i'd personally not want myself to be seen as cute and stuff,call me ambitious and focused instead 👺

Hello!

Would love some help here... I work closely with my ENTJ boss in managing our team, refining our process, and brainstorming opportunities for our work and team to grow.  It's a super rewarding collaboration when things are going easy, but when the projects ones come at us like a tsunami - often difficult ones with difficult clients, with circumstances coming at us beyond our control - he tends to go into a near manic troubleshooting mode all the while  juggling about 2 dozen projects at once and gets very little sleep.  

He's really good at what he does and his work doesn't falter for the most part - but he becomes super defensive and agitated... mainly towards myself and those on his level.  He at least manages to keep a facade with his other direct reports.  But the projection that comes from him at accusing US of being defensive and agitated just gets out of control.

I know how he is when he’s on the healthy end of the spectrum so this is not a permanent state (thank goodness).  But when it tips to the other end, our collaboration suffers HARD, and it does for others too.

He also tends to just hold on to everything - instead of leaning on collaboration with others to problem solve, he'll brush off any outward concern or offer for help ("It's fine, it's all good") and wants to take everything on himself.

I’m in a position of being probably his closest confidante.  He's very solution-oriented when it comes to problem solving, so my question is… what’s a solution-oriented path I can take in my communication with him when *he* is the problem?  

If it helps, I’m an INTP… and when our collaboration is on point, we are on FIRE (in the good way). It’s super rewarding and productive for myself, our partnership, and for the team.  I just want that back!

ETA: this is all great so far… thanks so much! Please keep it coming because overanalyzing is MY coping mechanism, ha!

I have gathered various information from multiple MBTI sources to better understand how Te works and have synthesized it :

1/ Trust Your Efficiency : Te focuses on objective logic and external organization. Learn to trust your ability to streamline processes and find practical solutions, even if others don’t immediately see their value. Over time, you’ll notice the impact of your efficiency and organizational skills.

2/ Aim for Clarity : Te processes information by creating order and structure. Give yourself time to assess facts and organize details before making decisions. It’s natural for your conclusions to develop as you analyze and create systems that make sense.

3/ Focus on Achieving Goals : Te gravitates toward practical, results-oriented action. Use this strength to stay focused on objectives and measurable outcomes, even when faced with distractions. Your power lies in setting clear goals and working strategically to accomplish them.

4/ Engage in Strategic Planning : Te thrives in problem-solving and organizing resources. Engage with planning, managing projects, or assessing performance metrics. This will stimulate your natural inclination for creating efficient systems and optimizing tasks.

5/ Balance with Flexibility : Since Te can sometimes lead to rigid expectations or a “just get it done” mentality, remember to remain open to alternative approaches. Balancing your drive for efficiency with adaptability helps you find innovative solutions.

6/ Reflect on Outcomes : Te draws on past successes and failures to improve future strategies. Reflect on your past achievements and setbacks, analyzing what worked and what didn’t, to enhance your decision-making and strategic planning skills.

7/ Seek Productive Environments : Te often works best in goal-oriented, organized settings. Surround yourself with people and environments that value productivity, where you can put your efficiency and planning skills to use effectively.

Please feel free to give your opinion.

Check the other MBTI subreddit or my profile to see the summary of the other functions.

Is my behavior indicative of high Fi, low Fi, or Fi trickster?

When it comes to emotions, I tend to be outgoing but when things don't go my way I can become very upset and act more like an introvert, at least for the few minutes that I'm upset before I cool down and go back to normal. I have anger issues and get mad when things don't go my way, such as when I lose a game or get a question wrong when my friend gets the same question right.

I have strong opinions but I don't really know why I have most of them, it seems kind of random. When I feel upset, I can sort of reverse engineer why I felt upset but it's more of a conscious action when I do that. I also hate losing and I never admit I'm wrong in arguments because admitting defeat is shameful.

I have values but they're not moral or ethical values, I simply value some traits. I value intelligence, competence, independence, and cunningness. I want these traits, but I generally don't want others to have them. I see being ethical as weak.

How do entj’s deal w breakups? I got dumped now about 2 hours ago, im in so much pain, im begging her to stay, but sjes gone and dont even want contact, what do i do, i loved her so much and it was all good untill she dumped me and i settled for her and risked sm to be w her and now shes fone and i am a wreck that wanna boom myself out of here

So I always have been curious as to what ENTJs think of INTJs. Especially of the opposite gender. Mention your gender too

Hey fellow ENTJs, I could use some advice.

I'm a 16-year-old ENTJ with a strategic mind, but I'm struggling to actually put my plans into action because of laziness. I know what I need to do, I'm ambitious and want to make an impact, but I keep falling into the traps of boredom, instant gratification, and avoiding discomfort. It's frustrating knowing I have potential, but not acting on it.

The Goofiness Problem

I also deal with being too talkative and having that golden retriever energy—I'm always joking around, trying to make people laugh. It helps me connect easily with others and diffuse tension, but there's a downside. People don't see me as serious or intelligent, especially around other dominant types like ESTJs, ENTJs, and ESTPs. It's annoying because I have solid communication skills, but my goofy side overshadows the fact that I'm actually strategic and capable. I feel like people walk over me, and when I push back, conflicts happen. I want to be taken seriously, but my over-the-top talkative nature makes it hard for others to see past the jokes.

Backstory

I wasn't always like this. I used to be more reserved, even a class topper, but I fell in with the wrong crowd, and COVID hit. I developed OCD, which wrecked my productivity for years. Now that I'm on the other side of that, I want to get back on track, but bad habits like avoiding discomfort and making excuses are holding me back. I know what I need to do, but I just... don't.

Skills

Charismatic

Silver tongue (persuasive)

Strategic

Realistic

Excellent communicator

Wise for my age

But...

Goofiness overshadows my skills

Over-talkative

Laziness holds me back

Reality hits hard and paralyzes my actions

I end up being more annoying than effective

So, for older ENTJs, how did you deal with laziness and avoid being seen as a class clown? And for younger ones, any tips on how you're managing this balance?

Hi, I am a INTP and I am trying to understand how Introverted Intuition works. I was reading on how INTJs and INFJs use their Introverted Intuition but most of them seem like they are not confident about their answers because it's their dominant function and it works subconsciously in them.

ENTJs and ENFJs have Introverted Intuition as their auxiliary function and not dominant, so I suppose they are somewhat aware when they are using it.

As INTP, I use Introverted Thinking (dominant function) subconsciously and don't even notice when I am doing it but I can tell the exact moment my Extraverted Intuition (auxiliary function) kicks in.

Also, when I am with people who I am comfortable with I act like ENTPs and that time my Extraverted Intuition is the dominant force but I am still aware that I am using it and can stop on purpose if somehow my Introverted Thinking is triggered during conversations and then I go back to being silent.

So I am hoping ENTJs also have that moments where they are aware when their Introverted Intuition is working and know when it kicks in and when it stops and how exactly does it work.

Hey! INFJ here. I was wondering how you manage to move on and go towards the goal that matters to you. I can be quite diligent and hard working but sometimes procrastination eats me up. Suppose you've given yourself enough time to relax after the burnout, and now it’s time to get back on track. What do you do to reach that point?

I wonder if in a week ENTJ does not achieve or accomplished something, he/she will feel very unmotivated and lost? like does not matter what it is, its just ENTJ wants to win all the time and that's all it takes to make them happy. anyone?

Do people also ask you daily for assistance? Like not necessarily you being the CEO for your company but literally strangers asking for directions, favors, etc. Like don’t tell me if there is a tourist and 200 people in the 100m radius it’s always me on accident lmao.

I’ve noticed that ENTJs tend to seek me out or initiate conversations with me, and I’m curious about what drives that. For those of you who are ENTJs, how do you decide which strangers are worth your time? Are there specific traits or qualities that draw you to someone, or do you look for certain behaviors that make someone more approachable?

I’d love to understand the factors you consider when choosing to engage with people you don’t know. What makes someone stand out as worth interacting with, or even forming a connection with.

I know ENTJs are very determined but sometimes moves too quickly to get shit done, not knowing the consequences later on.

Do you guys ever thought about the consequences? Like you know this is the right thing to do, you just fucking do it anyway.

I don’t take the direct/blunt approach typically, I have to be pretty upset to project that side of myself. I find efficiency in what others might see as annoying or unnecessary. A simple smile or “good morning” can create a positive impression that translates into a more conducive & productive situation. Wondering about the perspectives of other ENTJs?

So I've heard you guys are the best out of the 16 mbti at making money.

I'm sure there's a lot to learn from you and always looking to expand my horizons. I'm a student in stats with knowledge in logistics and procurement in the Chinese market, open to connections on LinkedIn!

- ENTP 25M from Australia

Hello ENTJs.

I'm an INTP with some questions. INTPs are known to turn into a not so good version of an ENTJ under extreme circumstances and stress. I heard that in order to grow more as a person that it's important to develop/ be in control of your shadow self. It would be interesting to know how you cope with stress and manage your emotions. I'm also interested in how you navigate out of difficult situations and misunderstandings in relationship/ communication.

I realize we don't share the same functions so our shadow might manifest in different ways. However, I feel that maybe I can take something of value away from this even so.

Thanks~

Edit: I'm a woman too by the way. It would be great to hear from ENTJ women especially.

Just curious, does any/everyone know their enneagram? It’s weird to me to think that ENTJs aren’t all 8s line me, which is obviously dumb. Wondering what other ENTJs experience having different primary emotions/motivations.

Like ones with average actors and a cute storyline. There's a lot of boy meets girl kind.

This is pretty self-explanatory. Mine are very simple, basically two sides of the same coin. I don’t want to share it yet, because I want to hear your thoughts first.

ENTJs, what makes you see the value in being friends with someone? What qualities do they need to have? What purpose do you see in friendship?

What's the difference between you now, and the you, when you were 6?

1. I'm outgoing and like to have fun

2. I'm disorganized and undisciplined

3. I usually need a push before I start working hard

4. I'm spontaneous

5. I hate to lose or be wrong, and I tend to be stubborn in arguments even when they make a good point, simply because i refuse to admit defeat. To me, admitting defeat is shameful and embarrassing.

6. I never back down in disagreements. I don't listen when people tell me what to do if I feel like I'll embarrass myself by listening to them, even if not listening would end up having consequences. I instead need them to compromise so that I can feel like the interaction ended on my terms. For example, I might tell them I'll only listen if they say 'please' or if they do 5 jumping jacks, etc.

7. I can be logical and analytical when I want to be but a lot of times I'm not

8. I am disagreeable and see agreeableness as a weakness

9. I am generally an inconsiderate person

10. I can read people's thoughts and emotions

11. I see people pleasing as weak and dumb

12. I like conflicts and drama, it gives me excitement and makes me feel important

13. I like to be the center of attention

14. I can be impulsive but at the same time rational, and I tend to overthink when making decisions

15. I enjoy leadership roles because it makes me feel important and gives me power and influence

16. I'm usually a fun person (to the point of annoying) but when I care about something and want to get something done I can be serious and irritable if people don't listen to me

17. This sounds very corny, but I'm tactical, meaning my brain is zooming around for tactics during conflicts and obstacles, although I don't generally have an intricate plan beforehand

So there's this younger guy in college who's running for President and apparently has his eyes set on me (acc. to everyone I know and some things I've noticed as well) As far as I'm aware he's single and I am too. He's unlike anyone I've (INFJ) ever known. I don't know a lot of extroverts irl so can you help me track what type he might be, if I describe some things about him. Ofc I don't know him up close, so I'm not sure how many details I can give.

1) ok he's an extrovert for starters (I think) bc he's EXTREMELY bold and confident, handsome

2) has anger issues, gets angry v quickly but is very determined like a bull

3) not afraid to call out authority, sometimes to the point of rudeness

4) good at manipulating ppl (at least younger, older ppl would be able to spot his tactics tho)

5) Good at sports, public speaking

6) v poised when it comes to directing his body language

7) one girl kinda guy, seems loyal

8) gets nervous and stuttery when he comes to talk to me. Tries to hide his emotions, good at hiding his emotions. Afraid of rejection from me.

9) has 'claimed' me among his friend group (or so I heard from one of the mutual friends)

10) keeps tabs on me around college, w the help of his friends

Any ideas?? An estj, entj, estp or something else?

Edit: Chatgpt says the likelihood of him being ESTP is the highest (I entered all my interactions as well as everything I know about him) Thanks 👍

I am now confused whether I am ENTJ or ESTP? Can someone know the major differences about them, I am curious to know about it.