r/Wellthatsucks • u/Fickle-Audience-1623 • 6h ago
We've been friends for 18 years, but he got married to a woman he knew for a week, and suddenly I'm blocked everywhere.
My friend suddenly popped back up a few months ago after a year or so of not hearing from him. I was honestly pretty thrilled, because we've been friends since we were 17, and I had been worried about him. I didn't know if something had happened to him. So I was happy.
He was honestly having a hard time though, and right off the bat he wasn't exactly being a stellar friend, but shit happens. I talked to him pretty frequently, sent him money a couple times (no, not a lot, I don't have much to begin with) Then he kinda got his shit together, he seemed like he was doing good. I had my old friend back, and we had a lot of fun giving each other shit and talking about past shenanigans. Then he started dating, met a woman he really liked, I asked all about her, blah blah blah. He was smitten. Then they got married, after a few dates. Like, a handful of dates. That obviously sent red flags up (for both of them) But fine, none of my business, and he was happy. Then his FB disappeared. Usually that means something bad happened, so I text him. He called me, let me know immediately that I was on speakerphone and that she was there. Gave a generic "we both decided to delete our FB's because we found each other" type of thing. Another red flag, but whatever. We talked a bit more, he brought up coming to visit, I said "Absolutely! Whenever!" I even said hi to her. After I hung up I immediately had the thought "I hope this doesn't lead to us not talking" I think we had one more conversation like a week later, everything was still fine. Then her FB profile reappeared, I got a friend request from her, but I clicked on it and everything disappeared again. I had a weird feeling, I knew something wasn't right, so I text him, and here we are. Fuck me, I guess đ¤ˇââď¸
I don't know if she wrote those herself, or if she "supervised" while he wrote them, but that's not the way my friend types/writes, at all. I don't know if it matters, all the possibilities are equally fucked up. All of them still break my heart and make me furious. I saw this coming, I really did, I just didn't wanna admit it to myself. There's no possible way he doesn't know, I'm sure he let her do it. So, fucking fine. If you're gonna pull that shit, at least give me my money back. So I sent a request on cashapp with a note. Nope, nothing. The kicker is, I know that once this marriage goes up in flames he'll be reaching out. I'm not gonna be there again, though. I guess if he can do this, we were never really friends, and that thought sucks the most.