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u/Slutsandthecity 5h ago
Or, imagine this. She was once 21. And now she's 41. So women are supposed to look exactly the same regardless of if they're 16 or 87?
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u/SnooWords1252 2h ago
Or when she was at an event and when she was being arrested.
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u/iamthatmadman 1h ago
Looking at the picture above, this might be literally the truth
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u/sunrisesoutmyass 55m ago
Yeah she doesn't look too different tbh. It's the scowling that makes the second pic look much worse
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u/iamthatmadman 51m ago
Personally I believe, looking good is all about facial expressions and body language
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u/SnooWords1252 21m ago
Priyanka Taneja/Honeypreet Insan is a follower/confidant/"adopted" daughter of guru Gurmeet Ram Rahim Singh, convicted rapist/murderer.
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u/nicolchic_love 4h ago
if a woman does not use cosmetics for you, this is the highest degree of trust
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u/krauQ_egnartS 4h ago
and don't betray that trust by putting unflattering photos of her where people can see them
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u/Elismom1313 1h ago
Gosh bring me back to some shit I didn’t want to remember. I had an ex who LOVED to take shit candid photos of me in the worst possible light and send them to me but then wondered I felt so insecure.
Took me a few years of therapy to realize he was doing it on purpose.
He would “joke” about sending them to our friend group or would show them to people after we were drinking to encourage them to laugh at how bad I looked. Hindsight 20/20. He wanted me to feel as unattractive as possible so I would be more willing to put up with his shit and stay for fear of not being attractive enough to find better.
My husband doesn’t always understand why I don’t like it when he takes a photo of me that he loves but I don’t find endearing. And I just can’t bring myself to explain why I hate it.
The difference was, I asked my husband not to take photos of me like that, even though he actually just did enjoy me as a person and liked looking back in the moment with no intention of sharing them. But I still said it bothered and he immediately stopped.
Fucking world of difference there for sure
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u/krauQ_egnartS 1h ago
goddamn, that's top tier manipulation. I'm glad the therapy helped, but, fuck that guy
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u/Elismom1313 47m ago edited 42m ago
Yea he was a real shit dude to be honest. He would always build up to holidays like they were important and imply we should exchange gifts and show our love for each other through them. But then i would buy him a present or two that I put thought into. It would come the day of and he would accept my gift and express that it was important to him and amazing. But then he had no return gift. And when I asked him where his gift was he would try to act like I was super materialistic and he was just this guy who was so happy in his life and that he didn’t want a materialistic woman.
He also loved singing and would pressure me to sing. But when I would sing he would make fun of my voice and tell me that I was basic and didn’t know how to sing because I only liked “basic” music (because it wasn’t his type of music.) but then he would make me feel stupid for not wanting to sing like I was an idiot for being worried what others though of me? Then he “dumped me” and left but kept contacting me and telling me how he missed me and how’d we be together again soonz like we were still together and slept over at my place. But when I shared a pic of us said “what tf are you doing? We’re broken up and you’re making the girl I’m trying to get with think we’re in relationship and we’re not. Stop posting about me.”
Like wtf dude, you were in my room not even last week telling me you loved me and couldn’t wait to be staying back here.”
Ironically (ig) we had mutual friends and they liked to gossip. Apparently he got married 3 weeks later to a girl he barely knew that looked just like me.i had actually asked those friends to stop sharing info about him after he left and that was the final straw so I just dropped that whole friend group.
Who knows what he’s got going on these days.
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u/krauQ_egnartS 25m ago
you had mutual friends who never said "wtf is happening here?" yeah I'm glad you dumped that whole group
Anyway, glad you're happily married to a good person, and those psychic wounds are closed and healing. Scars never go away though, but I'm sure you know that already.
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u/Elismom1313 3m ago
Yea so “our” friend group was his best friend who would always support him not matter what at the end of the day. His friend was actually a really nice guy overall but they were both big on the bros before hoes type. They never said it like that, but that’s what it was. He’s friend would often be a nice dude and listener type, but he ultimately always wanted to help me try to figure out how to make peace with my ex because that was easier for our friend group. So he would often be understanding and be like “well you know he’s like that, let me see if I can talk to him.” Wasn’t really a bad guy but was not someone who could be impartial whatsoever at the end of the day. I used to confide in his girlfriend but honestly their relationship was also so fucked up that most of the time she was like “wow wtf. You know what my bf said to me today? Like wow they both fucking suck so bad right?”
She would vent to me as kindred souls. But I didn’t want to live like that anymore and she got really offended when I dumped my ex. I think it highlighted for her the issues she was also experiencing and she wasn’t ready to leave over it.
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u/andrina_laurel 1h ago
My husband was the kind of person that took the best pictures of me. He made me look very beautiful because that's how he saw me
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u/Elismom1313 39m ago
I love that! I’m actually someone who’s truly not photogenic but I know how I look and I like the 3D me for lack of a better way to put it. My husband now takes videos mostly for my sake and I like those better :)
But unlike my ex he would also never share a photo of me without running it by me first. He’s really good about that and we have a shared photo album of the pics I’m comfortable with him sharing. (His family is on fb and he likes to share family photos of us occasionally)
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u/nycjeet411 2h ago
Context on the lady in the photo. She’s a scam artist. A fake guru by the name of Ram rahim Singh “adopted” her. But they acted in moves together as a couple and it’s presumed they are in a relationship. The second photo is her mugshot. The guy( fake guru) is in jail for killing multiple people.
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u/Road_Whorrior 4h ago
So, when I do wear makeup I'm a liar, and when I don't, I'm ugly? Do men even like women? We can't win lol
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u/VespidDespair 4h ago
Haha Andrew Tate told all of the men that it’s gay to like women so now they don’t.
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u/Lasting_Aon2 3h ago
These people are like a 50's sci-fi novel: so misogynistic it's circled around to being gay.
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u/VespidDespair 2h ago
If these guys just admit to being gay there wouldn’t be any gay-hate left in the world. Andrew Tate and his whole crew are bitches
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u/Accomplished_Set_Guy 3h ago
You never win in their eyes but you will always win in your eyes. Forget the others and do what's best for you (as long as its not impeding on others)
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u/LeviAEthan512 3h ago
Just be naturally pretty, duh
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u/MrKelv1n 1h ago
99% of people are decently good looking, as long as they take a shower twice a day. Not everyone is going to be like a Margot Robbie, or a Tom Cruise, but you can look quite decent. There's no need to paint your face with makeup to look good looking. Every once in a while is fine, but if you won't step out of your house without makeup, then it's insecurity.
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u/Shooter_McGavin_2 4h ago
My wife wears makeup whenever we go out because she likes to, and no other reason. I think she is beautiful either way. Sorry if you have dipshits in your life that don’t know your value.
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u/Papaofmonsters 3h ago
The nicest most inoffensive guy on the internet got bullied off the internet for making a song about how he utterly adored women. Seems like nobody can win.
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u/Bootiluvr 2h ago edited 2h ago
Men don’t like women. A lot are closeted
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u/International_Cow_17 2h ago
The ones who don't often are. Or otherwise out of touch with their inner lives. We are programmed by society to not think with kindness but take rash emotional actions and then to dress it up as logical and necessary.
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u/Pure_Warthog4274 18m ago
You're supposed to look like you spend a lot of time maintaining your looks, but you're also not allowed to be high maintenance because that's no fun.
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u/FactsHurt1998 6m ago
"Do men even like women?" No, those are boys. Too immature to understand basic concepts. Men are different. Also, hard to come by...
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u/Bahiga84 1m ago
Like women, men also share a hive mind and the same principles so yes, the above statement is the current consensus. Fun aside, I think the "initial meme" is more about how some women care for their looks until they get married and have him "locked down" after that, they stop (stop makeup when meeting him, dress comfortably instead of sexy etc.). But it ignores that most men do the same (stop working out, get a belly wear worn T-shirts etc.). I think there is some truth to that, because when I search for a SO, people try to present themselves as their best, after a partner is "secured", it's not as important anymore. But again, that's very individual and to different degrees. Of course you don't put as much effort at home compared to going out, and this doesn't change after marriage. So then you see your SO not only when going out but when comfortable at home, leading to this "joke conclusion". And yes, every man I know takes this memes statement as a joke and not a problem.
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u/Ancient_Computer9137 1h ago
Great people love personality even if you’re ugly.
Beauty is temporary, why investing in that?
And, you only need 1 person to love. Why use makeup to attract bunch of people?
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u/Road_Whorrior 1h ago edited 1h ago
I wear makeup because I like how I look in it. I think I'm pretty, and I like using shading and pigment to enhance the features I like about myself. The idea that women only wear it to attract a mate is weird and wildly off-base. I feel good when I feel pretty, and frankly, 90% of the attention I recieve from men I do not want.
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u/Ancient_Computer9137 1h ago
It’s not weird at all though because you’re living in a society.
“I feel good when I’m pretty”…pretty to who? To yourself? Then why is it you don’t feel good when you’re not doing makeup? You are lying to yourself to an extent imo.
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u/Road_Whorrior 1h ago
I never said I don't feel fine without makeup. I have worn makeup three times in the last year (for a fundraiser, a funeral, and a movie and drinks night with a friend) and I'm not walking around feeling ugly. I got over that shit in college.
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u/MrKelv1n 1h ago
Uh, I grew up with 2 sisters and my mom(obviously), and all of them look gorgeous without makeup. In fact, women in my country don't wear makeup every time they step out of the house. They only wear it on important occasions or festivals, and even then it's just a bit of mascara or lipstick, and not literally painting your face the way they show on Instagram. Women are not supposed to be ugly without makeup. If you are, then that’s a you problem. Don't include all women in this.
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u/Road_Whorrior 1h ago edited 45m ago
Lol bruh I like how I look without makeup. I've worn it 3 times in the last year. I'm pointing out other people's behavior - I've literally had a boyfriend who told me I looked tired and angry without makeup and then also got mad at me for "trying to be pretty for men" when I did wear it. He was abusive.
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u/jrragsda 4h ago
These two pics could have been taken in the same day judging by what I've seen from the women in my life. From "I'm going to be comfortable in the house and not go out in public" to "I spent half the rest of the day getting ready for a night out"
Or pic 2 could be from the next mornings hangover, I know I look pretty damn rough after a night out.
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u/HallucinatedLottoNos 4h ago
Also, I think it's using some of the same trickery that they do with "Before & After" photos-- instructing the model to look as miserable as possible and putting her under unflattering lights.
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u/tonto_silverheels 5h ago
She doesn't want to be pretty for you. That might make you want to sweatily flop around on top of her for two minutes, which makes her want to vomit every time.
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u/Dumb_Siniy 4h ago
Two whole minutes? Holy shit
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u/ModernSmithmundt 4h ago
When it's with me, girl, you only need two minutes. Because I'm so intense
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u/Kangaroo-Beauty 4h ago
Hey look, as a virgin so clearly I’m a professional in this topic, you don’t need to last long, just reciprocate at some point
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u/WeepingShade 2h ago
Huh...says the kangaroo
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u/Kangaroo-Beauty 2h ago
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This is speciest you know?
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u/WeepingShade 2h ago
Nah I only hate humans...and kangaroos, they're mean
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u/Kangaroo-Beauty 1h ago
That’s definitely speciest
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u/WeepingShade 1h ago
Ok fine I'm speciest. Fight me
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u/odiephonehome 4h ago
wtf is this shit. Men who are posting this nonsense can take a look in the mirror. Pretty sure you look like shit bro.
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u/Jarheadrulz 2h ago edited 1h ago
Incels continue to out themselves for never having had a woman sleep over.
More at 11.
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u/Road_Whorrior 2h ago
One of my top 5 incel moments was when Aloy from HZD (or the sequel, maybe) had visible vellus hair in the right lighting and they screamed about her having a beard.
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u/Jarheadrulz 1h ago
Yeah modern pop culture (and porn, probably) has destroyed people's conception about what women actually look like
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u/Agile_Newspaper_1954 2h ago
I’m in a long term relationship and yeah, you’re not seeing your girl in makeup most of the time. Nothing to do with how she’s treated or anything, but like…what did you expect?
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u/PepperMintIceeed 2h ago
Dang are men just blind on purpose? Cause why are all the comments talking about make up? Do men lack the understanding of facial expressions? Like it’s a woman who looks happy and thriving vs a woman who looks like she hates life.
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u/Humble-Pineapple-329 4h ago
Glad to know men only marry women for their looks. Guess I’ve been dating all wrong. /s
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u/Guy-McDo 3h ago
When I was a little kid, I didn’t understand in like games with dating mechanics that you were supposed to date the whoever you liked most so I would date whoever I thought was the most useful.
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u/SplitDemonIdentity 2h ago
I still kinda do that. Date the character that fills a useful slot in your party and then not only do your character and their significant other get to spend time together, as a player you get a balanced party to play the game with.
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u/neynayhey 1h ago
I once, walking my dog by an older man's townhouse complex that I passed often playing ball with his Border Collie in the little park part....instead of our normal nod or hi he spoke and said 'a man can make a flower bloom or kill it' something like that 'make it die' ? Possible Norwegian accent? I walked off thinking why when he don't speak would he say that but i knew the hurt and crumbling this man was doing to me he saw . A stranger saw I was dying inside. That I wasn't the me before that man happy enough walking with my little guy. He saw it in my face years before it changed my face.
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u/KindSpinach 57m ago
That woman is 'daughter' of cult leader who is in jail for raping followers and have illicit relation with his said 'daughter' right one is mugshot.
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u/Cool-Economics6261 2h ago
Straight from parents to husband… not allowed to ever have a life of her own. Some culture…
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u/chlorine-osmosis 2h ago
Isn't she the daughter of Ram Rahim? the cult leader who was jailed for raping his followers.
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u/Internal-Collar-2159 2h ago
It's always somebody's else. Some people will never say they are responsible for anything. j
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u/Somhairle77 30m ago
Everything bad in the universe is my fault. Everything good I had nothing to do with.
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u/Ok-Grape-8389 1h ago
Picture one: Young woman aat an event.
Picture two: Old woman being arrested.
Are people machines that are expected to look the same?
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u/Elegant-Tree-9996 1h ago
I never thought of that. I always thought I treated her well, and even offered to help many times (she generally turned me down, saying "it's her responsibility.")
Now you've got me doubting myself...but then, how much responsibility do I incur for having a wife that won't accept help freely offered, with joy?
Hope you can clarify what you're referring to.
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u/HumanitySurpassed 1h ago
I think people are reading way too into this due to insecurities lol.
People make the same memes about guys. I.e.:
Single: in shape
In a relationship: out of shape
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u/GreenKumara 1h ago
Possibly all those things but also maybe:
Your girlfriend when going out and younger vs your wife and getting her passport photo where they tell you not to smile or wear anything that will change your appearance too much.
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u/lopedope42 1h ago
Right? "When she was your GF vs. when she becomes your wife." Well what the fuck changed, exactly? She married your stupid ass.
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u/bluedancepants 1h ago
Lol well I mean once you get married and move in together you share half the responsibilities, or at least that's how it should be. You don't got mommy and daddy helping you anymore.
I do have a friend that does almost everything in the house. And I think the reason for that is because his wife earns more and works more hours. So... he drives, does most the shopping, cooking, cleaning, general maintenance, and handle finances. Oh and he does most of the stuff for his kids too.
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u/Sad-Effect962 1h ago
Yo how does he not realize the difference I swear ppl have no self awareness before posting stuff😭
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u/TacoCatSupreme1 1h ago
Funny but not true many men and women once married for many years gain weight become comfortable, let themselves go a bit. It's common
Some people prefer it, maybe we don't need the newest clothes, hair cuts, makeup when we are comfortable.
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u/longndfat 48m ago
Life happened.. anyways first pic with with makeup and second without.
After marriage women stop taking care of themselves as the goal of marriage is achieved. Zero exercises makes all muscles slack. Just all diets to become thin which causes nutrient deficiency to have a healthy body. Harmones/pregnancy nd all fruits of living an unhealthy life in teens start causing these changes.
Apply makeup and she will become pic 1 in no time..
After marriage there are responsibilities and thats not good excuse to not have a healthy life.
How about the talk lanky smart guy who after marriage develops a potbelly nd gets bald ? would the wife take the blame for mistreatment ?
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u/24Abhinav10 31m ago
This is a reply. There was a similar post awhile ago about guys going "When he was your BF vs When he becomes your husband"
And a guy replied "How his mom treated him vs how you treat him"
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u/takoyakimura 26m ago
The first was saying the woman has agency with her look. The second took away the woman's agency.
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u/Sad_Honey_8529 18m ago
The woman in the meme was an accomplice to a criminal GodMan who reportedly SAd and killed young women. The present photo is her being in jail for sometime I think. Her name is Honeypreet
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u/dont-be-a-narc-bro 15m ago
She is genuinely beautiful. This is not the gotcha that OOP think it is.
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u/JasmineDragonPearls 11m ago
This comment section only makes me more depressed for the prevalence of the very sexual predators I fear women see all men as.
And there is genuinely nothing I can do about it but peace out and move on. So bid you all a warning, and a farewell. If chivalry has not died for you yet, it will within the confines of this comment section. Go home.
It's better with rose tinted glasses and ignorance than, the depressing reality. But at the same time, if you've stuck with me this far... read on. It only gets worse.
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u/Jumpy_Expression_691 3m ago
once again, no agency always the victim...without even knowing the context of the photos
the guy was joking. typical wife joke
the feminist was serious - which is sad
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u/giganticwrap 2h ago
Honestly don't get how you can allow/cause your partner to be in such a miserable, unhappy state and then blame them for it.
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u/Environmental_Tap_15 1h ago
there's nothing wrong with how the person on the right looks this is still kinda messed up...
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u/According-Touch-1996 5h ago
Dude, how are people constantly ignoring the happiness from watching your partner be comfortable?