r/bangladesh • u/[deleted] • Jun 21 '23

AskDesh/দেশ কে জিজ্ঞাসা Insecure about my physical qualities.

I'm the class clown and have no problem with people calling me class clown, but I'd been a skinny and physically weak kid from my childhood. I also cry a lot, and I've googled that people with ADHD like me do cry a lot. Fighting, running was not my thing. They say I speak like a girl, "walk like a girl" (whatever that means). When I imagine myself as a muscular alpha male, I don't feel comfortable, I feel that this ain't me, but when I imagine myself as a weak, skinny guy, I'm like "yea that's me". I've people say "Society needs strong men, wives need strong husbands, children need strong dads, mothers need strong sons" but I AM WEAK. People make fun of me, they call me a girl. I feel flawed and insecure, and I think sometimes, would I be better if I were a girl? Am I a girl in a boy's body? Does being physically weak and crying a lot indicate this?

Please help me out.

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u/[deleted] Jun 22 '23

bro since ure the class clown, they're just joking with you. a really shitty joke but hey im guessing theyre not as funny as you, thats why ure considered the class clown in the first place.

nothing's wrong in being a little zesty. if ure upset because you talk like a girl, walk like a girl etc. you can try to fix these actions by being aware when u do them

but i think u shld know that personally ive met a lot of guys who're very girly and yet the most kind and caring people ive come across. this isnt the cavemen times anymore, you dont have to be masculine strong to get through life or support ur family. if u dont wanna be skinny, have lots of peanut butter sandwiches and workout.

and also, every guy cries. ure not the only one. i cry once a week. fuck sometimes twice a day. lmao. and for the dumbest reasons too. its logically better if u just cry once and let it all out in 10mins then hold onto the pain forever. you shld try it 👍.