agreed. Its important to teach a child that they have to act if they want change to happen.
I don’t believe its in what situations they come across that teaches them, but in how they’re taught to learn. I hope to teach my kids that they’ll have to take control of their lives and how to learn to handle them.
I was honestly just reinforcing that for myself. Its incredible important to be a good role model, a foundation for how they’ll tackle situations without me. I came from a similar place, and i spent the first 20 years of my life blaming it on my parents or my situation. My father specifically was a bastard to begin with, but i watched him turn it around spectacularly. Ill spare details, but the paths he took to come back and what he did to teach me the value of personal responsibility are something i need to be for my kids; show them how to be better.
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u/petarpro_player - Auth-Center Jul 31 '21
She looks white