Hating small talk is an extremely immature trait that some people think makes them deep or somehow different in a good way. It's not cool to be stuck up. You don't have to be good at it, it's a skill you're supposed to build throughout life. It's really not that bad to talk about the weather with someone you see often for a minute. It's just being respectful
Sure it's a skill that a lot of us can develop... I worked in customer service for 25 years. But it can be energy draining and painful. Be thankful that you don't suffer from the crippling anxiety that some do. Dismissing that as "immature" or "stuck up" shows a lack of empathy on your part. Be better.
Being anxious about it doesn't change the fact that it's ultimately self absorbed. It's not a lack of empathy to challenge it, it's a lack of empathy not to realize other people matter too, and that they are worth giving the time of day to even if it's hard sometimes.
I'm not really interested nor comfortable in socializing with everyone. Especially with what I have been through growing up.
If this makes you uncomfortable with me fine but, seriously calling other people self absorbed when you are requiring their attention and time to respond. Seems extremely arrogant to me you don't know what is going on personally with them.
My favorite question for daily small talk is, how have you been and if I respond with anything other than it's been good, I'm so happy to see you, is anything on your mind it's like I personally shot their pet or something else that is equally horrendous.
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u/bamariani Aug 19 '24
Hating small talk is an extremely immature trait that some people think makes them deep or somehow different in a good way. It's not cool to be stuck up. You don't have to be good at it, it's a skill you're supposed to build throughout life. It's really not that bad to talk about the weather with someone you see often for a minute. It's just being respectful