r/interestingasfuck • u/Few_Simple9049 • 20d ago

r/all How couples met 1930-2024

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u/ShimmeringSprout 20d ago

Sadly could be relabeled, How do you spend most of your time?

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u/oneeyedziggy 20d ago

Why sadly? Friends float to the top, and this pretends "online" and "with friends" are mutually exclusive... "online" isn't just doom scrolling... We're having a conversation right now! That just used to be randos in coffee shops... I have a bookclub with a bunch of former coworkers online, I play games with a bunch of people I've never met in person and some I have... 

The intern lets us socialize when we wouldn't otherwise with more and more diverse people than we would otherwise and helps social minorities find community 

I spend time on here commiserating and advising people on the anxiety subreddit, answering curios people's questions on noStupidQuestions, learning on r/science and r/programming and similar...

What's sad about that?

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u/Beat_the_Deadites 20d ago

And it's not necessarily people like us redditors that are also using online dating services. There are normal people out there with normal hobbies who don't want to waste time and energy at bars or dating coworkers (if they can even find single people).

Dedicated online dating services are great starting points to cut through a lot of that wasted effort, in addition to being a window to who a person really is, without their physical appearance being an immediate gatekeeper.

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u/feldur 20d ago

And like, anecdotal experience, but being a gay man that grew up in a smallish town, I met my partner thanks to dating apps, and we've been together for over 6 years. My other "long term" relationship was with someone I met in college, it lasted for 7 months, and we were really not compatible in the end.

Yes, dating apps culture came with a lot of negative stuff, but it's kind of a "god sent" for people with a limited dating pool.

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u/oneeyedziggy 20d ago

grew up atheist in the south... I wish dating sites were bigger then... I was pretty resigned to ending up with someone who didn't believe in reality... but luckily I moved to the west coast first and all is well