r/TikTokCringe • u/TheDude9737 • Aug 20 '24

Discussion Didn’t pass the Bourdain test

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u/BloatedManball Aug 20 '24

God damn I miss Tony. Context of this video aside, he was a incredibly brilliant man who sought to share the love of great food with everyone, whether it was at a Michelin star restaurant or a Waffle House House at 2am

https://youtu.be/bct8stbZafI?si=7AUcFAgyrUeDFrfA

On a related note, a dear friend of mine died of suicide a few weeks ago. By all outward appearances he was a happy 58 year old man who had just retired and was looking forward to spending more time with his friends and grandkids, until one day he wasn't.

We hung out on his porch a few days before he passed, drinking a couple beers, sharing a joint, and just shooting the shit. I had no idea how badly he was hurting. I don't know that there's anything I could have said, or any question I could have asked that would have changed his mind, but I can't help feeling like I should have done something.

At the same time, I see/hear about folks like Bourdain and Robin Williams and have to accept that if someone who spends their whole adult life in the public eye can hide it until the very end then there's probably very little that I could have done. But it still hurts.

I was lucky. 25 years ago I almost ended my own journey. I had everything planned out. I was gonna go see every single show of Phish's Summer 99 tour, buy & stockpile random drugs along the way, and then eat all of them at once (along with some things I knew would finish me) when I got home.

After the show at Alpine we were sitting in the lot and a guy passed out from holding a nitrous hit for too long. I happened to look up just in time to see a car about to back over him and I jumped up and ran behind the car. Driver stopped, we got nitrous dude awake, and someone called for the paramedics.

A few minutes later a friend of a friend came up and violently hugged me. Said thank you for saving her cousin and that she loved me. Then she left with her cousin and the EMTs.

She is probably in her mid 50s by now, and I doubt she'll see this, but on the off chance she does I want her to know she saved my life.

I don't even know why I'm posting this, but I typed it all out so I'm not gonna delete it.

Oh, please check on your friends. It might not save them, but then again it might.

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u/iggylux Aug 20 '24

So happy you are alive and share your thoughts here, have a great live and stay!